[Abhorsen]

Every time John James talks to Josie he gets around to asking her about 'how she sees herself, and how attractive she sees herself, JJ is looking for Josie to put herself down in front of him as he is looking for a GF with low self esteem that he can manipulate. Notice how he is threatened by Sunshine? That she has good self esteem, and that means he tries to attack Sunshine by going for her 'big nose' and her values as a vegan.

In one of the first long chats JJ had with Josie he asked her how her previous BF treated her ( to suss out if she allowed herself to be treated bad in previous relationships and therefore could he get away with it too) and Josie said she had been a bit of a doormat, letting her BFs treat her badly, then JJ gets interested - up to that point he said to other HMs that Josie 'wasn't his type'.

Hang on, what girl would want to be asked to estimate her own level of attractiveness to a potential BF (or guy for that matter!)? So, why the hell did John James ask her to do that in the pool? When Josie was obviously VERY uncomfortable with the question John James kept at her until she mumbled 'average I guess' and then she went quiet. Then John James got out of the pool without saying anything to make her wonder what he thought and 'worry' her about her comments - tactics of control by John James.

It's obvious that John James is a guy who can only get girls who have low self esteem and he knows he can use that to control them. Josie watch out. Also, notice how JJ went off Josie for a bit when she gave as good as she got in the bedroom argument.