[Will.]

Latest statistics (published December 2012) estimate that 42% of marriages in England and Wales end in divorce. It is also estimated that: 34% of marriages are expected to end in divorce by the 20th wedding.

Divorce has decreased over the years.

[Smithy]

No?

I don't think anyone gets married with the intention of getting a divorce, I think decades ago divorce was almost a taboo subject now it's widely accepted and more common

[Alf]

Originally Posted by Smithy

No?

I don't think anyone gets married with the intention of getting a divorce, I think decades ago divorce was almost a taboo subject now it's widely accepted and more common

It's not widely accepted by the children who's parents divorce.

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by wannashag

It's not widely accepted by the children who's parents divorce.

Well that's a shame, but it's not their choice and it's unfair to stay together in an unhappy relationship for the sake of the children

[Cal.]

[MTVN]

Yes

[Kizzy]

I think it's given up on too easily, I love hearing about people who get back together following a divorce.

[Vicky.]

I don't think most people need a piece of paper to show how much they love each other anymore

And I say that as someone who is getting married in 2 months

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I don't think most people need a piece of paper to show how much they love each other anymore

And I say that as someone who is getting married in 2 months

Really?! Aw lovely, congrats vicky xx

For me if you have kids it's a must it gives both parties gravitas, nobody is walking away.....

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I don't think most people need a piece of paper to show how much they love each other anymore

And I say that as someone who is getting married in 2 months

Congratulations to you both Vicky.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I don't think most people need a piece of paper to show how much they love each other anymore

And I say that as someone who is getting married in 2 months

I take it my invite is in the post.

[Denver]

Marriage is the most pointless thing ever

[Jamie89]

Originally Posted by Adam.

Marriage is the most pointless thing ever

I agree. If people want to get married then that's great, and I love weddings and everything, but it's pointless in the sense that it's not needed. Like, everyone who's in a happy marriage, they'd still be happy with their partner if they weren't married, surely??? I'd probably still get married though, but just for the sake of it, and because everyone else in my family is married or engaged and I don't want to be the odd one out , but not because I think it has meaning.

[smudgie]

Totally up to the individual.
My parents divorced(very messy) when I was 16/17 , best thing they ever did for us kids.

I was with hubby 5 years to the day before we tied the knot, must say we are as happy and as much in love as ever, after all these decades together I reckon the love just gets deeper. The secret is not to rush into it, hubby was my 5th proposal, thank goodness I was picky

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Depends who you marry and their culture and upbringing.

[DemolitionRed]

Congrats Vicky, how exciting

Marriage doesn't suit everyone and not everyone's love lasts forever. I'm happily married so I'm certainly not going to agree with someone like Adam.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

Congrats Vicky, how exciting

Marriage doesn't suit everyone and not everyone's love lasts forever. I'm happily married so I'm certainly not going to agree with someone like Adam.

This.

[Ashley.]

Marriage used to be a traditional religious ceremony that more often than not took place in a church and was not something that was done out of love, but to distribute distinct roles as husband and wife. It's definitely lost its meaning, because people are no longer relying on religious beliefs and even if people do marry, it's more likely to take place in a registry office. And the most important thing is that it's done to express love and trust, not because it's the traditional thing to do unless of course you're religious.

There could be many reasons for the increase in divorce rate. One being that there is less of a stigma attached to being a divorcee and it's no longer an idea that is shunned. I'll also contradict myself and say that some people don't even marry to express love and trust, they just want to have "that day" and look pretty in a white dress or a black suit, and be the centre of attention. Then you get past the honeymoon period and realise "****, do I really want this?" and then the marriage turns sour and eventually comes to a bitter end.

Since 1970, Divorce has changed from a last resort to a quick getaway option. And it's really quite sad. However, think of all the women all those years ago who were in abusive relationships and couldn't get divorced? Now, at least they have the chance.

[Ashley.]

That was a longer post than I thought, sorry.

[Johnnyuk123]

You do not need a piece of paper to prove your undying love for someone.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Johnnyuk123

You do not need a piece of paper to prove your undying love for someone.

You shouldn't have to prove anything. A lot of people believe that's exactly what marriage is, that it's all about making it "official" and having it written down, as if the concept of getting married will change your emotions within the relationship.

I've always said that you can't relight a candle if there's no more wax. Marriage may feel brilliant at the time but it's not going to fix anything permanently and shouldn't be used in that way.

[Johnnyuk123]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

You shouldn't have to prove anything. A lot of people believe that's exactly what marriage is, that it's all about making it "official" and having it written down, as if the concept of getting married will change your emotions within the relationship.

I've always said that you can't relight a candle if there's no more wax. Marriage may feel brilliant at the time but it's not going to fix anything permanently and shouldn't be used in that way.

I agree with you.Great post!

[Niamh.]

Depends on the people I guess.

[arista]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Depends on the people I guess.

Church?

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by arista

Church?

eh?