[lily.]

Regarding all the drama of last night… here’s my take on things.

A while back in MSN, Lance and I were discussing how it would be funny if it turned out that I actually knew James in real life because we live quite near each other and I do know a few people from his town. Then we started joking around that maybe I had even gone out with him in the past, as I had also been out with one or two people from his area. Then Lance began to create this elaborate lie about a sordid affair. We were laughing and obviously weren’t being serious. Shortly after, Tanser got in on the joke as well, then it seemed to spread via small comments on MSN and in TiBB.

Now, everyone was well aware that this was obviously a joke and there was no malice or ill intent. However, if anyone had been offended or upset by it, then I would obviously have stopped. Nobody seemed to be upset or offended. James didn’t seem to be taking it any more seriously than anyone else, so I didn’t actually see the harm in it.

Then we had the “snippets” thread. And, of course, that was a perfect opportunity for our more creative members to use the “fake rumour” to create humorous news stories. Again, I didn’t see the harm, as I wasn’t aware of anyone who was upset or offended by it.

Now, after last night, it seems that Sasha has taken all this a tad personally. It was never my intention to get into a fight with anyone, especially over something that is clearly tongue-in-cheek. Things turned sour rather quickly last night, and it’s now blown way out of proportion.

I really do not have any interest in James and Sasha’s relationship. They are both consenting adults and it’s none of my concern. I wasn’t attempting to sabotage the relationship (as has been implied). Nor was Markus (who incidentally is not my “hobbit” and is perfectly capable of making his own decisions).

It’s sad that things got nasty. Sasha obviously presumed that she could say and do anything regardless of Forum Rules because of her online relationship with Forum Admin. I might point out that Kizwiz has an actual relationship with a Moderator, yet she doesn’t abuse this situation to her advantage.

Sasha and I were getting along rather well up until last night. Things have taken a dramatic downturn, which is pathetic, because after all, this is only the internet.

I don’t come here to fight with people. I come here for a laugh and a bit of light-hearted banter. If things have to be taken so seriously all the time, then it’s a sad reflection of what this forum has become.

I’m done.

[stacey]

i dont know what happened last night ill go and read

[Sophii3x]

I thought it was all a big joke, but obviously Sasha took it personal.

[easypeasy]

i always miss out on the good ****.......lmao

[Ruth*Star]

^^I know, When-ever i'm away something big happens

[Jay]

Blimey how can you write that much first thing in the morning lol, what i sore it did look like a joke.

[~Kizwiz~]

This is very noble of you Stropz and I'm sure it clears somethings up.

The snippets thread was clearly a giggle. And there was things said that was far worse than yours honey.

I still don't understand what went wrong and how things got out of hand. I guessed that the tale of you and James was a giggle too........ and I assume most of the other members did.

Now I have also been annoyed at some comments by the other member involved but I shan't go into that. I would just rather that be dropped.

Its a new day so lets just start again.

[Tanser_Man]

Originally posted by kizwiz
This is very noble of you Stropz and I'm sure it clears somethings up.

The snippets thread was clearly a giggle. And there was things said that was far worse than yours honey.

I still don't understand what went wrong and how things got out of hand. I guessed that the tale of you and James was a giggle too........ and I assume most of the other members did.

Now I have also been annoyed at some comments by the other member involved but I shan't go into that. I would just rather that be dropped.

Its a new day so lets just start again.

I knew i took it too far! Dammit.

Don't really know what happened last night but i have gathered bits and bobs. Seems peoples have crossed wires on a few 'nothing' posts, but the beauty of a forum is the chance to make things right and iron out such issues.

Well Done you Stroppy Cow!

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Tanser_Man
I knew i took it too far! Dammit.

naaaaa babe....... it wasnt you...... me and you are used to the banter

[lily.]

Originally posted by Sophii3x
I thought it was all a big joke, but obviously Sasha took it personal.

Unfortunately, yes.

Originally posted by Rebel.Ruth
^^I know, When-ever i'm away something big happens

Whenever something big happens, I'm always in the middle of it!

