[splodge0]

Thought you’d all appreciate this - just so you can all make sure that you are being dutiful wives and girlfriends


This is an extract from a Home Economics textbook printed in the early 60’s for young wives.


“Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for your husband’s return from work. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs.


Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people. Be a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.


Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives and clear away any clutter. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, and papers etc. and then run a dust clothe over the tables. During the colder months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.


Minimise all noise. At the time of his arrival eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time.


Let him talk first, remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. Make the evening his.


Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.


Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Don’t greet him with complaints and problems. Don’t complain if he is late home for dinner, or even stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.


Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange the pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in low, soothing and
pleasant voice. Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness.


Once he has had a chance to have his evening meal, clear the dishes and wash up promptly. If your husband should offer to help decline his offer as he may feel obliged to repeat this offer and, after a long working day, he does
not need the extra work.


Encourage your husband to pursue his hobbies and interests and be supportive without seeming to encroach. If you have any little hobbies yourself, try not to bore him by speaking of these, as women’s interests are often rather trivial compared to men’s.


At the end of the evening, tidy the home ready for the morning and again, think ahead to his breakfast needs. Your husband’s breakfast is vital if he is to face the outside world in a positive fashion.

Once you have both retired to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have
to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face-cream or hair rollers, wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.


When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband, it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular, your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately, then so be it. In all things be lead by your husband’s wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest congress, then accede humbly all the while being mindful that a man’s satisfaction is
more important than a woman’s. When he reaches his moment of fulfilment, a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had. Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices, be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining
silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so, re-adjust your clothing, freshen up and apply your night time face and hair products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he wakes.”

[susieq]

OMG - was that the 1860's or the 1960's!!! It made me want to throw up! Good job I'm still single then - couldn't cope with all that complete and utter nonsense.

[splodge0]

BUT, SUSIEQ, ITS ALL SO TRUE. ITS THE SECRET TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP!!!

[LEE]

And it also explains why you are single Splodge!

[splodge0]

GOTCHA LEE!!!!

Just knew YOU couldn't resist!!!!

[Maggie]

Sounds just like my house, NOT

Then again it sounds about right for a house husband

[Stowfordpress]

About time too

[Romantic Old Bird]

I think that's all jolly sound advice!!

Hear, hear!

[BusyBee]

Just the way things are done in our house NOT. I think if I behaved like that Mr BB would go out and come back in again thinking he'd gone to the wrong house.

[splodge0]

Depends on how you define "single", LEE !!!!!!

[Mairi]

Creation of woman from the rib of man:

She was not made from his head to top him;
nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him;
but out of his side to be equal with him;
under his arm to be protected;
and near his heart to be loved.

[susieq]

Ah Miriam - to bring such romantic prose into such a cynical world. It is very touching, maybe a bit flowery for my tastes but I certainly agree with the .....to be equal to him.. bit.

How women ever fell for that tripe escapes me. No wonder there was a feminist movement if that's the sort of nonsense women in the early 60's were subjected too.

Bet it was written by a man and bet he was American. It reminds me so much of a 'scene setting' for some 60's American sit-com. Yuck!!

PS - if it WAS written by a woman - hope she's since had the good sense to hang her head in shame.