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Pro Life - life begins at fertilisation | 3 | 6.38% | ||||
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Pro Choice | 34 | 72.34% | ||||
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Mixed - e.g., pro-life but the 24-week limit should be dropped | 10 | 21.28% | ||||
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12-07-2017, 03:12 AM | #26 | |||
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Coming from the guy who said Question Time's sexist against men because the women weren't banned from asking questions. Anything favourable you've got to say about women is obviously always gonna be taken with a pinch of salt.
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12-07-2017, 08:15 AM | #27 | ||
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this is the episode with the 4 women on the panel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fWRlLDi4eqA this is the episode where all men were banned from aksing any of the main questions https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ewSpXOdB8w 100% total double standards on the so called impartial bbc i emailed the producer about it, she ignored my email and never replied |
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12-07-2017, 11:18 AM | #28 | ||
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Pro Choice, I often find that Pro Life is often a misnomer. A lot of hardcore pro lifers do not care about the life of children, they only care about foetuses which is why they seek to pass laws like this one, which has just recently been passed in Arkansas.
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12-07-2017, 03:19 PM | #29 | ||
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I am prochoice. I would say that the limit should be lowered possibly, but I wouldn't really label myself as 'mixed' because of that tbh. I do not understand how on earth we could police the 'someone I know had 5 abortions last year' stories either as forcing women to go through with pregnancies doesn't sit right with me, nor does forced sterilization. But using abortion as a contraceptive...whilst vanishingly rare, does exist as yes unfortunately, a few sick people are like that...is also really wrong. As mentioned by others in the thread, I also find it rather weird that the most pro-life of people also tend to be vehemently against said children once born being supported. Its all well and good saying abortion should not be allowed except in cases of rape..its not a view I agree with but its a view I cqan understand, but I find it a little contradictory to then go on to accuse (for example) young mothers of 'breeding for benefits' and such. Unless the ultimate message is...females just should not have sex period unless purposely trying for a child? Which is a little bit of an old fashioned view but its the only thing that can make any sense whilst holding both positions simultaneously.
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12-07-2017, 03:28 PM | #30 | |||
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12-07-2017, 03:37 PM | #31 | ||
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I think a lot of people who say this only say it as they feel it will gain their POV a bit more support. As afterall...if they said that women who had been raped should be forced to go through with unwanted pregnancies then that does sound particularly disgusting. It isn't something I have ever thought that much about tbh but yes, it is a bit of a peculiar view to hold actually... Something I have always wondered about those who believe 'life begins at fertilization' is...are they also really against the morning after pill? As that works by halting a pregnancy AFTER conception in many cases It does seem like those with the strongest views on the rights of the fetus over the female are males. I am sure females with such strong views exist but they seem to be vastly outnumbered by males. Unless the men are just more vocal about it I guess...where women silently support it :S If biology was flipped, I wonder if these same males would support forcing other males to go through with pregnancies against their will. Or if its just because it will never happen to them...
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12-07-2017, 03:41 PM | #32 | |||
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12-07-2017, 03:47 PM | #33 | ||
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Well I think that too. But obviously the argument would be that yes, it doesn't matter that their views will only affect females, it would be the same if males could give birth and so on. As its all about the fetus, nothing to do with control of womens bodies
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12-07-2017, 03:52 PM | #34 | |||
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Obviously there's no way of proving that but no one seems to give a s**t about what happens to these babies after they're born, just making sure that they are born in the first place so this is why i feel like it's not because they care so much about the "babies" rights
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12-07-2017, 10:36 PM | #35 | ||
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12-07-2017, 10:38 PM | #37 | ||
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exactly, besides 51% of the babies killed are female
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12-07-2017, 11:33 PM | #38 | ||
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Pro Lifers just want to control what women do with their own bodies, it's not about the babies because Lifers don't care once they've been born. Control vs Freedom of choice, that is essentially what Pro Life vs Pro Choice comes down to. |
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12-07-2017, 11:58 PM | #39 | |||
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You said in another thread that people breed for benefits so villifying people for having kids on the onehand and villifying them for not having them on the other
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13-07-2017, 05:09 AM | #40 | ||
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I'm anti - abortion in some ways, pro - abortion in others, like in cases of the mothers life being endangered, or they are in an extremely fragile emotional state, rape, or young teens who haven't matured enough to understand the risks.
Apart from that, no. In this day and age, with contraception freely available anyone who takes the risk should be responsible for their actions. To deny an unborn baby the chance of a life because of irresponsibility makes me so angry. The excuses of 'I couldn't afford it, or 'I don't want to be a single mother' or 'It would disrupt my career' etc are self serving. It is obviously heart rending and hard, but the inevitable emotional and physical pain of going through with having the baby should be borne, and that of giving the child up for adoption to those who long for a child and can't have one. I firmly believe in life from conception, once life had begun there is no going back no matter how tiny and hard to imagine that life is. It is like saying a 1 year old's life is not as important as a 7 year old's in my opinion. |
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13-07-2017, 05:53 AM | #41 | ||
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I'm pro life. This is only MY choice. Many years ago I had an abortion. I have regretted that choice many times. I often think about that boy or girl and wonder what they would have become.