Originally posted by Jay
Blimey how can you write that much first thing in the morning lol, what i sore it did look like a joke.

I can write that much in the morning because a) It had to be said...b) I think fast ... and c) I type faster!...And yeah, it was a joke. I wish James or Sasha had just told me it was bothering them, then all this could have been avoided.

Originally posted by kizwiz
This is very noble of you Stropz and I'm sure it clears somethings up.

The snippets thread was clearly a giggle. And there was things said that was far worse than yours honey.

I still don't understand what went wrong and how things got out of hand. I guessed that the tale of you and James was a giggle too........ and I assume most of the other members did.

Now I have also been annoyed at some comments by the other member involved but I shan't go into that. I would just rather that be dropped.

Its a new day so lets just start again.

It's probably too late to clear things up, but I've had my say now, and I'm done with the issue. I agree, it's a new day.

Originally posted by Tanser_Man
I knew i took it too far! Dammit.

Don't really know what happened last night but i have gathered bits and bobs. Seems peoples have crossed wires on a few 'nothing' posts, but the beauty of a forum is the chance to make things right and iron out such issues.

Well Done you Stroppy Cow!

You didn't take it too far. It was just taken the wrong way. And, kiz is right, there were far worse things said in the snippets thread, not least about myself.. but, if everyone doesn't take it in the manner it was intended, then it causes problems.

[~Kizwiz~]

A joke is a joke at the end of the day...... if I find something offensive i report it.

The snippets thread was a outlet for a little fun..... it wasn't serious or malicious. So if anyone found my post offensive then I'm sorry too but nobody said they were hurt or upset.

It seemed to blow up out of nowhere and reading back on the threads today I still can't fathom what went wrong.

Seems like its all shrouded

[lily.]

I'm not even going to bother reading back.. I caught the live version and I'm no better informed..

I'm going to make a news story, I just cant decide who my next victim will be.

[MarkWaldorf]

I left like 12:30am, did it all explode then?

[SiMoN!]

I thought it was all a joke, and to me it looked like everone was playing along with the joke

[MarkWaldorf]

Same Simon, I didn't realise she took it personally. No harm intended.

[SiMoN!]

Originally posted by Markus™
Same Simon, I didn't realise she took it personally. No harm intended.

after reading back

it seems she cant tack a joke

[MarkWaldorf]

Originally posted by SiMoN!

after reading back

it seems she cant tack a joke

Seems that way. She's taken the Jamsha thing a bit too seriously. Last night wasn fun though.

[SiMoN!]

Originally posted by Markus™

Seems that way. She's taken the Jamsha thing a bit too seriously. Last night wasn fun though.

lol i missed it


fay to seriously. she can joke about other people but when the jokes on her she dont like it i think

[MarkWaldorf]

Originally posted by SiMoN!

lol i missed it


fay to seriously. she can joke about other people but when the jokes on her she dont like it i think

That's very true. Well done.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by SiMoN!
she can joke about other people but when the jokes on her she dont like it i think

My sentiments exactly. Things have been said about Red and I..... yes I know we joke between us, but I took the recent weeks as light banter.

[Sunny_01]

Hat off to you Stropz!

This is the problem when people like a joke but then they decide it isnt funny anymore without letting anyone else know about it!

Knowing you of old I doubt that there would have been any malice intended Stropz, and maybe people need to think about the intent of posts before they actually make them.

Everyone on this forum needs to follow the rules irespective of who they are or are not in a relationship with, otherwise it makes the rules a waste of time.

I just hope that new day new smiles applies in this case

[Lauren]

I just read the thread now, cos I missed most of the "action" last night.

Well done for the statement, Stropz. You basically hit the nail on the head in saying she couldn't take a joke when clearly humour was intended.

Plus most of her posts last night were wrote in text speak

[Emilee]

WOWZER! How can a joke like that get out of control. Obviously a total missinterpretaion of what happened and was taken to seriously.

Good Statement Stropz.

[GiRTh]

Dammit. I always miss out on the good stuff.

[Lance]

I can't understand how my name was brought into this at all.