[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

[Z]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

Greg, I'm in the exact same situation, my mother has been tearing the family apart for my whole life and it's only now that I'm not letting her involve me any more, it's tough to stand up to her but I really need to do it or I will genuinely not be responsible for my actions.

[T*]

I have a situation similar, but it's with my dad :/ General douche, cares more about his friends..
But it's not bad-bad, just a bit frustrating.

[Firewire]

Sorry to hear that's happening to you, Greg. Sounds like a really frustrating time as well as also being quite eye-opening. I hope it all sorts itself out, and if that means cutting out your mother, then so be it. Your happiness comes first.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by *Kate*

Yeah I've gone through similar with my own mum so when she passed away my grief was mixed with guilt so I completely get where you're coming from Marshmellow

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Z

Yeah. You can't make someone change, they have to change on their own terms; and if they refuse to change then your options are to put up with it or get out of there. I choose the latter. I'm done with it.

Definitely. You have to make those hard decisions.

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

I love you Glenn.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by Z

Whenever I give people the details they tell me she needs to see a psychotherapist. She does see professionals but she doesn't admit to ANYTHING! If you ever want to vent to me go ahead.

[T*]

am i being blanked around the forum on purpose or

[Kate!]

No Tom ...... Why do you think that?

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

Whenever I give people the details they tell me she needs to see a psychotherapist. She does see professionals but she doesn't admit to ANYTHING! If you ever want to vent to me go ahead.

Would you not move out Jess?

[Jack.]

Evening all

[T*]

Originally Posted by *Kate*

No Tom ...... Why do you think that?

I'm asking people questions, getting involved in conversations, etc. but this is the first time someones properly replied to me today.

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by *Kate*

Would you not move out Jess?

I want to move out but I don't have the means, I don't have anywhere to go, I don't have family who I trust, I don't have any friends, I don't have anything or anyone.

[Me. I Am Salman]

Greg, I think moving out is the right thing to do, but don't cut her out picture completely. Give your mum time to come round. If she doesn't, then that's a shame, but always leave the door open. Parents are too important to cut ties with.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

jess lets get a flat together we can be the new will and grace

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

I want to move out but I don't have the means, I don't have anywhere to go, I don't have family who I trust, I don't have any friends, I don't have anything or anyone.

what about renting a room in a shared house. Find one with some students. You'll get help with rent??

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Scott

jess lets get a flat together we can be the new will and grace

And Stan Fi?

[Me. I Am Salman]

Originally Posted by Tom!

I'm asking people questions, getting involved in conversations, etc. but this is the first time someones properly replied to me today.

most people in this thread get ignored, don't think it's anything serious

[Ramsay]

I think i can post this now

[Kate!]

drunk Karl

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

so true

[Ammi]

..awww Greg....I’m not sure people do change as such, not really and not in hugely significant ways..I think people can gain an understanding of each other more and that can help a lot in bridging things but it takes time because it’s important for us to look at our own actions in stuff and some people find that harder than others and that’s probably because they always feel that what they do is for the right reasons...and maybe that’s how it is with your mum, I don’t know but you’re doing what’s right for you now and distancing yourself because you feel it’s what you need and that’s all you can do for the moment....I hope in time that you do have that understanding of each other and maybe build on that....

...and Jess, you have got a lovely guy who cares about you and maybe try to focus on how great that is if you can......and I have spare rooms....

[michael21]

Originally Posted by Scott

jess lets get a flat together we can be the new will and grace

your grace right