[Sunny_01]

Sarah never ever let what anyone says (me included) make you feel as if you should leave this forum. Everyone here has strong opinions but the nice thing is we genreally (like now) work things through as we all want to respect each other.

Of course you became defensive, it is a personal issue to you, I would probably reacted the same way you did to the comments made by myself and others. We just all need to remember I suppose that most issues in this world have or will at some point affect someone on this forum.

[Lauren]

Can I just apologise to Sunny and Ruth. What I said wasn't intended to offend neither of you. It was one of those times where my English completely let me down when I was trying to get my point across.

First of all, Sunny and Ruth - I didn't intend to undermine your opinions. I was trying to insinuate how it's the parents choice because they'd choose the best for their child - but I accidentally made it sound like I was criticising both of your opinions.

Secondly, Ruth, I'm sorry for coming off as patronising - I really don't mean to do it but sometimes when I state my opinion I come across as "matter of fact" and I really don't want to undermine peoples opinions, especially when it's a open debate for everyone. I acknowledge it may come across as patronising because I read it back to myself and recognised that tone - but I didn't know how to change it to make it seem otherwise.

Finally, I reacted badly because I know how hard sarah works for her children, and I know Sunny and Ruth weren't criticising her for any of that - but I put my opinion across too strongly and again - that was never my intention.
Sorry if I hurt anybody by my remarks, I didn't mean to come across so strongly or as if I was criticising an opinion.

[Sunny_01]

Lauren no harm no foul - lets have a group hug

Seriously though I am happy to draw a line under it, I think with such a strong topic that has huge implications for another member things do get heated and things are said and taken out of context.

Thanks for the apology though Lauren

[Lauren]

Thanks for forgiving me Sunny. Sorry again if I insulted you in my first post.

Now for the most important part, GROUP HUG!

[sarahtheangel]

im so glad we have al sorted this out and would still like to say a big thank you to lauren who on many occasion i have asked for her advise which is always very good , and ruth and sunny can we all forgive and forget our little miss understanding a big group hug for the 4 of us i think we need it

[Sunny_01]

I loved the group hug ladies!! Sarah I am glad you have the friendship of Lauren who feels from what I see a lot for you. We all get touchy about each other round here.

Ruth get yourself in here for this group hug

[Ruth]

Sarah - I honestly never meant to upset or criticize you, and if anything I said seemed unsensitive, I am sorry. I'm very glad you decided not to leave the forum.

Lauren - sorry to you also. I overreacted to what you wrote, and I shouldn't have done that. I guess it happens when we have strong views about things, and I got a bit carried away.

Sunny - always the voice of reason This forum is a better place for you being part of it.

I have to go now, as I am writing this on a German computer, and the keyboard is different to my own. It is taking me ages to write any posts at all, which is why I have not written as much here as I wanted to.

Group hugs all the way!!

[sarahtheangel]

ruth