[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Redway

Even then I try not-to until I’ve heard both sides of the story. Sometimes the party who claims to be negatively-affected by someone’s actions did a lot more wrong to them than they choose to admit/let-own and (intentionally-or-otherwise) paint the other person as a total villain. Sometimes it’s a case of them being given a taste of their own medicine (for-example) and them being too emotionally-immature to deal with it without starting a smear-campaign against them in reactive retaliation.

That's why I say it depends, if I have seen the terrible behaviour myself then that's different. If it's hearsay ..then can't really do anything ,as then it's just gossip or a rumour . And I'm not going to start spreading those.

Even when it comes to speculating ,I always try to state that I don't know / or I'm not sure on the matter, especially if it's about people I don't personally know .

[Redway]

Originally Posted by swine

I try (and often fail) not to gossip. Even if what is being said is undeniably true, it's best not to talk badly about others, unless it's for a positive reason, like warning someone about a person lying to them. In my religion we call gossip "the evil tongue" and try hard not to engage in it. I am terrible at following this rule because I'm a bitch. A bitch in progress, though.

I see what you mean. Like I said none of what I’m saying is coming from such a moral-high-ground stance because most people gossip at-least a little and I’m guilty-as-charged (even if only-just) but the difference between me and people who are actually notorious gossips is that the stuff I ‘gossip’ about (on the relatively-rare occasion that I do divulge) either involves things I’ve directly-experienced (as opposed to intrusive/nosy speculations about the personal-lives of people I really don’t have a reason to be doing anything other than minding my own business towards) and/or me having-known the ‘gossipee/s’ for a while and in some at-least-fairly significant capacity. And even then I say what I want to say in closed circles between family and close friends and between us no-one would ever blab to the outside world at-large and tarnish someone’s reputation for what might-well be for no reason.

I think that mode-and-type of gossip is fine but it’s when that basic level of discretion isn’t granted and you get people bad-mouthing people out-loud to anyone with ears that it becomes a problem. When it’s out there Chinese-whispers shouldn’t be anything other than an actual game.

I don’t talk to just-anyone if I don’t have an actual reason to in-the-first-place (or at-least like them enough to even-begin to want to do a bit of free chit-chat with them - and I have a long list of people I really don’t like so coupled with my natural reserve that’s that) so naturally whatever I do end-up saying stays guarded-enough. People with very outgoing/chatty personas might struggle to reel themselves in when it comes to things like that but keeping my mouth relatively-shut’s never been an issue for me.

[bots]

i heard that LT has applied to be a speech writer for Lizzy Truss

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

i heard that LT has applied to be a speech writer for Lizzy Truss

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[Redway]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

i heard that LT has applied to be a speech writer for Lizzy Truss

Yikes.

[Beso]

Nosey joyce is the biggest gossip I know.

Her from across the road from my past, and funnily enough, from my present as well.

Cuddled her for the first time last week.

Because she gossipped so much, I had to avoid going across to see her if I popped up this way before covid.

Bloody missed her big friendly cuddles during covid.

Shes always been a large woman, 78 now. When I cuddled her last week her back was all clammy, and her hair was all wet with sweat. Blinds on the front window still pulled to her eyesight level as she sits slumped in her seat, walking stick at the side, thinking its funny to wind me up by pretending shes about to whack me everytime ai say something innaoropriate.


Her brother died, thays why I went in to give her a cuddle.

But I dont like to gossip, so i will leave it there.

[Redway]

I once-lived with a guy who gossiped so-much it was as-if he’d implanted a surveillance/ironically-B.B.-esque camera honed-in onto absolutely-everybody in his vicinity or who’d ever said a word to him. Doing unprecedented live-feed on the whole neighbourhood (and so-on) is creepy-as-hell in any case but some gossips think their faux-charisma is enough to make you care about the private lives of people you don’t-even know: I have a hard-enough time caring about stuff like that in-connection with people I’ve known less-than 10/15 years, let-alone people I’ve never met and probably won’t ever have a reason to. I understand gossiping to friends about ‘friends’ but when either party’s a stranger (or both-are, even), it’s just like. ‘why?’ Why is so-much saliva being wasted when we don’t-even know each-other like-that?

It goes without saying I absolutely hated that particular flatmate.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Nosey joyce is the biggest gossip I know.

Her from across the road from my past, and funnily enough, from my present as well.

Cuddled her for the first time last week.

Because she gossipped so much, I had to avoid going across to see her if I popped up this way before covid.

Bloody missed her big friendly cuddles during covid.

Shes always been a large woman, 78 now. When I cuddled her last week her back was all clammy, and her hair was all wet with sweat. Blinds on the front window still pulled to her eyesight level as she sits slumped in her seat, walking stick at the side, thinking its funny to wind me up by pretending shes about to whack me everytime ai say something innaoropriate.


Her brother died, thays why I went in to give her a cuddle.

But I dont like to gossip, so i will leave it there.

How's nosy Joyce getting on now, parmy?

[Mystic Mock]

For me it depends on what mood I'm in, plus if the gossip might contain important information that I need to know for my own sake.

If it's silly **** like "Pete was a prick at School" then I honestly wouldn't really care to know that.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

For me it depends on what mood I'm in, plus if the gossip might contain important information that I need to know for my own sake.

If it's silly **** like "Pete was a prick at School" then I honestly wouldn't really care to know that.

The worst type of gossip out there (I.M.O.) involves professional misconduct (and there are things that people might-well need to know but there’s a point where it just becomes gossip that no-one else needed to know about in the first place) and people who’ve observed you for five minutes talking like they know you when they actually don’t and spreading rumours. Those-two seem to be the types that really get people pissed and it’s understandable. Everyone has the right to a private life and to not feel like their personal space and discretion judgements have been intruded on by a near-complete stranger just because they decided to speak on their behalf about things that are either not true or obviously intended to be confidential. When it’s mutual gossip between and about people you know and you’re not saying it to everyone it doesn’t even count as gossip there (like I’ve said). It’s just conversation at that point (in-which other people’s observed lives are obviously going to come into play, but for it to not be speculative toxicity you’ve got to actually have some sort of tangible connection with the person). Dirt-talking/revealing overly-personal details about someone who’s out there trying to avoid you and probably hasn’t had an actual conversation with you (like some people get high off) is very bad form.