[Redway]

Okay. In between telling us how your Ijebu friend’s wife’s food sucked at that BBQ just to spite people, being a known alkie and openly-admitting to doing the dirty with your own brother there are tons of things you’ve said over the years that make it hard to take you seriously as a voice of morality and uniform life experiences but you do you.

I don’t do 4-packs at the park. It might be alright for you but I’ve actually got principles and a certain degree of class. You won’t find me in the middle of Essex in the morning looking for a house-party well into my 50s. Not my style.

[Redway]

Also, expressing a bit of natural wanting to have the resources to do more outdoors-y stuff on the weekend doesn’t make me dirt-poor. It just means I’ve got my priorities in check life-wise but wouldn’t mind exploring a bit more. That just makes me a responsible person in a somewhat tight temporary situation. It doesn’t erode me of class and high standards altogether. Far from it.

Again, it’s best not to make assumptions about strangers. I bet you haven’t seen the inside of a Waitrose or even big Asda in a while (if ever) but those are some of my niche spots I shop at from time to time. Park-bencher I couldn’t be any further-removed from. But you’re welcome to talk about yourself and your own dirty habits. Just don’t think everyone’s the same as you. By all means call me arrogant, passive-aggressive, intolerant and the full works. Side with prejudiced trolls. But at the end of the day people’s perceptions about you should carry the same weight as their interpersonal proximity with you and we don’t know each other from a bottle of milk so speculating about people’s characters won’t get you far. Especially when there’s so much dirt on you.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Redway

Okay. In between telling us how your Ijebu friend’s wife’s food sucked at that BBQ just to spite people, being a known alkie and openly-admitting to doing the dirty with your own brother there are tons of things you’ve said over the years that make it hard to take you seriously as a voice of morality and uniform life experiences but you do you.

I don’t do 4-packs at the park. It might be alright for you but I’ve actually got principles and a certain degree of class. You won’t find me in the middle of Essex in the morning looking for a house-party well into my 50s. Not my style.

It wasnt the food...if you remember correctly it was the African non alcoholic guiness type drink..which was rank. A known alky, fair enough ai like a drink, and took my fair share during covid, but I still worked monday to friday keeping many many Londoners happy. ..the brother things funny, and strange as I only remember posting his photo and saying how handsome he was.

As for me trying to be righteous about life morals, you are wrong, I was trying to give you some friendly advice, wish I hadnt, and wished I had trusted my very first opinion on you, cause you are indeed a pathetic ****.

You wont find me wandering essex for a party, maybe some east London roundabouts after a house party, but that's just having a good night in my eyes..A story worthy of telling..

We could all sit in a park on a sunny day with certain makes of lager in our hands and ask tibb what they think of them....but that's a bit tacky and scummy imo..

If your going to go for it, dont waste it in a park during it..save that for when the experience takes you there at the end of it....most of all dont ignore your surroundings whilst out there just to post on tibb, unless it's a train journey.

And also, grow the **** up and respect your elders..didnt belt you hard enough, did they.

[Redway]

Again, you don’t know me well enough to tell me who I am. Your opinions about me are as relevant as the Sahara Desert is to Antarctica.

But feel free to go off. Okay?

[Beso]

I know your parents failed you by not beating some respect into you.

[Redway]

You don’t know nothing.

Respect is earned. Drop racist jibes in the name of harmless bait and take up a tone of unwarranted condescension and you won’t get a drop of respect from me. It has to be earned. I don’t care how old or young you are.

[Redway]

Again, you only know what you know. Between us it’s just assumptions and ignorance. You don’t know the first thing about me.

[Redway]

Okay.

[Redway]

How did this thread even get so many views?

[Beso]

Almighty God, I ask you to send your angels to be with me in this place, and protect me from all assaults of the Evil One. Please forgive any wrong that has been perpetuated in this room, and grant those who offend you the grace of conversion. Dispel the powers of darkness that may be in this room and protect me this night, and those who will sleep here in the forthcoming nights. Jesus, I trust in You!

[Redway]

I’m obviously not accepting that friend request either.

How low can you stoop in one night?

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Redway

I’m obviously not accepting that friend request either.

How low can you stoop in one night?

I only did it cause you seem to have fallen out with yourself tonight and decided to take it out on others..felt bad for you losing your only friend
.

[Redway]

There’s never been a time on here where I considered you to be anything like a forum buddy, let alone friend. Try not to flatter yourself.

