[~Kizwiz~]

Thats so true Glittereyes!

Would you all laugh at someone who was too thin??? I dont think so!

[Mrluvaluva]

If that was your kid, would you want the responsibility, and the heartache, of killing someone you loved on your hands, by feeding them crap and making them obese? I know I wouldn't, and I'd do something to change that (not that I would do it in the first place).

[~Kizwiz~]

He is an 8 year old boy, I have an 8 year old, and I make sure she eat healthy and only has fatty food or chocolate in moderation. I think if they were allowed to kids would eat what the hell they liked. Its up the the parents to stop it and control it!

Its the mother that should be ashamed!

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Markus™

You're right, but surely most mothers tell their kids about eating greens, fruit etc. He should be able to take hints of which foods are good for you and which aren't.

I hated veg & salad as a kid, but was made to eat it as it was healthy. Imagine if I wasn't, and just given junk food all the time. Thanks mum.

[Sophii3x]

Has he been taken into care then?
Or are they just talking about it?

[GlitterEyes]

No child LIKES fruit and veg...but you get taught to eat them by responsible parents. The parent in question is very irresponsible...she should of seen he was larger than his friends and cut down on the sweets instead of continueing to give the child what it wants. It seems like the 8 year old runs the house because the parents easily gave into his demands...of course once the parent has given in once the child thinks cool I get sweets if I nag mum until she gives in.

Seeing a plate of healthy greens out on the table and a pack of smarties...children get attracted to "pretty things" and the colourful sweets are alot more appealing to the child..same with packaging of the foods...the parent is there to control the intake of food and look after the well being of the child. It is obvious that the parent has let the child get overweight therefore the parent needs help on how to help their child aswell as the child needing to loose weight with the help of medical advice.

[Red Moon]

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[Lauren]

Originally posted by GlitterEyes
of course once the parent has given in once the child thinks cool I get sweets if I nag mum until she gives in.

Yeah, thats the case here I think cos the mother said that she started giving him snacks between meals and now he demands it and whinges cos he's hungry so she keeps on feeding him the snacks, so he just eats.... and eats... and eats!!

[Mrluvaluva]

On news just now, he's been allowed to stay at home.

[GiRTh]

I think there is too much blaming the parent here. His mother has been diagnosed clinically depressed. This means that she basically can't cope - theres more to it than that but for the sake of this post..

The family need help, the mother in particular.

[Lauren]

Originally posted by BAZG
On news just now, he's been allowed to stay at home.

He should be made to go to mandatory fat camp or something, it'll help him in the long run.

[GlitterEyes]

I think it is certainly a cry for help on the parents part and the fact he can stay at home shall be good for both of them hopefully. The mother can seek help on how to help him loose weight and also seek help for her needs. I don't think it is JUST the parents fault but surely other family members could also see that the child has a serious issue with his weight so should of mentioned it to the mother....or even friends of the family.

If the parent had of nipped it into the bud it wouldn't of got out of hand and that is why parents I feel should carefully monitor what their children eat. The fact it is all out in the open now is good because she can get whatever help she needs to attempt to her her and her childs life back on track. Also other parents who have watched the show it will help give them a bit of a kick up the butt and to start thinking about what their own kids eat.

[Sophii3x]

Originally posted by BAZG
On news just now, he's been allowed to stay at home.

That's a relief for the mother!
I saw him on the news yesterday. He did say that he was going to try and eat veg and fruit and go on his trampoline.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by GlitterEyes
I don't think it is JUST the parents fault but surely other family members could also see that the child has a serious issue with his weight so should of mentioned it to the mother....or even friends of the family.

It is ultimately the parents responsibility, and if they do not look after their kids properly, then they should not be allowed to have them in the first place.

[GlitterEyes]

Yeah but what I am saying is if she is having problems too...it is not entirely her fault...it is hard enough being a parent sometimes without any medical issues but family members must of also seen the child has issues and would of had a word with the mother. Now if the mother HAS been told by various friends and members of the family and chosen to ignore it then thats very irresponsible and she doesn't deserve to keep the child.

[Mrluvaluva]

The difference is - I would get some help to sort the problem out. No. I would demand it!

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by GlitterEyes
Yeah but what I am saying is if she is having problems too...it is not entirely her fault...it is hard enough being a parent sometimes without any medical issues but family members must of also seen the child has issues and would of had a word with the mother. Now if the mother HAS been told by various friends and members of the family and chosen to ignore it then thats very irresponsible and she doesn't deserve to keep the child.

His grandmother for all intents and purposes looks after him. The mother is to blame but it's not all her fault.

It's a tricky one to call I think they need help and education and not just our moral indignation.

[GiRTh]

Did you see the show? It was pretty tragic and his mother clearly couldn't cope.

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[Lauren]

Originally posted by GRiT
Did you see the show? It was pretty tragic and his mother clearly couldn't cope.

She should have enlisted help at the earliest possible stage before it got out of hand and ended up as a fatal problem that she could no longer cope with.
Now they both need help.

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[Emilee]

I think it is aweful. To get like that must be soo horrible.

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[Siouxsie]

to be honest i have the complete opposite problem with my child. i have difficulty in trying to get him to eat.I ve tried him with all sorts of food. (Does that make me a bad mother cos he wont eat) His diet consists of beans bread mashed potatoe he hates meat and veg but will eat burgers he hates fish but loves fruit. I worry about him but he seems fit happy and well. I only hope he changes his diet as he gets older.

[andybigbro]

My Mum told me about this it sounded really upsetting

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Siouxsie
to be honest i have the complete opposite problem with my child. i have difficulty in trying to get him to eat.I ve tried him with all sorts of food. (Does that make me a bad mother cos he wont eat) His diet consists of beans bread mashed potatoe he hates meat and veg but will eat burgers he hates fish but loves fruit. I worry about him but he seems fit happy and well. I only hope he changes his diet as he gets older.

No. It makes you a good mother, because you try to get him to eat, as he doesn't that much. His mother, imo, just feeds him loads of crap on demand because she doesn't give a toss.

[Lauren]

Sue - just make sure your son gets the right amount of protein and carbohydrates in his diet and his fair share of fruit and he will be ok Nothing to worry about, as long as he seems fit and healthy.