[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

This is why I never loan anyone money, even friends. It muddies the water far too often.

I think you’ve got yourself lucky there it wasn’t more, and are better off without that type of person in your life. Shame about the pub, but there are other pubs.

…and pubs that won’t bar someone without hearing their voice, that’s so shockingly bad of them without even listening to Kate and allowing her a voice…

[GiRTh]

Take Ammi's advice

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…and pubs that won’t bar someone without hearing their voice, that’s so shockingly bad of them without even listening to Kate and allowing her a voice…

To be fair that’s most pubs. They aren’t there to advocate between people’s issues, they’re there to run a business and if someone (rightly or wrongly) is causing trouble/disrupting that business they remove the problem. Plus the landlord/lady may have a better relationship with the other so will generally take their side (although I’m not sure of the full facts in this instance).

[Redway]

Would you consider writing them a letter to state your peace even if they don’t want to literally listen to you?

Originally Posted by Benjamin

This is why I never loan anyone money, even friends. It muddies the water far too often.

I think you’ve got yourself lucky there it wasn’t more, and are better off without that type of person in your life. Shame about the pub, but there are other pubs.

Let’s just hope you never end up being in need. I’d loan someone £200 in an instant if I had it to spare and they needed it more than me.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Redway

Would you consider writing them a letter to state your peace even if they don’t want to literally listen to you?


Let’s just hope you never end up being in need.

Let’s hope so hey. Let’s also hope you never lend a friend money and get screwed over.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Let’s hope so hey. Let’s also hope you never lend a friend money and get screwed over.

amen

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Let’s hope so hey. Let’s also hope you never lend a friend money and get screwed over.

That’s never happened to me. I’m not really interested in your reasoning behind justifying your selfishness but all I know is that a genuine friend in need is a friend indeed. We all go through tough times and I’d rather be remembered as the person who helped rather than the one who gave silly excuses.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Redway

That’s never happened to me. I’m not really interested in your reasoning behind justifying your selfishness but all I know is that a genuine friend in need is a friend indeed. We all go through tough times and I’d rather be remembered as the person who helped rather than the one who gave silly excuses.

You’ll see how it feels if it ever happens to you. Come back and see me with your thoughts then. Until then you have no right to judge me on this topic.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Redway

That’s never happened to me..

quite the call

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

You’ll see how it feels if it ever happens to you. Come back and see me with your thoughts then. Until then you have no right to judge me on this topic.

I have every right to pass passing judgement based on the contextual input I do have. Like it, don't like it. That is not my problem. You have every right to not like it but I have every right to comment in the first place.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Redway

I have every right to pass passing judgement based on the contextual input I do have. Like it, don't like it. That is not my problem.

No but you seem to like to make things a problem. Guess that’s just the type of person you are.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

No but you seem to like to make things a problem. Guess that’s just the type of person you are.

If you knew me you wouldn’t have to guess. You’d just know what be-gwanin. either way.

[UserSince2005]

I’d smash the pub up. The absolute cheek

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

No but you seem to like to make things a problem. Guess that’s just the type of person you are.

If a friend needed money for food would you lend them some or let them go hungry?

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Redway

If you knew me you wouldn’t have to guess. You’d just know what be-gwanin. either way.

Sounds like you’re trying to convince yourself that more than me. But how about next time rather than a character breakdown of a person on a comment they post you just explain why you’d be different. Will get you a lot further in a conversation.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

If a friend needed money for food would you lend them some or let them go hungry?

I’d cook for them. And see what provisions I had for them as I have done before.

I’d also point them to places which could help them long-term.

[GiRTh]

Originally Posted by Redway

That’s never happened to me. I’m not really interested in your reasoning behind justifying your selfishness but all I know is that a genuine friend in need is a friend indeed. We all go through tough times and I’d rather be remembered as the person who helped rather than the one who gave silly excuses.

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But a friend with weed is better

Its good you trust people but be careful with that. You'd be surprised what people will do to get their hands on a few quid. More like stunned

[Cherie]

I am very confused Kate, so you lent her 25 quid, then she gave you a tenner to treat yourself and the argument started over what exactly? Are you sure you didn't all have too many vinos

[Crimson Dynamo]

sorry are we all just believing spooon fed data?

lol

come on people

[GiRTh]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

I’d cook for them. And see what provisions I had for them as I have done before.

I’d also point them to places which could help them long-term.

This.

[Dogeatdog]

This is why I don’t lend/ give out money. Just ends up getting you into messy situations.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by GiRTh

Youtube video

But a friend with weed is better

Its good you trust people but be careful with that. You'd be surprised what people will do to get their hands on a few quid. More like stunned

It’s not about trusting the whole world but just knowing and accepting that anyone can fall into hard times financially (a pretty universal human experience). I’m more inclined to want to do something about it so long as boundaries are respected and I can comfortably spare the amount they need. People being in need is no myth.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

I’d cook for them. And see what provisions I had for them as I have done before.

I’d also point them to places which could help them long-term.

……

…long term help that will maybe lead to that person not having consider a loan etc is the most valuable help …

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Ammi

……

…long term help that will maybe lead to that person not having consider a loan etc is the most valuable help …

Yeah not a loan or credit card haha.

[Redway]

Anyway. I guess everyone has their own boundaries and principles about money. Me, my social boundaries are tighter than my financial ones and not being able to give is more indicative of lack of disposable funds on my part than an unwillingness to give or worry that I’m being duped over. That’s a risk that I take when I can afford to. At the end of the day everyone needs money, and people do struggle.