[Nicky91]

i have a friend from another forum

she's from Germany, i really feel for her

i've told her that i'm her friend, and she's not alone on that forum





so what can i do, does anyone on here have advice for me i could give her

[Niamh.]

You should respect her wishes and not go on forums telling people about something she didn't want people knowing about Nicky

[Drew.]

You're good with secrets you are

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

You should respect her wishes and not go on forums telling people about something she didn't want people knowing about Nicky

yes but wouldn't it have prevented the bullying if she was just honest about her personal issues


i am her friend, i only want what's best for her, and if she comes back on that forum, and she is continued to being bullied, well things might get worse for her

[LukeB]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

You should respect her wishes and not go on forums telling people about something she didn't want people knowing about Nicky

This

[LeatherTrumpet]

Give us an example of the bullying that she is geting

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Give us an example of the bullying that she is geting

she's being called a troll, cause she defended Timebelle's Apollo all the time, and she called Salvador a joke

just her honest opinion, i admire someone honest

[Braden]

i understand that you're trying to help, Nicky, but telling other people about her condition is inappropriate. It should only be her preogrative to tell other forum members about that.

It's good that she has a friend in you, though. Just try and stick up for her in a way that is critiquing the bullies, as oppose to using this individual's personal life against them.

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

she's being called a troll, cause she defended Timebelle's Apollo all the time, and she called Salvador a joke

just her honest opinion, i admire someone honest

well perhaps calling her a troll is another persons honest opinion?

[Gusto Brunt]

One thing I have never suffered from: DEPRESSION.

Thank the Lord.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

yes but wouldn't it have prevented the bullying if she was just honest about her personal issues


i am her friend, i only want what's best for her, and if she comes back on that forum, and she is continued to being bullied, well things might get worse for her

But why did you have to name her and the forum she posts on to ask us for advise? People won't confide in you anymore if you do things like this after they asked you to respect their privacy Nicky

[Underscore]

Dear oh dear Nicky

[Nicky91]

OMFG i didn't of it that way i feel so ashamed now

i only wanted to do something good for her

[waterhog]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

i have a friend named Melody, not from TiBB, but another forum called ESCforum

she's from Germany, i really feel for her cause she suffers from depressions, anxiety problems, and some are really bullying her a lot cause she's a bit obsessed about her faves, worrying heavily about them

i've told her that i'm her friend, and she's not alone on that forum


i've tried telling the other members on there, about her depression, but she told me not to cause it's something personal


so what can i do, does anyone on here have advice for me i could give her

you just hve to be therefor them. no more no less and you can not do much more.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

OMFG i didn't of it that way i feel so ashamed now

i only wanted to do something good for her

I'm just saying you didn't have to tell us all who she was and where she posts, it was totally unnecessary to do that on here

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm just saying you didn't have to tell us all who she was and where she posts, it was totally unnecessary to do that on here

i feel like a total idiot now

[Nicky91]

me trying to show off my friend on here

[Braden]

Maybe you, Nicky, or a mod, should change the op so the details of the member aren't explicit?

[Littlegreen]

Nicky all you can do is be there for your friend, bullies are just weak and pathetic but they always eventually get their dues.

In future maybe just keep what your friends tell you, with just you two.

[smudgie]

You must make your friend realise it is a game show, her opinions are as good/bad/indifferent as the rest of them including the bullies.
She has three options in the way to deal with the bullies, the 1st is to ignore them, the second is to argue her case and the third is to leave the forums.
You can only be bullied if you allow it, I know that sounds harsh, but you can't normally stop idiots being idiots so you have to deal with it from your own side.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by smudgie

You must make your friend realise it is a game show, her opinions are as good/bad/indifferent as the rest of them including the bullies.
She has three options in the way to deal with the bullies, the 1st is to ignore them, the second is to argue her case and the third is to leave the forums.
You can only be bullied if you allow it, I know that sounds harsh, but you can't normally stop idiots being idiots so you have to deal with it from your own side.

Yeah and unfortunately the internet makes it so easy for people to be nasty because of how anonymous it is.

[LeatherTrumpet]

I would still like to see evidence for this "bullying" and also what the person in question is posting

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

I would still like to see evidence for this "bullying" and also what the person in question is posting

Why?

[Babayaro.]

from another forum is an unusual name? Is it German?

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

Why?

Well what is the point of giving advice if the "bullying" is

"well I disagree I think Switzerland's entry by Sadie Phosphate" was crap and much preferred Yolanda Squatpump doing "I will survive" for Montenegro

meanwhile Melanie (not her real name) replies

"well thats rubbish Yolanda is crap and cant sing a note, the fat cow "

and as Nicky is Melanie's (not her real name) friend and likes Sadie Phosphate he interpretates this as bullying