[T*]

My best friend told me that she self harms, what should I do?
I was nearly crying when she told me, I'm very upset and unsure what to do to help her.

What should I do?

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Tom!

My best friend told me that she self harms, what should I do?
I was nearly crying when she told me, I'm very upset and unsure what to do to help her.

What should I do?

Listen to her, talk to her.
Try and talk her into telling an adult she trusts.

[Kate!]

Exactly what Smudgie said. She needs some help. Do your best to persuade her to seek some, and just be there to listen as the lovely caring friend you so obviously are.

[Jack_]

Yeah I had a couple of people confide in me about stuff like this when I was your age, it's really not nice :/

1) You need to try your absolute best to convince her that what she is doing will not help anything and there is no need for her to be doing it, insist that you will be there for her to talk about any problems she has and listen to her/offer advice on whatever she might tell you about

2) Try and get her to tell an adult she knows, either her parents, siblings, teachers, maybe even a school councillor. You need to make sure she does this, if not you're going to have to do it on her behalf. Better to stop this early before it goes any further

Good luck

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Tom!

My best friend told me that she self harms, what should I do?
I was nearly crying when she told me, I'm very upset and unsure what to do to help her.

What should I do?

Ask her why Tom and tell her to seek medical help,you could even offer to go with her if it helps,otherwise, be there for her to talk through any issues,there must be a reason she does it ,and I take it her paernts don't know?

[Crimson Dynamo]

What type of self harming? Its a little bit of a vague term.

[T*]

Originally Posted by Jack_

Yeah I had a couple of people confide in me about stuff like this when I was your age, it's really not nice :/

1) You need to try your absolute best to convince her that what she is doing will not help anything and there is no need for her to be doing it, insist that you will be there for her to talk about any problems she has and listen to her/offer advice on whatever she might tell you about

2) Try and get her to tell an adult she knows, either her parents, siblings, teachers, maybe even a school councillor. You need to make sure she does this, if not you're going to have to do it on her behalf. Better to stop this early before it goes any further

Good luck

She's done it since primary school apparently She's 16.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Tom!

She's done it since primary school apparently She's 16.

done what and why have her parents not noticed?

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Tom!

She's done it since primary school apparently She's 16.

Ah I see :/ well then it's better this ends now before it gets worse

Try and find out the reason behind it (unless you know already) and spend as much time as you can both online and in real life assuring her that whatever it is will be fine and she doesn't need to go to these lengths

[Pete.]

how tragic

Just talk to her - she will appreciate it and as you are best friends you will be able to be a shoulder to try on. this will help her

[InOne]

Tell her to go seek mental health advice and stay well away from the internet

[Me. I Am Salman]

convince your friend to open up to you on her problems, and that you'll always be there for her and will always have an open ear. tell her that you care for her and mention all the reasons why she's so important to you, that she's way too good to be doing something like this. go out to places more. idk like arrange a certain day of the week where you do something fun, maybe meet for coffee or something dno, it'll give her something to look forward to. establish a closer friendship

you could try calling an organisation like childline or something?? I'm sure they can give you good advice on what to do.

[T*]

Thanks for your advice guys, I'll be sure to do this.

[Jessica.]

I have been in the situation where I have been confided in about stuff like this too and tbh it was tough, I completely give no sympathy to self harming any more, she needs to speak to a professional as soon as possible, it's not your job to solve her problems and she will NEVER stop unless she wants to, so don't blame yourself whatever happens. Be supportive about everything else though obviously, I may not have a popular opinion but I am just speaking from experience, the most important thing is seeking PROFESSIONAL help. :|