That doesn’t mean I don’t think you’re an okay chap deep down. But let’s just respect ourselves in the meantime. M’kay?

[Redway]

Then again there’s no harm in actually getting to know someone a bit better and letting go of old pain and frustration.

I might just be prepared to give you a chance. Let’s just draw a line under all this because it’s actually given me a headache.

By the way, the drink you’re talking about is Malta Guinness and I agree that it’s not terribly-palatable (I don’t mind it but it’s not my favourite). You might want to try Supermalt. Your local Tesco will have it if you’re lucky.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Redway

Then again there’s no harm in actually getting to know someone a bit better and letting go of old pain and frustration.

I just might be prepared to give you a chance. Let’s just draw a line under all this because it’s actually given me a headache.

By the way, the drink you’re talking about is Malta Guinness and I agree that it’s not terribly-palatable (I don’t mind it but it’s not my favourite). You might want to try Supermalt. Your local Tesco will have it if you’re lucky.

Heavenly Father, thank You. Thank You for being everything to me and for me. You are faithful! You are concerned with everything that concerns me. I am grateful for Your Holy Spirit that comforts me during times of fear and doubt. Thank You for everything that You’ve done for me; seen and unseen. I will praise Your name, forever! In Jesus’ name, Amen.

[user104658]

This thread was just the rollercoaster I needed to perk me up for work this morning. Who needs coffee?

Anyway, on the thread topic, my youngest daughter has complex learning disabilities and language issues meaning that without very specialist childcare, only me and my wife (and her school… ish) can actually look after her. If I was mega-rich we would probably have a specialist nanny of some sort. And then we could socialise AT ALL, rather than pretty much zero .

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

This thread was just the rollercoaster I needed to perk me up for work this morning. Who needs coffee?

Anyway, on the thread topic, my youngest daughter has complex learning disabilities and language issues meaning that without very specialist childcare, only me and my wife (and her school… ish) can actually look after her. If I was mega-rich we would probably have a specialist nanny of some sort. And then we could socialise AT ALL, rather than pretty much zero .

What’s the nature of her difficulties if you don’t mind me asking?

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Redway

What’s the nature of her difficulties if you don’t mind me asking?

Officially ASD, PDA, some anxiety issues in recent years and she's learning disabled specifically related to language mostly. I personally believe she may have brain injury (traumatic birth, the cord was tight around her neck for an indeterminate amount of time) and I think that most of her issues essentially come down to language and communication and associated confusion/frustration. She's a bit of an "odd case" in that she has significant learning disability in terms of "normal education" but is actually an extremely fast & proficient learner at any non-verbal task (tech use, she uses design apps proficiently, her drawing skills etc. are age approproate), high problem solving ability, and while there's significant "formal learning" and social delay there's basically no developmental delay (her likes and interests, TV and music tastes, and attitude ... lol ... are all very age appropriate for a 9 year old).

tl;dr I'm not 100% on her official diagnoses, but further investigations would be intrusive and distressing so just not worth exploring at this point. It wouldn't really change any of the approaches at present. Again might be something we explore as she approaches adulthood.

[Redway]

Bless her. What do you think the odds are of her attaining independence once she’s an adult?

For what it’s worth I think she sounds like a really bright girl (in her own way). One thing I’ve gotten to know over the years is that there’s always a lot more to people in general than what meets the eye. An outsider is never going to get the full picture so I don’t write off even people with diagnosed learning difficulties. They might actually be super-smart in a way that they just can’t express to us.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Redway

Bless her. What do you think the odds are of her attaining independence once she’s an adult?

For what it’s worth I think she sounds like a really bright girl (in her own way). One thing I’ve gotten to know over the years is that there’s always a lot more to people in general than what meets the eye. An outsider is never going to get the full picture so I don’t write off even people with diagnosed learning difficulties. They might actually be super-smart in a way that they just can’t express to us.

She'll never live fully independently unfortunately, her language abilities progress all the time but she'll never have full communication and will always be classed as vulnerable.

[user104658]

Her anxiety levels have upped lately so it's something we might have to reconsider at some point - however with her age (almost 10) it's worth waiting out for a bit to see if it's temporary and hormone related.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Her anxiety levels have upped lately so it's something we might have to reconsider at some point - however with her age (almost 10) it's worth waiting out for a bit to see if it's temporary and hormone related.

Mhm, I suppose a med. trial wouldn’t really hurt at any age, really, but at the same time it probably might be worth waiting out on that front. I hear that.

What’s she tried in the past?