[Benjamin]

This is why I never loan anyone money, even friends. It muddies the water far too often.

I think you’ve got yourself lucky there it wasn’t more, and are better off without that type of person in your life. Shame about the pub, but there are other pubs.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

This is why I never loan anyone money, even friends. It muddies the water far too often.

I think you’ve got yourself lucky there it wasn’t more, and are better off without that type of person in your life. Shame about the pub, but there are other pubs.

…and pubs that won’t bar someone without hearing their voice, that’s so shockingly bad of them without even listening to Kate and allowing her a voice…

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…and pubs that won’t bar someone without hearing their voice, that’s so shockingly bad of them without even listening to Kate and allowing her a voice…

To be fair that’s most pubs. They aren’t there to advocate between people’s issues, they’re there to run a business and if someone (rightly or wrongly) is causing trouble/disrupting that business they remove the problem. Plus the landlord/lady may have a better relationship with the other so will generally take their side (although I’m not sure of the full facts in this instance).

[Redway]

Would you consider writing them a letter to state your peace even if they don’t want to literally listen to you?

Originally Posted by Benjamin

This is why I never loan anyone money, even friends. It muddies the water far too often.

I think you’ve got yourself lucky there it wasn’t more, and are better off without that type of person in your life. Shame about the pub, but there are other pubs.

Let’s just hope you never end up being in need. I’d loan someone £200 in an instant if I had it to spare and they needed it more than me.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Redway

Would you consider writing them a letter to state your peace even if they don’t want to literally listen to you?


Let’s just hope you never end up being in need.

Let’s hope so hey. Let’s also hope you never lend a friend money and get screwed over.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Let’s hope so hey. Let’s also hope you never lend a friend money and get screwed over.

amen

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Let’s hope so hey. Let’s also hope you never lend a friend money and get screwed over.

That’s never happened to me. I’m not really interested in your reasoning behind justifying your selfishness but all I know is that a genuine friend in need is a friend indeed. We all go through tough times and I’d rather be remembered as the person who helped rather than the one who gave silly excuses.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Redway

That’s never happened to me. I’m not really interested in your reasoning behind justifying your selfishness but all I know is that a genuine friend in need is a friend indeed. We all go through tough times and I’d rather be remembered as the person who helped rather than the one who gave silly excuses.

You’ll see how it feels if it ever happens to you. Come back and see me with your thoughts then. Until then you have no right to judge me on this topic.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Redway

That’s never happened to me..

quite the call

[GiRTh]

Originally Posted by Redway

That’s never happened to me. I’m not really interested in your reasoning behind justifying your selfishness but all I know is that a genuine friend in need is a friend indeed. We all go through tough times and I’d rather be remembered as the person who helped rather than the one who gave silly excuses.

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But a friend with weed is better

Its good you trust people but be careful with that. You'd be surprised what people will do to get their hands on a few quid. More like stunned

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Redway

That’s never happened to me. I’m not really interested in your reasoning behind justifying your selfishness but all I know is that a genuine friend in need is a friend indeed. We all go through tough times and I’d rather be remembered as the person who helped rather than the one who gave silly excuses.

It's not selfish not to hand over money that's ridiculous to say. What is selfish however, is going cap in hand expecting people to bail you out due to your own incompetence

[Crimson Dynamo]

Id imagine there is a backstory here we are not privy to...

[GiRTh]

Take Ammi's advice

[UserSince2005]

I’d smash the pub up. The absolute cheek

[Crimson Dynamo]

sorry are we all just believing spooon fed data?

lol

come on people

[Dogeatdog]

This is why I don’t lend/ give out money. Just ends up getting you into messy situations.

[bots]

Family, i would lend/give to in an instant if i could help, but no-one else. There are just too many scammers out there that take advantage of well meaning people and they can be very convincing

[Kate!]

I've spoken with Citizens Advice and they said I have a case, they are going to recommend me a legal aid solicitor. I'm seriously thinking about it.

[Ammi]

…well done, Kate…it’s good to channel focus into being pro-active…I don’t know what the case would be but just take some ‘cooling down time’ also and ask enough questions to be aware of what it all involves and be sure that’s the direction that you’re happy to go in…it’s all your decision…

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…well done, Kate…it’s good to channel focus into being pro-active…I don’t know what the case would be but just take some ‘cooling down time’ also and ask enough questions to be aware of what it all involves and be sure that’s the direction that you’re happy to go in…it’s all your decision…

Yeah I have to consider whether I really want to put myself through the stress, but I do feel very strongly about the injustice.of it all.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Kate!

Yeah I have to consider whether I really want to put myself through the stress, but I do feel very strongly about the injustice.of it all.

…yeah, I do get that…it’s good to step back from the heat of those feelings, though and take some time to think it through and talk it through with someone who can advise you accurately what involvement it will have for you…it’s your decision as to whether it’s an injustice you want to pursue legally or leave or not…

[Dogeatdog]

Originally Posted by Kate!

I've spoken with Citizens Advice and they said I have a case, they are going to recommend me a legal aid solicitor. I'm seriously thinking about it.

I wouldn’t even bother going down this route and I’m kinda struggling how there can be some sort of case here tbh.

If I were you Kate and apologies for sounding blunt but I’d cut ties with the so called “friend” because she must be a pretty awful person to do something like that and just find a different pub to go to. There must be other pubs local to you that you can enjoy?

Wouldn’t bother trying to take this further or anything because it’s more hassle for you than what it’s actually worth. (Just my opinion of course )

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Dogeatdog

I wouldn’t even bother going down this route and I’m kinda struggling how there can be some sort of case here tbh.

If I were you Kate and apologies for sounding blunt but I’d cut ties with the so called “friend” because she must be a pretty awful person to do something like that and just find a different pub to go to. There must be other pubs local to you that you can enjoy?

Wouldn’t bother trying to take this further or anything because it’s more hassle for you than what it’s actually worth. (Just my opinion of course )

I agree with Dog, it’ll be more hassle than it’s worth and may not even bring you any outcome you’re hoping for.

[bots]

A case for what?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by bots

A case for what?

Getting barred oot the Clansman for illegal payday loans of course!