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T* · 07-08-2015, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Raph

really? I know you haven't specified what you're getting at with threads like this but I really think questions like this are extremely offensive to the gay community. I was really thinking about this yesterday - why should it matter? Or more importantly, why should a person have to even consider which the identify with?

I think the main problem with this is that 'top' and 'bottom' often come with a connotation of the masculine versus the feminine role. This really frustrates me because the whole point of being in a relationship with another guy is to be with another GUY, and therefore I think these stereotypical identifications are extremely shallow and unnecessary.

Not to mention this is in effect a rather personal question, as well as a gross question which shouldn't be brought up per say on a big brother forum - but i'm totally not in the position to articulate that so I wont.

I know you didn't specify what you were getting at with the question, but answers such as that of Lucas and others really put me off ahhhhhhh

That's exactly something a bottom would say

Black Dagger · 07-08-2015, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Jords

haha look at me trying to hide my sexuality

I was reading through the comments and I dont agree that top/bottom is essentially asking if you prefer to be dominant or submissive in the bedroom. I bottom but would top too the situation has just not come about yet but I would say that although I am submissive as a bottom I like to be dominant during oral. Its the shifting 'power' balance and control which is hot. PS foreplay/oral > anal in my opinion.

Also I dont agree that being more a 'top' identifies you as the male in the relationship and being more a 'bottom' as the female. I was seeing a Brazilian guy a couple of months back and he was definitely more the girlfriend

Anyway Im going to stop Im turning myself on.

Slut!!

Jords · 07-08-2015, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by _LucasMichael_

Slut!!

You can call me that if I can pull your hair.

jackc1806 · 07-08-2015, 11:45 AM

Black Dagger · 07-08-2015, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Jords

You can call me that if I can pull your hair.

Oooh er

T* · 07-08-2015, 11:48 AM

*puts hands over ears*

Ninastar · 07-08-2015, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Jords

haha look at me trying to hide my sexuality

I was reading through the comments and I dont agree that top/bottom is essentially asking if you prefer to be dominant or submissive in the bedroom. I bottom but would top too the situation has just not come about yet but I would say that although I am submissive as a bottom I like to be dominant during oral. Its the shifting 'power' balance and control which is hot. PS foreplay/oral > anal in my opinion.

Also I dont agree that being more a 'top' identifies you as the male in the relationship and being more a 'bottom' as the female. I was seeing a Brazilian guy a couple of months back and he was definitely more the girlfriend

Anyway Im going to stop Im turning myself on.

Weird how much we all change, isnt it?

I agree! I just meant what turns you on more... When making out more than anything. Do you prefer being topped or being topped? It's not that big of a deal lol. The feeling being on top of a girl when you're making out and she pulls your hair and ****, omfg

yeah, i need to stop too tbh.

Raph · 07-08-2015, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Drew.

Tell 'em Raph

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Originally Posted by Liam-

This thread

Raph tho <3

I literally have no recollection of writing that but thanks boys

I guess I just hate those words as 'top' and 'bottom' put a hierarchy into the relationship, at least linguistically and I guess that's the issue I have with it.

jackc1806 · 07-08-2015, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Chaos

Weird how much we all change, isnt it?

I agree! I just meant what turns you on more... When making out more than anything. Do you prefer being topped or being topped? It's not that big of a deal lol. The feeling being on top of a girl when you're making out and she pulls your hair and ****, omfg

yeah, i need to stop too tbh.

Ninastar · 07-08-2015, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Raph

I literally have no recollection of writing that but thanks boys

I guess I just hate those words as 'top' and 'bottom' put a hierarchy into the relationship, at least linguistically and I guess that's the issue I have with it.

no i totally get you lol. like when i was seeing this girl, she said 'omg you're deffo the boy' and I was like HELL NO. I am a girl and I want to date girls, i am in no way the 'boy'

i aint even boyish!!!!

Jords · 07-08-2015, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Chaos

Weird how much we all change, isnt it?

I agree! I just meant what turns you on more... When making out more than anything. Do you prefer being topped or being topped? It's not that big of a deal lol. The feeling being on top of a girl when you're making out and she pulls your hair and ****, omfg

yeah, i need to stop too tbh.

Making out on top leading onto receiving oral still on top - yeaaah!

All depends though.

Liam- · 07-08-2015, 11:57 AM

To answer the question though, I'm the same as Jords, except I'm exclusive to the one role

Jords · 07-08-2015, 11:58 AM

its ok Liam we can work around it

Ninastar · 07-08-2015, 12:01 PM

Look at me making everyone all horny

T* · 07-08-2015, 12:05 PM

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Jords · 07-08-2015, 12:06 PM

This boy keeps sex-pesting me on Snapchat and its so annoying but I like the attention

jackc1806 · 07-08-2015, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Tøm

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kids grow up so fast nowadays

Raph · 07-08-2015, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Chaos

no i totally get you lol. like when i was seeing this girl, she said 'omg you're deffo the boy' and I was like HELL NO. I am a girl and I want to date girls, i am in no way the 'boy'

i aint even boyish!!!!

Caitlin