[Me. I Am Salman]

WARNING sob story alert

Jahmene: 'My mother's screams will stick with me until the day I die'

Jahmene Douglas has opened up about the domestic violence which tortured his family - and said that his mother's screams will stick with him forever.

The X Factor singer, who is supporting Cosmopolitan's 'Real Man' campaign with Women's Aid, told them: "The sad thing about an abusive childhood is that you cut it out. My memories come and go, some are good, but most are bad.

"The one thing that will stick with me until the day I die is my mother's screams.

"Hearing her scream for her life but being paralysed with fear, unable to move one muscle. We were under such an evil lockdown of control that you wouldn't dare move in case one action resulted in something much worse.

"Nightmares upon nightmares build up from nights of those screams. It's one of those things that can't be fully described to the extremity of what it exactly is...

"You have to feel it to know it and to know what needs to be changed to help others. Domestic violence is in my DNA, it's in who I am. I'd rather be beaten myself than ever hear those screams again."

The star, who admitted he once tried to take his own life, said: "My mother is a saint. She would go to hell and back to watch over her children to know that they are okay.

"I honestly believe I would not have survived to be here today if it was not for my mother.

"Now she is raising money and awareness for domestic violence refuges through Women's Aid who need a lot more support, funding and protection... I just want to help too.

"She's an absolute source of unconditional love and never-ending strength."

Continued http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/showbiz/...day-i-die.html

No1curr

[King Gizzard]

Wouldn't say that it would be something no one cared about, but to bring it up supposedly for the show is a bit pathetic. Unless he is using it for the publicity of his mothers campaign

Either way don't think it can be brushed aside simply as a sob story, it's quite more serious then that

[Shaun]

you care so little you copied, pasted, formatted it into a quote and provided the link to it?

[Me. I Am Salman]

Just trying to prove he uses sob stories. He said this like 5 weeks ago and now he's saying it again

[Kizzy]

It's not a sob story, it was his childhood...
If he hadn't told the story the tabloids would have, at least this way it's in his own words.

[Brother Leon]

It's not a sob story. Sob story is the rubbish by Jade living on An estate and having to go on the school run. Or The little mix girl crying for being called fat by Internet trolls amongst plenty of silly ones by half the male contestants in the past.

[Me. I Am Salman]

He most certainly is using it as a sob story because
1) It has nothing to do with the show
2) He talked about the exact same thing a month and a half ago, about how his dad chased his mum with a blow torch and cut his nail. However sad it may be there is no reason for him to bring it up again few weeks before the finals.
3) If you carry on reading the article you'll see he talks about how his mum supports a charity. How is that not trying to get votes!

Just because it tugs your heart strings does not make it any less of a sob story

[Kizzy]

Just because you say it's a sob story does not make it any less real.....

[King Gizzard]

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/...14_634x864.jpg


if this is her then she looks more like a GF or sister

[Jords]

Find it equally annoying now when people hark SOB STORY!!!!!!

[Kate!]

I find it quite sad that you have no sympathy/empathy towards him.

I think its good he brings it into the open, and doesn't feel ashamed. I'm very very open now about the fact I suffered in an abusive relationship for a long time, although I used to feel ashamed of it and sometimes that people would think it was my own fault. I'm also used to people thinking I put it out there for sympathy and/or attention. If they want to think that its fine. I just think, why should it be hidden, awareness needs to be raised of this type of thing.

Jahmene is a bit of an emotional basket case - you can see it in his eyes, and my god can I identify with that. At first, before I knew his background I thought he was a drama queen but he's definitely not.

And if it helps him get through the days by putting everything out there, then fair play to the guy. It's his way of affirming to himself that hey, it wasn't my/our fault and I'm not ashamed.

It took me a long time and a lot of counselling to get there.

[Me. I Am Salman]

I'm not saying I don't have sympathy, believe me I do, especially when he first revealed it. But he's absolutely milking it to the point where it makes you wonder whether he's just using it to get to the final. He reveals something new almost every week and it's funny how it tends to be around the weekend.

