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09-05-2018, 10:48 PM | #26 | |||
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It's an extremely difficult question to answer actually.
I think the action itself can be seen as quite selfish. You're ending all your own problems in such a permanent way while leaving behind so much anguish and pain to your loved ones, especially those that find you. But I don't think it's ever something that someone would do without months of internal struggle and it shows above anything why people need to talk more about this.
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09-05-2018, 10:49 PM | #27 | ||
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09-05-2018, 11:04 PM | #28 | ||
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Nope. Though it doesn’t mean I’m encouraging it. People feeling suicidal really should get the help they need tbh...
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09-05-2018, 11:11 PM | #29 | ||
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Jonnii, thank you for your support.
The problem we have here is that the subject of the thread is too broad. Reasons for suicide can be so varied. It's tough to compare somebody who does it in a moment of madness, say, trying to take revenge for perceived mistreatment by others (spurned lover, rebellious child, jealous spouse), people struck by sudden misfortune (bankrupcy, job loss, etc), people who are terminally ill, people with mental problems. And even within those categories circumstances will be different and impact on others may be different. A lonely woman kills herself quietly with sleeping pills and a plastic bag because she can't cope with her MS, a schoolboy kills himself by throwing himself off a bridge onto a busy motorway. He is bullied at school and blames whole society and wants to disrupt other people's lives in revenge. Both suicides, but not the same in their selfishness. Last edited by Twosugars; 09-05-2018 at 11:14 PM. |
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09-05-2018, 11:40 PM | #30 | ||
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As to those with depression not seeking help, life is not that simple. Sometimes people are trapped pretending they're fine because that's what's expected of them. Sometimes people try to seek help and are met with unhelpful or demoralised health service professionals. Sometimes depressed people cannot be persistent and eloquent enough to explain how they feel because depression diminished their cognitive skills. I can give you some examples from my encounters with "help". I moved from one part of London to another 6 years ago. I'd suffered from depression for the last 19 years and my records showed that. The first practice I registerd with at the new address couldn't manage to get my records transferred from the old practice for 6 months. I had to beg for every single prescription of antidepressants until they finally got my records. For the next two years it was smooth sailing. Then I started going downhill very quickly. Went to ask for a referral, a GP told me that I have nothing to be depressed about and should try his life to see what hardship is. So I changed the practice. There first doctor I saw agreed to refer me and then forgot while I waited for 5 months. Went to another who thankfully refered me straightaway. 2 months later had my assessment with a psychiatrist where I was told I have to wait up to a year to see a therapist. During that year they tinkered changing my antidepressants as nothing seemed to work anymore. Finally arrived at something that wasn't brilliant but made my life bearable. The therapy consisted of 8 1hr meetings with no possibility of extension (lack of resources). Try to get your whole outlook on life and unresolved issues sorted in 8 hours. After that psychiatrist had enough and started pressurising me gently to say I wasn't suicidal anymore. I complied and they dropped me. Am I better, yes. Am I cured, no. I'm still depressed and anxious. Sometimes I can't face the outside world. But according to them, I'm good to go. I was persistent because I wanted to save myself for those I love. Others may not have enough strength to battle the system. Geez, I'm giving Maru run for her money with the length of this post Last edited by Twosugars; 09-05-2018 at 11:47 PM. |
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10-05-2018, 12:43 AM | #31 | ||
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Yes but as others have said, it’s unintentional.
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10-05-2018, 01:23 AM | #32 | ||
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Members should start a depression and anxiety awareness group on here.
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10-05-2018, 03:15 AM | #33 | |||
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AS with the other honest posts on here, I am genuinely moved and more than a little disturbed. All too often on these forums, we become so used to unconscious imagery and imagined personas created by avatars and words, that we lose sight of the fact that there are real people - humans - behind the chat and discussions. I have been 'depressed' as I guess most people have at some times in their lives but I don't think that I have ever suffered 'Depression' of the degree being revealed here and my heart goes out to those who are suffering from this. We are all too familiar with the increasingly common reports of medical/surgical patients being kept overnight on trolleys in corridors through a lack of hospital beds and other atrocious and unacceptable 'horror' stories due to the NHS lack of funding crisis, but experiences like yours with the lack of care from Medical profession and Psychiatrists are less well publicised but as equally enraging and SOMETHING must be done to improve this unacceptable state of affairs. I believe wholeheartedly that discussion has a cathartic effect on me and I hope - genuinely hope - that this is the same for you and other depression sufferers on here. My Message Box is always open should you or anyone else ever feel any need to talk - politics or shet - it does not matter. I have been made to stop and think about my views on certain subjects by the contributions to this thread about a subject which I hitherto never thought about, and THAT in itself is a fact to be lauded.
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10-05-2018, 05:19 AM | #34 | |||
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I don't know if I would call it selfish, but I do get interested in what's so wrong in someone's life that they would want to kill themselves?
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10-05-2018, 07:59 AM | #35 | |||
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I think it's actually quite a brave thing to do
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10-05-2018, 08:33 AM | #36 | |||
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10-05-2018, 08:39 AM | #37 | |||
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No I don't think it is and it upsets me when people say that like it's some frivolous decision people make. I can't even imagine how utterly low and helpless and full of despair a person must feel to get to where they think suicide is the only way to free themselves from that. My best friend committed suicide when she was 18 and I know she's not a selfish person and I wish she never got that life stealing disease, depression.
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10-05-2018, 08:40 AM | #38 | |||
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With all due respect LT, a lot of people who end up committing suicide have admitted they have a problem and have gotten professional help
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10-05-2018, 09:02 AM | #39 | |||
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I don't think it is black and white, I think if the person takes their life and outwardly there were no signs and they leave no note it leaves the family behind with questions that will never be answered and also at a loss as to why they couldn't help' so in some ways it can be unintentionally selfish as the person is so wrapped up in their own depression they can't take account of anyone else's feelings, just imagine if your brother, sister, mother, daughter took their life and you had no idea why? I don't know how I would cope with that
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10-05-2018, 09:02 AM | #40 | |||
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10-05-2018, 09:05 AM | #41 | |||
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10-05-2018, 09:05 AM | #42 | |||
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Yes One Lady , I knew was in Love with a Married Man his Wife stopped her Solid She sadly was so in love with him and because she was stopped from seeing him, she killed herself Tragic. Last edited by arista; 10-05-2018 at 09:09 AM. |
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10-05-2018, 09:08 AM | #43 | |||
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Well I was aware that my best friend was suffering from depression and was getting professional help before she died, I was also at a funeral very recently of a man I know who committed suicide and his close family and friends were all aware he suffered with depression and he was getting professional help.
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10-05-2018, 09:10 AM | #44 | |||
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10-05-2018, 09:10 AM | #45 | |||
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She professional help is not enough, on its own for some folks, Valid Points Fine Lady. Last edited by arista; 10-05-2018 at 09:11 AM. |
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10-05-2018, 09:12 AM | #46 | |||
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No it isn't, I do often wonder if she'd waited a bit longer because she was so young would things have gotten better for her but maybe not I don't know. 18 is so young, my own daughter just turned 18 last Monday
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10-05-2018, 09:14 AM | #47 | |||
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10-05-2018, 09:15 AM | #48 | |||
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So sad for you but a note at least is closure of sorts.
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10-05-2018, 09:18 AM | #49 | |||
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I read somewhere though that (or maybe Vicky told me this statistic) that its not that men are more inclined to suffer from depression than women or more inclined to attempt suicide but that they are more inclined to use more violent and therefore successful methods
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