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Old 07-04-2012, 12:16 AM #1
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Yeah, I usually come on here for a light hearted laugh and abit of banter here and there. Hell I've still tried to have a lugh here and there, but I'm going to make a serious post for once, because I'm still thinking about something and genuinely don't know what I might do when I wake up..



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How would you deal with your younger sister being bullied? My sister is in Year 8 and she's today told me about some twat in Year fricking 9 that's been doing just that during break times. Year 9 ffs... There is something about seeing your little sister unable to even speak properly due to tears which makes you want to hurt the person responsible. She kept it to herself during the School weeks, but she told me now, because it's reached the level of Phone & Internet etc.

She was too scared to tell a teacher,Mum,Dad or Older bro, So I should respect that I suppose.

There are a million thoughts in my mind....Pretend to be my sis and get him somewhere where I can beat him within an inch of his life...get someone his own age to teach him a lesson.... I just dunno.

Dunno, why I'm asking for such serious advice here, but I suppose it's because my real circle of friends aren't the best to take advice off. Besides maybe someone has faced a similar issue.

Help..Tips...anything?
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Threaten him, then batter him/get someone else to if he carries on
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If it's at all possible don't use any sort of physical violence. That's all I'd suggest.
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Like what nathan said, don't use physical violence.

She should talk to the teachers at school and such, if it's known in the school maybe they could do something to the kid that's bullying her.
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Like what nathan said, don't use physical violence.

She should talk to the teachers at school and such, if it's known in the school maybe they could do something to the kid that's bullying her.
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You could tell the school.
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Well first of all how old are you? Bearing in mind a Y9 kid is around 14 the age gap could be a problem.

I'd probably threaten him, just don't actually resort to violence, you'll end up coming out worse.
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Corner the guy on his own and speak to him but I wouldn't resort to violence 'cause there's every chance you'll get done for assault. I feel sorry for your sister, and for you having this dilemma though. Bullying sucks. People don't even realise a lot of the time the effects of what they say and do to another person and just how damaging they can be. Just make sure that your little sister knows she doesn't deserve any of this and try to be her big brother as best you can.
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Yeah, I usually come on here for a light hearted laugh and abit of banter here and there. Hell I've still tried to have a lugh here and there, but I'm going to make a serious post for once, because I'm still thinking about something and genuinely don't know what I might do when I wake up..



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How would you deal with your younger sister being bullied? My sister is in Year 8 and she's today told me about some twat in Year fricking 9 that's been doing just that during break times. Year 9 ffs... There is something about seeing your little sister unable to even speak properly due to tears which makes you want to hurt the person responsible. She kept it to herself during the School weeks, but she told me now, because it's reached the level of Phone & Internet etc.

She was too scared to tell a teacher,Mum,Dad or Older bro, So I should respect that I suppose.

There are a million thoughts in my mind....Pretend to be my sis and get him somewhere where I can beat him within an inch of his life...get someone his own age to teach him a lesson.... I just dunno.

Dunno, why I'm asking for such serious advice here, but I suppose it's because my real circle of friends aren't the best to take advice off. Besides maybe someone has faced a similar issue.

Help..Tips...anything?
Oh for gods sake that sound awful for your poor sister. I cannot abide hearing things like this - bullys are complete arseholes. in fact, arseholes serve a useful purpose so that's unfair to arseholes really.

I know you've said she's scared to tell your parents - but would she allow you to discuss it with your parents with her permission. That might just be the biggest hurdle for her: telling someone and it might be easier if you break the news of it to parents first?

If it's got to the police stage - better that route but again, mum / dad will need to be involved.

I understand you wanting to go and smash the guys to ribbons but that might not be the best thing -wait till the anger subsides - it is easier to think straight when emotions aren't so riled - it's natural for you to feel like this.
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I know your sister avoided speaking to teachers or your parents but thats probably the best thing to do, tell her if she doesnt want to do it alone you will speak to them with her or for her but to go and threaten or be violent towards the bully is the worst thing to do in my honest opinion.

I hope everything works out ok.

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Is it physical or verbal?
If its physical as a brother to a 9Y/O sister I would advise you to hit him but not too hard....I know it sounds like horrible advise and I usually don't endorse violence but it honestly is the only way to sort pricks like them out, while sparing your sister the embarrassment of dealing with teachers.

If its verbal just give her loads of phrases to say back...and tell her to use you as a threat
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the same thing happened to my sister this year. It's heartbreaking seeing them cry over it.

I hate to say this but there isn't much you can do. The attitude of boys at that age is very arrogant. Any attention you give them makes them think they are hard. You just need to reassure your sister. It's an awful situation. It really is but soon enough she will know better

God, I wish school got more involved with it. I saw some guy on american news saying that bullies need to have the same treatment done to them and I totally agree. They need a kick up the backside. I don't think you should do it in this case. It'd be totally amazing if your sister did it to him though.
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No violence. Discuss the issue with her when you're alone and if she still does not want your parents to know maybe she could tell the Teachers when back at school.

Maybe she could ask the Teachers to contact you when she has let them know in school as the next plan of action to discuss what to do next if she still doesn't want your parents to know, although they would have to find out at some point.
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Bullies are horrible.
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I cannot tolerate bullying at all at secondary school and beyond, its just absolute cowardly

I feel for you sis, must be hard times for her. Theres not much you can do because you could either get in serious trouble (dont know you age but Im assuming older?) or the bully may be angered that you intervened and sadly, up the aggression and threaten her to silence or else :/

The best you can do is encourage her to tell the teachers, theyre useless mind, but it might make him lay off, and tell her to stand her ground and tell him to **** off - however scary that prospect is.
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Threaten him, then batter him/get someone else to if he carries on

NO! ....You or your parents need to speak with school and provide evidence (screen shots) of the bullying. Remind them it is a criminal offence and the need to take action.
You may want to retaliate but they are minors...Anything you do will harm the situation for her ...Hard i know
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I'm not usually a violent person but if anyone made my sister cry I'd find whoever was responsible, threaten them and go from there. If nothing changed, I'd have no hesitation in kicking the **** out of them, I don't care how old they are. If they're big enough to reduce a girl to tears, they're big enough to take a few punches.
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Do not resort to violence, it will only come back to make you look like the bully and him the victim.

Talk to your sister and suggest to her to talk to your parents about it, offer to be there with her when she does. She needs love and support to get her through this, as well as some good advice, so with you all around it'll help ease her suffering.
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Would probably have an older brother or father himself who would get you back twice as much as well
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Actually, if this as you said has spilled over onto the internet, surely it's a criminal offence which could easily be proven using screenshots as someone pointed out?

If you got the police involved surely the kid would sh!t himself more than if some teachers did?
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I know people are saying "omg no violence, it's bad" but as a bullying victim and a big brother I can pretty much confirm that words won't work...

Also as a brother I would kill anyone who made my sister cry....
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I know people are saying "omg no violence, it's bad" but as a bullying victim and a big brother I can pretty much confirm that words won't work...

Also as a brother I would kill anyone who made my sister cry....
Yes, but the last thing you want is to have a criminal conviction on your hands and make the bully look like the victim.
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I have not used violence and solved my bully problems piece of piss, they dont like it when you can take it and look unbothered and especially when you can give them sh!t back.
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Aww your poor sister. She needs to tell someone soon and then she can have lots of support in dealing with what happened and then trying to move on from it.
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Don't blame you for wanting to kick this dick in though

What kind of mug bullies a girl? Seriously? Bullying a guy is bad enough
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