[Billy]

My best friend slept with my ex, someone he knows that I still really like, and didn't tell me.

I'm really upset and I think I should be, but then noone else sees it the way I do, which now makes me think I don't have a right to be upset cause I wasn't with her at the time ? :/

Help

[Princess]

Of course you have the right to be upset!

[Arneldo]

of course! .. but does he like your ex aswell?

[Billy]

It's weird cause..

Before me and my ex got together she said to me she liked him *this was back when we were just friends we were so close* and then she said she liked me, and that she only said she liked him so I didnt think she liked me.

But a little while later she said she did like him a bit, but it was nothing compared to what she felt for me so I was like okay, and we were happy for a few months.

And my friend says he doesn't like her, he was just really drunk but I dunno if he's just saying that to make me feel better or what..

I feel like an idiot for posting this on here lmao I hardly ever do that :L

[Tom4784]

Yes and no, You've every right to be upset but I don't think it's right to show any anger towards your friend or ex. I'm guessing both were single at the time so neither did anything wrong.

If I was you I'd talk to them both, find out if the friend likes the ex in a serious way and vice versa but also look at your own feelings. Are you mistaking wanting a reconciliation for closure? If you want to get back with your ex then talk to them both and make your intentions clear. If it's an issue of Closure then talk it out with your ex and try to move on.

All options lead to talking really, evaluate your own feelings before talking to any of them though.

[Enid]

You can't be mad at her, but sleeping with your best friend's ex knowing they still have feelings for the person is the ultimate betrayal.

[supernoodles!]

Yeah its out of order on your mates part 100% and disrespecting you on your ex`s part.I think you have the right to be annoyed.

[Captain.Remy]

You can't be upset for what SHE did but for what your best friend did and that's a huge difference.
She's your ex so she's not so much related to you right now, she can do anything she wants but your best friend knew you still had feelings for her and what he did was betrayal.

[Fangz]

You shouldn't be upset with your ex, but your best friend (some friend) showed total disregard for your emotions.

[Lauren]

You have the right to be upset, yes. I think there's a line that shouldn't be crossed, and your best friend crossed it.

[max]

I think you should be opening a tin of wup ass on him no friend should sleep with your ex.

[Billy]

Originally posted by Dezzy
Yes and no, You've every right to be upset but I don't think it's right to show any anger towards your friend or ex. I'm guessing both were single at the time so neither did anything wrong.

If I was you I'd talk to them both, find out if the friend likes the ex in a serious way and vice versa but also look at your own feelings. Are you mistaking wanting a reconciliation for closure? If you want to get back with your ex then talk to them both and make your intentions clear. If it's an issue of Closure then talk it out with your ex and try to move on.

All options lead to talking really, evaluate your own feelings before talking to any of them though.

I know what you mean but surely if a friend is my friend (which he is supposed to be) then doing what he did was wrong? He may not have been cheating on anyone but I still think it's wrong, and that's hurtful.

Thanks though (and everyone else) for your opinions and suggestions, it's actually helped.

[lily.]

Personally, if my best friend went with my ex, I'd disown her. It's like the unwritten, unspoken rules. You don't go with someone your best mate has been with.

So you are right to be annoyed at your friend, definitely.

As for your ex, I don't think she's worthy of your feelings to be honest, cuz she clearly doesn't consider yours when deciding who to shag.

Just my opinion. Sorry if it sounds harsh.