[Benjamin]

Have you ever suffered this, or made anyone suffer from it?

[Mystic Mock]

The closest to it is from my Niece lol.

That's from what i've suffered on,but she's only 2 years old so I let her off lol.

And no I don't intentionally emotional blackmail people.

[ILoveTRW]

I stayed in a relationship a month longer than I probably should have because she was a nut case.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

yes just a few hours ago with my mum

i was like hey mum wanna watch a movie lets watch jawbreaker its like mean girls but with murder and she was like no im not watching that so i was like fine im going upstairs im just sit in my room in the dark and she was like okay lets watch it but by then i didnt want to watch it so we watched donkey punch instead

[Jack_]

Very mild forms both ways.

I actually find it really disturbing. You have to be really ****ed up and devoid of any sense of empathy and to use it without caring.

[GypsyGoth]

Originally Posted by Scott

yes just a few hours ago with my mum

i was like hey mum wanna watch a movie lets watch jawbreaker its like mean girls but with murder and she was like no im not watching that so i was like fine im going upstairs im just sit in my room in the dark and she was like okay lets watch it but by then i didnt want to watch it so we watched donkey punch instead

[Ammi]

..I think there are two kinds of emotional blackmail..maybe there are more
..I think everyone within family and close friendships will have used a mild form at some time or another..I'm not saying intentionally..they possibly aren't even aware..

..but then there's a more..'sinister' kind...manipulation..and maybe using a persons 'fear'..or 'beliefs'..and that's obviously more extreme...and probably used by someone who has...emotional problems themselves

...I'm not sure which kind you mean

[Marc]

It's what children do constantly isn't it?

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by ukturtle

Have you ever suffered this, or made anyone suffer from it?

yes,by YOU UK when you said Gerard would turn gay!!!!!when I wouldn't do what you asked

[joeysteele]

I haven't really, I've had daft things like I'll tell your Mam unless you let me go too, if I have been heading somewhere I shouldn't or on the rare times I played truant from school,(only half a day, never anymore and only 3 times in all my schooldays), because I wanted to go and get tickets for a concert or something.

However,on the more serious side,I and others had to step in a fair while back to help a friend who broke up with his girlfriend and she was threatening everytime that if he didn't go and talk to her she would do something to herself, he was demented and that to me is the real bad side of emotional blackmail.
It all got sorted and everyone is all friends now though.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by kazanne

yes,by YOU UK when you said Gerard would turn gay!!!!!when I wouldn't do what you asked

for god sake ukturtle..

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Marc

for god sake ukturtle..

It's true Marc,I have proof,he was mean

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by kazanne

It's true Marc,I have proof,he was mean

I can't see how anyone could even think about being mean to you kazanne.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Marc

It's what children do constantly isn't it?

...children..and parents..grandparents and grandchildren too...I bet most people have used a 'gentle' form within their own family circle

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...children..and parents..grandparents and grandchildren too...I bet most people have used a 'gentle' form within their own family circle

Most probably, I sure haven't because I was an angel child

[Marc]

Originally Posted by kazanne

It's true Marc,I have proof,he was mean

I'd report him if I were you

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Marc

Most probably, I sure haven't because I was an angel child

..well I'm sure I've used it on my sons..and I'm not ashamed to admit it because....I'm pretty damn certain..they've used it more than me....I see it as a means of 'opening negotiations'

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

I can't see how anyone could even think about being mean to you kazanne.

Exactly Joey it was my loyalty to you and Jedward that prompted the threat ! how very dare he

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Marc

I'd report him if I were you

I feel a bit sorry for him,it was desperation on his part and i am a forgiving person

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..well I'm sure I've used it on my sons..and I'm not ashamed to admit it because....I'm pretty damn certain..they've used it more than me....I see it as a means of 'opening negotiations'

Children use it without knowing, parents are naive to their powers..

Life in the City

[King Gizzard]

Yes, Ammi all the time, but she doesn't realise it

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by kazanne

Exactly Joey it was my loyalty to you and Jedward that prompted the threat ! how very dare he

Aah. sorry bout that kazanne, he has always been decent to me I have to say, so far anyway .

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

Aah. sorry bout that kazanne, he has always been decent to me I have to say, so far anyway .

He's lovely really Joey,but don't tell him,he'll be unbearable

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by kazanne

yes,by YOU UK when you said Gerard would turn gay!!!!!when I wouldn't do what you asked

I stand by my threat.


In seriousness though, I have been emotionally blackmailed, in the sinister kind. Finding a flaw in my weaknesses and using them against me to make me feel that only he can look after me, is there for me and that nobody else cares for me and using his sadness/desperation to trap me and keep me. I look back and kick myself for being so weak and feeble, but at the time I was so hooked by his emotional blackmail that I couldn't see any other alternative. Luckily I grew to stand up for myself, although in turn it cost me my openness to be sensitive, I'm very closed now with my true feelings.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by ukturtle

I stand by my threat.


In seriousness though, I have been emotionally blackmailed, in the sinister kind. Finding a flaw in my weaknesses and using them against me to make me feel that only he can look after me, is there for me and that nobody else cares for me and using his sadness/desperation to trap me and keep me. I look back and kick myself for being so weak and feeble, but at the time I was so hooked by his emotional blackmail that I couldn't see any other alternative. Luckily I grew to stand up for myself, although in turn it cost me my openness to be sensitive, I'm very closed now with my true feelings.

..is that not different from emotional blackmail...controlling someone like that...I don't know..I think I'm confused about what emotional blackmail is