[arista]

She was just on Daybreak ITV1HD


The happy 14 year old
seems fine with the line she must not cross

After 3 warnings
they get a Smack,
thats fair.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by arista

She was just on Daybreak ITV1HD


The happy 14 year old
seems fine with the line she must not cross

After 3 warnings
they get a Smack,
thats fair.

..well, that's debatable..and just because she 'seems' fine with it doesn't necessarily mean the situation was handled right by her mother...of course, it also doesn't mean it was wrong either...for me personally, I feel that, it may not do any permanent 'damage' but then the next generation may do the same and the next etc...and there are other ways which aren't always tried first because people react to a situation, 'in the heat of the moment' kind of thing...

..anyway, I'm going to opt out of this thread now because I don't want to offend anyone that I'm saying they have bad parents or anything..I don't think that at all...I'm really just commenting on this particular situation and what happened...but yeah, in general, I don't support the 'smacking option'...but I know it's usually not meant with any sort of intent and is used occasionally by very loving parents.....for me, it's more to do with what I do as a job and feeling there are other ways to communicate how unacceptable someone's behaviour is, but I know that's 'easier said than done' when situations arise like this....

[SharkAttack]

Still a decent thread because it sort of brings together some past issues the older members of this club have perhaps gone through and current ones that our younger generations represent, similar or not. I was raised proudly as a Livia and now parent like an Ammi. Took a few wooden spoons to the backside at a young age, perhaps 7 or 8 (twice or thrice) and one lethal smack straight across the face at 14ish when I said something to my mother at the dinner table about the food she had painstakingly prepared, that was so well-deserved that I would have smacked myself if I had said it now. It was the only time she had lain a bare hand upon me, and the last. She cried for about a week afterwards. In fact, it was me giving apologies afterwards.

Nowadays, it's me talking the kids down from the ceiling, at times, and there is *so* much talking. My God, we talk things through like marriage counselors attempting to repair failing unions. I do sometimes think a light smack in the backside would work wonders, but I don't do that.

Also, the smack across the legs after the near-accident of losing your child to traffic is entirely different. It's like "I DONT *********G want to lose you like this, here or ever, don't ever go out like that again!!" There's more love/fear/adrenaline in that than anything. I *want* that kind of a parent.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by SharkAttack

Still a decent thread because it sort of brings together some past issues the older members of this club have perhaps gone through and current ones that our younger generations represent, similar or not. I was raised proudly as a Livia and now parent like an Ammi. Took a few wooden spoons to the backside at a young age, perhaps 7 or 8 (twice or thrice) and one lethal smack straight across the face at 14ish when I said something to my mother at the dinner table about the food she had painstakingly prepared, that was so well-deserved that I would have smacked myself if I had said it now. It was the only time she had lain a bare hand upon me, and the last. She cried for about a week afterwards. In fact, it was me giving apologies afterwards.

Nowadays, it's me talking the kids down from the ceiling, at times, and there is *so* much talking. My God, we talk things through like marriage counselors attempting to repair failing unions. I do sometimes think a light smack in the backside would work wonders, but I don't do that.

Also, the smack across the legs after the near-accident of losing your child to traffic is entirely different. It's like "I DONT *********G want to lose you like this, here or ever, don't ever go out like that again!!" There's more love/fear/adrenaline in that than anything. I *want* that kind of a parent.

..great post SA.......I'm sure you're both a son and a father to be proud of....

[arista]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..great post SA.......I'm sure you're both a son and a father to be proud of....

Look its the Poster that said she is leaving the thread
and has returned


"anyway, I'm going to opt out of this
thread now because I don't want to offend "

[Ammi]

..not to comment on the topic Arista...please don't be rude, it isn't necessary...

[SharkAttack]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..great post SA.......I'm sure you're both a son and a father to be proud of....

Thank you, Ammi.

And Arista? ... love you.

[Kizzy]

I don't think I slapped my daughter untill she hit 14 tbh.....teens are enough to test the patience of a saint haha