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13-07-2017, 09:02 AM | #42 | ||
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The second thing that changed my opinion on "life starting at conception", is those two miscarriages. The first was upsetting, the second was a bit of a non-event to be honest, but the important part, is that it's clearly nothing like comparing a one year old to a seven year old. I don't feel like a "father of four" who has had two "children" die. And to be totally frank, I sort of think comparing an early-stage miscarriage to the death of a child or even a stillbirth is grossly offensive to anyone who has actually lost a child. Would you genuinely go up to someone who has had a child die in an accident or of illness and say "Hey man, I totally know what you're going through, we had a miscarriage at 8 weeks". It's just not the same, or anything even resembling the same. Also, here's a (for some reason) little known fact: something like 30% of conceptions fail to implant and miscarry within the first two weeks (before the first missed period), without the woman having any idea that she was ever pregnant. Many couples trying to conceive will have multiple of these and never even know. That sounds like an awful lot of child death until you realise that it just... Isn't. |
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13-07-2017, 11:06 AM | #43 | ||
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This is a matter so close to me right now as I have 2 kids right and really do not want another, and I have the implant in and since getting it in a few months after having my son, I have not had any periods at all...seem to have been one of the lucky ones as doctor said you can either bleed constantly or not at all, or stay as normal. So...no period for like 18 months. In the past 3 months I have randomly started bleeding again, which says to me that the implant is no longer effective. As the doctor told me that the way it works, it alters your hormones or something so thats why it can stop periods. But...to me if it stopped me for 18 months then mine start again, its clearly not altering my hormones in the same way so its no longer working. The doctors though, refuse to remove it and replace it. They insist that its effective until next year. They refuse to let me have any other contraception as apparently its dangerous to take 2 at once. So condoms it is, but even those can fail so tbh I have been pretty celibate for 2 months now as I am **** scared of getting pregnant as even double contraception fails are not that rare. So me and my husband are having some issues as he doesn't understand really.. So we are really back to...females should be totally celibate if they do not want a child Ugh. Such a tough topic as I know there are actually people who just don't bother with contraception and then act all shocked when they get pregnant. But I see it from the other side as I am so careful but I know there is still a chance I could have another, that I have neither the time nor the space for. And definitely can't afford another. Ontop of that my last pregnancy absolutely broke me. I have a long term disability now..that seems to have been brought on by giving birth and has not yet gone away... So yeah. Bit of an essay but I can't go for the 'use contraception and you won't have an unwanted pregnancy' thing really. I personally know 2 people who were using 2 forms of contraception and still ended up pregnant so maybe that makes me a bit more paranoid about it...
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13-07-2017, 11:14 AM | #44 | ||
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13-07-2017, 12:51 PM | #45 | ||
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The longer the child is in the womb and the longer one has the child of course the harder and more devastating the emotional impact is going to be. Of course an early miscarriage although hard is nothing like the death of an child who you have given birth to, nurtured, loved and formed a deep attachment to. I was referring to stages of life, not the impact of the loss in that particular sentence. Once life is there, it is the beginning of a life irrespective of its stage imo. My wife holds the same view. If she had got pregnant through our carelessness alone she says she wouldn't have aborted the baby. You say you once had the same view about life starting at conception but your wife's miscarriages changed that view. We have been fortunate enough not to have experienced that and if we had, maybe we would feel differently, maybe not. But it's the view we have always shared and that's that. I have already stated the many reasons where I believe an abortion would be the best choice and of course your own personal reasons are perfectly understandable and sensible. |
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13-07-2017, 01:38 PM | #46 | ||
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There was a period of time when we were younger when my wife was terrified of becoming pregnant again and she did because of one night of drunken unprotected sex. We were struggling financially and I was working away from home so much that I wasn't there to support her as much as I wanted to be. We were stupidly careless, (I didn't want to admit that!) we had the baby (our youngest and adored daughter). What do I make of those who use contraception and it fails? Absolutely pro - choice. I'm only against abortion when it comes to carelessness and particularly selfishness, (even then it's not all black and white and there may be other extenuating circumstances). It's a really tough subject and when you believe in life from conception it is an even harder one than it is for those who don't and are totally pro - choice. Last edited by jet; 13-07-2017 at 02:28 PM. |
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13-07-2017, 01:54 PM | #48 | ||
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I'm not sure logic can be applied to a subject as emotive as abortion. I just don't think it is always wrong and I've already given my reasons.
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13-07-2017, 01:58 PM | #49 | |||
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To me logic should be applied to it though, you either think that an actual baby is dying or you don't though right? I mean if you don't think a baby is dying then what's the problem and if you do then surely it's never ok, no matter what the circumstance? I'm not meaning to sound rude here Jet, I'm just genuinely confused by the people who think it's ok sometimes but not others.
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I had a vasectomy and officially have zero sperm count now (yaaay) and honestly it's the first time in our lives we haven't had pregnancy worries. I still can't exactly figure out if I recommend it or not. For the peace of mind, definitely, and there is now literally no "symptoms" other than the tiny incision scar, but honest to god I have to say... they are ****ing lying with how simple a procedure they make it out to be, and how short they say the recovery is. I was in bed for 4 days, in significant pain for a good 3 weeks, and still intermittently feeling like I had been kicked in the balls for nearly 5 months. So I also totally understand why a lot of men aren't willing to go there. Basically unplanned pregnancies happen, they're a fact of life, no matter how careful people are. The only surefire ways to stop it are surgical, abstinence, and menopause. |
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