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26-03-2018, 12:47 PM | #1 | |||
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26-03-2018, 12:49 PM | #2 | ||
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I have seen this before and its a pretty decent analogy tbh.
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26-03-2018, 12:56 PM | #3 | |||
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Well i am pretty sure i dont ask for tea in my sleep but i know that when i woke up on Sunday I seemed to already be drinking some
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26-03-2018, 12:58 PM | #4 | |||
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26-03-2018, 01:10 PM | #5 | |||
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Watched this in class today
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26-03-2018, 01:38 PM | #6 | ||
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Except that the issue of consent that usually comes up isn't covered in this video at all, which is;
What happens if someone has been drinking, enthusiastically declares that they do indeed want tea, happily drinks the tea, and then wakes up the next day feeling unwell and says "Urgh... I didn't want that tea after all... I shouldn't have had the tea." Not being flippant here, just pointing out that in the VAST majority of cases, people do already know that "no means no" and that you shouldn't sexually assault people in their sleep. The issues of consent that need to be addressed surround the issues of "what constitutes capacity to consent", "How drunk is too drunk", "Does ANY inebriation = too drunk" etc. There seems to be a lot of confusion arising from that question. Was hoping the video would go there but it didn't . |
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26-03-2018, 01:41 PM | #7 | |||
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26-03-2018, 01:54 PM | #8 | |||
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I’ve seen this a few times in school and college and think it’s pretty decent tbf at getting the message out.
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26-03-2018, 02:20 PM | #9 | |||
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It's a good start on the issue of consent and kind of entertaining. Good analogy.
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26-03-2018, 02:22 PM | #10 | |||
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Why do you feel the need to flip the debate, it states clearly that too drunk is passed out, so why question that? What YOU are wanting discussed are false accusations of rape, yes that happens but is it the VAST majority of cases?.... No. If you can't or won't debate THIS issue for whatever reason then that's fine start your own thread to debate YOUR issue.
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26-03-2018, 02:28 PM | #11 | |||
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do we really need to reduce things to this level for people to understand what no means? If it is necessary, it doesn't say a lot for our education system.
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26-03-2018, 02:38 PM | #12 | |||
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Is it not aimed at kids on the spectrum who find it hard to decipher things like this?
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26-03-2018, 02:45 PM | #13 | ||
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Educational videos outlining what explicit consent is / isn't are simply not very effective. Areas that DO need tackling are things like "fuzzy" consent, consent under inebriation (NOT to the point of being passed out...), withdrawal of consent (which the video does briefly cover). Also the issue of "pressuring for consent" - which is an area where some people definitely DO need some education. |
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26-03-2018, 02:48 PM | #14 | |||
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:/ So it's schools fault if our children don't comprehend the issue of consent... How?
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26-03-2018, 03:18 PM | #15 | |||
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I think in a lot of cases, people actually don't quite realise that what they are doing is rape. Stuff like coercion and that as you say. Thats fuzzy rape IMO. Like, if person1 bugs and bugs and bugs and sulks and sulks, then bugs some more until person 2 gives in, thats not really consent. While technically person 2 may not actually say no, you have pressured them into it. Quote:
The only time this would be an issue, is if person 1 was clearly out of their mind in drink. But in that case...it would be fairly easy to tell. The only time that becomes fuzzy, is if both people are seriously seriously drunk...in which case I don't think sex could even take place? Unless its only the men I know who cannot get it up when very very drunk :S
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26-03-2018, 03:20 PM | #16 | ||
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What if they ask for tea and I make them coffee but don't realise what I've done until the cup is half empty?
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26-03-2018, 03:23 PM | #17 | |||
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26-03-2018, 03:23 PM | #18 | |||
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26-03-2018, 03:24 PM | #19 | ||
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Also I know this is only one case, but it seems classes on consent can work
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26-03-2018, 03:33 PM | #20 | |||
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assisted in a few pshe lessons where this has been shown - always same response “haha wtf does tea have to do with shaggi… oh wait i get it now”
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26-03-2018, 03:35 PM | #21 | ||
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It goes into physical force a lot more than verbal coercion though... as in, it's not always about picking up the cup and pouring it on someone's face. I think a lot of education is needed around verbal pressure, as I genuinely believe there are a LOT of people (male and female) who believe it's acceptable to "push" quite firmly. So in this analogy it would be like... "Oh go on... it's really GOOD tea, I promise. You won't regret drinking this tea. This tea is totally worth your while. Why do you still not want this lovely tea?" and then, the step further, can split two ways:
1) "Are you sure? Well... I've put a lot of effort into this tea you know. Why did you make yourself out to be a tea drinker? Do you even LIKE tea? I'm going to tell everyone that you hate tea." OR 2) " No one ever wants my tea. What's wrong with my tea? I try really hard but people just never want tea with me. Am I ever going to make good tea? Is my tea really that offputting? I'm really upset. What would help? Well if you would just TRY some tea..?" I personally don't think that any level of this is acceptable, but it clearly happens a lot. I certainly know several guys who frequently used tactics like that whith girls. And I know at least one girl who would "pester" / "guilt" a friend of mine into sex almost every weekend, knowing full well that he was never happy about it the next day. |
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26-03-2018, 04:44 PM | #22 | |||
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Should stick a stick willy on the stick man.
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26-03-2018, 06:03 PM | #23 | ||
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26-03-2018, 06:06 PM | #24 | ||
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Why haven't they ripped a hole in the lady stick?
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26-03-2018, 06:37 PM | #25 | |||
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