I'm sorry for what happened to you though Kate I just think it's wrong to use stories like for personal gain, and it's in no way similar to what you're doing.

If I am wrong though and Jahmene actually is this bag of emotions, is he really right for this show?

[Marc]

No need for these things to come out before the final verdict at the final IMO

But it is sad

[Glenn.]

I'd still vote for Jahmene without the sob story. Him and James are the only credible acts left now.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by *Kate*

I find it quite sad that you have no sympathy/empathy towards him.

I think its good he brings it into the open, and doesn't feel ashamed. I'm very very open now about the fact I suffered in an abusive relationship for a long time, although I used to feel ashamed of it and sometimes that people would think it was my own fault. I'm also used to people thinking I put it out there for sympathy and/or attention. If they want to think that its fine. I just think, why should it be hidden, awareness needs to be raised of this type of thing.

Jahmene is a bit of an emotional basket case - you can see it in his eyes, and my god can I identify with that. At first, before I knew his background I thought he was a drama queen but he's definitely not.

And if it helps him get through the days by putting everything out there, then fair play to the guy. It's his way of affirming to himself that hey, it wasn't my/our fault and I'm not ashamed.

It took me a long time and a lot of counselling to get there.

Well put kate, I totally agree.
As the competition progresses more people will be interested to know his back story, not everyone had the perfect nuclear family.
His determination to succeed to me is driven from those experiences, I would say the last thing he is after was sympathy.
The message seems to be whatever you go through you can overcome, he is really inspirational.
If you can go through years of trauma and come out the other side unbroken and willing to help others do the same is amazing.
It shows a strength and depth of character that is very rare.

[Raph]

Originally Posted by *Kate*

I find it quite sad that you have no sympathy/empathy towards him.

I think its good he brings it into the open, and doesn't feel ashamed. I'm very very open now about the fact I suffered in an abusive relationship for a long time, although I used to feel ashamed of it and sometimes that people would think it was my own fault. I'm also used to people thinking I put it out there for sympathy and/or attention. If they want to think that its fine. I just think, why should it be hidden, awareness needs to be raised of this type of thing.

Jahmene is a bit of an emotional basket case - you can see it in his eyes, and my god can I identify with that. At first, before I knew his background I thought he was a drama queen but he's definitely not.

And if it helps him get through the days by putting everything out there, then fair play to the guy. It's his way of affirming to himself that hey, it wasn't my/our fault and I'm not ashamed.

It took me a long time and a lot of counselling to get there.

Excellent post Kate.

[abcd]

quality, i was hoping this story came back to light just before the finals, makes my bet even more of a banker

[Jamie585]

Poor lad, been through some tough times! He would still get votes without the 'sob story' though

[Marcus.]

yeah he would

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Salman!

Just trying to prove he uses sob stories. He said this like 5 weeks ago and now he's saying it again

What do you expect from this guy? he can't get votes naturally so he uses tragic cases to get the public to vote for him.

[jet]

Originally Posted by kizzy

Well put kate, I totally agree.
As the competition progresses more people will be interested to know his back story, not everyone had the perfect nuclear family.
His determination to succeed to me is driven from those experiences, I would say the last thing he is after was sympathy.
The message seems to be whatever you go through you can overcome, he is really inspirational.
If you can go through years of trauma and come out the other side unbroken and willing to help others do the same is amazing.
It shows a strength and depth of character that is very rare.

Great posts Kate and Kizzy. You have good understanding hearts.
It's clear to many others too that Jahmene isn't 'milking it'. Far from it. He just isn't the type, it's as simple as that. We have been watching reality shows long enough to know the drama queens from the genuinely damaged.
Jahmene

[Raph]

Such a legend

[Tom4784]

It's sad but it's obvious with the timing of it all that he's trying to play on people's sympathies for votes.

[jet]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

It's sad but it's obvious with the timing of it all that he's trying to play on people's sympathies for votes.

That must be why Rylan said he adored him and admired his 'quiet strength'.

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by jet

That must be why Rylan said he adored him and admired his 'quiet strength'.

What's Rylan got to do with anything?