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Old 07-04-2020, 12:49 AM #1
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Hey guys does anyone on here feel like they don’t fit into the world and feel ugly and don’t think that they are attractive ? Cause I do unfortunately I’m someone who struggles with confidence in a lot of things and just life in general

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Sometimes it's best talking to someone professional maybe your suffering from depression or some other type of mental illness.

I think everyone has their down days where they feel similar but if it's a regular thing you feel maybe speaking to someone even if it's a freind or family member may help.
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Sometimes it's best talking to someone professional maybe your suffering from depression or some other type of mental illness.

I think everyone has their down days where they feel similar but if it's a regular thing you feel maybe speaking to someone even if it's a freind or family member may help.
That’s great advice.
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Hey guys does anyone on here feel like they don’t fit into the world and feel ugly and don’t think that they are attractive ? Cause I do unfortunately I’m someone who struggles with confidence in a lot of things and just life in general
You don’t have to fit into the world we are all different and you should always try and look on the positive’s.

Some times I take my daughter to see her boyfriend when he stays at resbite.

There are some young adults who are virtually paralysed from the neck down which is heart breaking to see but alway makes me think how lucky most of us are.

Talking about your worries is always a good thing to do.
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Don't worry about trying to fit into the world; try to make the world fit around you.
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We had a thread from someone else on this very subject yesterday

I think if anyone suffers with mental health this horrendous time of uncertainty will spark a lot of things off

Noone should have to feel like they fit into the world because no person should be the same as anyone else. Everyone should be their own individual it is what makes the world special everyone brings their own take on it and it is needed

If you feel introverted or not as confident dont forget some if the most amazing things brought to the world were brought by the most introverted people.

You do fit into the world your you and thats all that matters
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Don't worry about trying to fit into the world; try to make the world fit around you.
Lovely, it takes all kinds to make up the world, embrace your difference, and make sure you speak to a friend or a family member about how you are feeling Owoaje
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Why does this same thread keep getting made ???
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Why does this same thread keep getting made ???
Its two threads and they aren't exactly the same. Have a little sympathy. Your comment is unnecessary and hardly inspiring to the two people who have been brave enough to express themselves.

Owaoje. To you I would say the world is like a jigsaw. No two pieces are exactly the same but all are needed. You are needed. Take care lovely. Xx
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Owaoje we all belong,we are all different and your difference is as important as ours, you take care and love yourself as others do.xx
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Its two threads and they aren't exactly the same. Have a little sympathy. Your comment is unnecessary and hardly inspiring to the two people who have been brave enough to express themselves.

Owaoje. To you I would say the world is like a jigsaw. No two pieces are exactly the same but all are needed. You are needed. Take care lovely. Xx
When did i say anything bad or unsympathetic? , all i'm saying is similar threads were made. I wasn't sure if it was 2 different people or the same person at first with alternative usernames .
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Owoaje I’ve had similar feelings about myself in the past but I always try to remind myself why I’m a good person and the more positive things about myself to make me feel better. I’ve had confidence issues in the past like what you might be feeling now and tbh I still have them sometimes. Life can be very difficult and for some of us, it takes time to really ‘find our feet’ in life but don’t ever feel as if you don’t belong. I’m sure you have family and friends who love and respect you deeply and like some have already mentioned, it is good to air how you are feeling as talking about it can be a bit of weight of your shoulders.

I do think that this whole lockdown situation is starting to make people think about things like this a lot, especially as we aren’t able to go out much and it’s just making us sit around having these negative thoughts about ourselves and feeling a bit depressed.
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I echo what other people have said in this thread, especially Shaun’s sentiment

Try to think of all the positives in your life and remind yourself just what makes you you. It sounds cliche but the world would be so boring if everybody was the same! Be kind to yourself and look out for yourself <3
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Hi Owaoje, first of all, I have a lot of admiration for you for coming on and making this thread, I made a thread that is very similar to this a couple of days ago.

First of all I completely get how you feel, there's a lot of days I myself feel very worthless like I do not fit in with this world, that If i died i would not be missed. I won't lie I have considered suicide at points in my life and it's mainly been due to not feeling loved, sense of belonging and in general not feeling good enough.

But a lot of these points that you and I have made in our threads believe it or not are very common thoughts that a lot of us human beings happen to acquire each day.

Our Minds can be at the worst of times our biggest enemies, it thrives on feeding us with untrue facts about ourselves and therefore can be quite overpowering towards our own lives.

As far as lack of confidence goes i can totally empathise, I myself am incredibly insecure about the way i look and not only that just confidence in life like you just mentioned. Secondary School years were some of the worst years of my life, it took away a lot of my own confidence and after almost a year of leaving i am still trying to fight to get that confidence back.

I do think it is good that we face these hardships in our lives, because when we overcome these storms we really do grow as people. Since leaving secondary school I've felt a much stronger person, in many ways i thank secondary school for putting me through that time as I wouldnt have as much self awareness and strong will that i may have had before.

Like Dogeatdog said this time of Lockdown is a challenge for us all, when we are home, with nothing to do there is too much time to think its crazy.

What you have to do now Owaoje is to try and discover your'e own self worth, work on noticing how amazing of a person you are and anyone that has a problem with that screw them.

Idk you but if you ever need to talk please do pm we can all get through this together <3
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There is SO much diversity in this world that its important for you to classify what you think constitutes "fitting in". What is it that makes you feel out of the loop? At the end of the day, there is someone - and something - for everyone on this planet, providing you are able to identify what it is that you want out of life.

Find what you love. Find WHO you love. And don't give a **** what anybody else thinks!
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