[Pyramid*]

Scenario is that you have to make a choice in a serious situation:

you can save only one person: your long term partner (as in husband / wife / common law) or a young child that you have brought into this world.

My own answer: not having children I don't have that 'maternal' bond and I would think I would opt for partner: however if I WAS in that particuarl situation: I imagine that as a parent, the stronger urge to save, would be to save the child.

Who would you choose to save..... and why?

[Locke.]

Child probably

[Doogle]

Risk my own life and try and get both, no matter what.

But if I really have to choose, I'd say my child.

[Jordan.]

Well it'd be pretty selfish to save your partner and for them to allow themselves to be saved over their own child.

[Beastie]

I would save my child.

[Kerry]

My child. I also know my OH would do the same

[Smithy]

child

[joeysteele]

I think probably the Child, more because in a choice like that I believe it likely the partner/husband/wife needing to be saved too would also want the Child saved first.
Awful situation to be in though.

[Lewis.]

I'd imagine my child. They do say that a parents love for their child is unconditional.

['Conor]

my child without a doubt, i helped bring my child into the world, my job is to protect it from no matter what, and my partner would have a better chance of surviving than a child one on its own

[GypsyGoth]

Neither.

[Zippy]

Originally Posted by GypsyGoth

Neither.

LOL I was gonna post that!

great minds...

[GypsyGoth]

Originally Posted by Zippy

LOL I was gonna post that!

great minds...

Seriously though I'm not sure.

Having a partner, would be one thing and I would do anything for them, but I think a child would mean that you'd have to save them.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by GypsyGoth

Neither.

You would have the choice of being able to save one of them -but would not make that choice, but allow both to die?

How on earth could you live with the fact that you could have saved one life, but chose to save none.

[Doogle]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

You would have the choice of being able to save one of them -but would not make that choice, but allow both to die?

How on earth could you live with the fact that you could have saved one life, but chose to save none.

But wouldn't you feel worse about only saving one?

Personally I would anyway.

['Conor]

Originally Posted by Doogle

But wouldn't you feel worse about only saving one?

Personally I would anyway.

hell no! i would feel even 100x worse knowing that i LET the 2 people i love most in the world die

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Doogle

But wouldn't you feel worse about only saving one?

Personally I would anyway.

No, I would not feel worse letting 2 people die, when 1 could have been saved.

That is not to say there would be no feeling of regret for the person I chose to 'not to save', but I would far prefer to have one death on my conscience, that two.

[GypsyGoth]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

You would have the choice of being able to save one of them -but would not make that choice, but allow both to die?

How on earth could you live with the fact that you could have saved one life, but chose to save none.

I would save the kid.

[Doogle]

I'd feel bad but to make that decision seeing them both would be too heartbreaking and I'd always have to live with it.

I think I'd just like..die with them :S

I dunno. My views will probably change if/when I have kids, but at the moment I just imagine feeling worse about the one I didn't save.

['Conor]

Originally Posted by Doogle

I'd feel bad but to make that decision seeing them both would be too heartbreaking and I'd always have to live with it.

I think I'd just like..die with them :S

I dunno. My views will probably change if/when I have kids, but at the moment I just imagine feeling worse about the one I didn't save.

thats probably because all you have at the moment is Hannah so you would of course save her but you dont know what its like to have a child yet so your opinion will probably change when that happens

[Zippy]

of course you'd save the kid!

you'd have to be evil bitch parent from hell not to

now ask me a hard question..

[Jords]

My initial answer would be child, as theyre younger and have much more to live for, and Id imagine the mother, my partner, would say to save her child too.

However you could argue that the mother has more roles in life - a daughter, wife, her occupation etc. and potentially to be a mother again.

Also I think you could comfort each other with the loss of the child, whereas losing the love of your life might send you on a downward spiral.

Not a nice thought at all, and just thinking about it I think Id save my partner if we under the age of 45, however in the situation its very likely Id change to my child with them being so innocent and young.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Jords

My initial answer would be child, as theyre younger and have much more to live for, and Id imagine the mother, my partner, would say to save her child too.

However you could argue that the mother has more roles in life - a daughter, wife, her occupation etc. and potentially to be a mother again.

Also I think you could comfort each other with the loss of the child, whereas losing the love of your life might send you on a downward spiral.

Not a nice thought at all, and just thinking about it I think Id save my partner if we under the age of 45, however in the situation its very likely Id change to my child with them being so innocent and young.

I have a tendency to lean toward this if I'm very honest.

I 'think' I'd save the child -but if I was presented with the reality of the situation: I'm not entirely sure.

[Zippy]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

I have a tendency to lean toward this if I'm very honest.

I 'think' I'd save the child -but if I was presented with the reality of the situation: I'm not entirely sure.

I hope you're not a Mother or thinking of being one?

you can replace partners but children are literally a part of you. Can't believe you even have doubts.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Zippy

I hope you're not a Mother or thinking of being one?

you can replace partners but children are literally a part of you. Can't believe you even have doubts.

Your wish is granted. hence why I CAN have 'doubts - because for me, it is merely a scenario and always will be. It is a situation I will never find myself in thankfully ..... which is precisely the reason I starting the thread.