[LikeABoatOnWater]

So I'm good friends with my boyfriends best friends, the problem is, when me and my boyfriend have a little tiff he runs to this friend and tell him his side of the story, the friend is always really nice to me after this but it still makes me feel uncomfortable.
What should I do?

[AnnieK]

Not a lot you can do. He will always talk to his best friend obviously.

At least he's not arsey with you afterwards which would be far more awkward....

[Josy]

Stop having tiffs

[Z]

At least his friend is nice to you. What more can you expect? People bitch to their friends about stuff that annoys them, that's just life.

[michael21]

Originally Posted by LikeABoatOnWater

So I'm good friends with my boyfriends best friends, the problem is, when me and my boyfriend have a little tiff he runs to this friend and tell him his side of the story, the friend is always really nice to me after this but it still makes me feel uncomfortable.
What should I do?

do you want the answer to be sleep with his best friend

or you could have less tiff

you could also set his best friend up so he does some jail time

[LikeABoatOnWater]

Hmmm yeah probably having less riffs is the answer lol. I just don't know whether to cut ties with my bf friend and just be nothing more than nice when I see him

[Me. I Am Salman]

give him an ultimatum

[Z]

Don't give him an ultimatum, don't demand he chooses you or his friend(s)... that's ridiculous

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by LikeABoatOnWater

So I'm good friends with my boyfriends best friends, the problem is, when me and my boyfriend have a little tiff he runs to this friend and tell him his side of the story, the friend is always really nice to me after this but it still makes me feel uncomfortable.
What should I do?

are you a boy or girl?

[LikeABoatOnWater]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

are you a boy or girl?

I'm a guy, his friend is straight, just to give some persective

[LeatherTrumpet]

This always happens and its part of life - the only solution is to accept that some people are indiscreet and need others to tell them they are great (prob he has love issues with his parents)

either you just ignore it or bin him and move on

[LikeABoatOnWater]

Originally Posted by Z

Don't give him an ultimatum, don't demand he chooses you or his friend(s)... that's ridiculous

What about an ultimatum about not talking **** about me to his friends that i know. I understand the whole concept of releasing but don't release to some I literally come in contact with every day.

[LikeABoatOnWater]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

This always happens and its part of life - the only solution is to accept that some people are indiscreet and need others to tell them they are great (prob he has love issues with his parents)

either you just ignore it or bin him and move on

I'm tempted to call it quits, we will always be amazing friends but I can't deal with someone who doesn't put my feelings first, selfish I know.

[Z]

Originally Posted by LikeABoatOnWater

What about an ultimatum about not talking **** about me to his friends that i know. I understand the whole concept of releasing but don't release to some I literally come in contact with every day.

Would it not be weirder if he was talking about you to someone you don't know? I really don't get what your issue is here beyond the general uncomfortableness of your significant other complaining about you to his best friend - that's what best friends are there for. The fact his friend is still nice to you means that either his friend is really nice and/or the **** he says about you is pretty trivial so his friend's clearly not got a problem with you?!

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by LikeABoatOnWater

I'm tempted to call it quits, we will always be amazing friends but I can't deal with someone who doesn't put my feelings first, selfish I know.

There are things that should be kept between you and him, if he is too weak to do this without bleating to pals then maybe its time to pull the ripcord

[LikeABoatOnWater]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

There are things that should be kept between you and him, if he is too weak to do this without bleating to pals then maybe its time to pull the ripcord

Yeah, are first ever argument was about him telling this friend that I had bottomed for him, my first ever time, he apologised but ever since then I have had no trust in his judgement of what is acceptable to talk about with this friend and that has been the biggest downer on our relationship.