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03-11-2020, 06:58 AM | #51 | ||
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In seriousness though (opinion piece coming up), the Depp/Heard situation is clearly extremely complex, evidence of violence all round, mixed up in substance abuse and mental health issues. They both clearly have massive personal issues and their relationship was beyond toxic. I think that part of that for Heard is that the toxic relationship sparked joy for her, she probably associates the aggression, violence and craziness with an "intense" or "passionate" relationship as part of her own personal demons (not uncommon) whereas frankly Depp is getting on a bit and was probably getting very tired of it and wanted it all to stop. That's what I hear in the tapes. It doesn't mean he wasn't an active participant before that point of having had enough. Also, the fact that his previous relationships weren't violent really means zip - they were different relationships. In short I think they were both violent and Depps probably wasn't "just" retaliatory/in self defense, Heard has done a lot of lying and manipulating on top but it's all wrapped up in the same thing. Based purely on the tapes that were released you could even say that Heard was the worse of the two, certainly in terms of being emotionally manipulative, but then that assumes they tell the whole story. But as I said to Truth/Brillo/Whoever that multi is, this "Depp pure and innocent, Heard demon" narrative just isn't the real world, it's film/telly territory and completely unrealistic. |
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03-11-2020, 07:09 AM | #52 | |||
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...it’s been found by the judge that on at least 12 occasions, he did abuse her...So this is obviously a win for Amber and a loss for Johnny but more importantly than that it’s a win for domestic abuse victims and a loss for their abusers...and we’re obviously just about to go into another lockdown situation with households having little outer contact...so not a thriving situation for COVID but most certainly a thriving situation for domestic abuse...it’s so important for this to be the focus, rather than two celebrities who appeared to have possibly had a complicated/toxic relationship...He was found to have abused her on at least 12 occasions and that’s pretty horrendous...
...one of the things that I noticed yesterday in some news channels showing them leaving the court on various occasions...this whole thing, each day in court and with the view of the vein of it all...each day must have been so harrowing, so emotionally exhausting...but there were times when Johnny almost ‘skipped out’ and down the steps and waving and smiling etc to his ‘appreciation crowd’...there seemed much more mixed emotions from Amber, the emotional exhaustion showing more in times of her being somber and tearful etc...that never really quite sat well with me because he would also know that this wasn’t just about them either, it was about domestic abuse victims...and he fully knew that he’d abused her, as the judge has declared that to have been fully proven...so he’s really shown little regard to that and the many female victims in the seriousness of this case... |
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03-11-2020, 07:09 AM | #53 | |||
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Depp has never been an actor that i ever liked, he always made my skin crawl for some reason, to the point i couldn't care less what he does in his private life. I just don't want to know about it. As a result, this is a simple case of he lost a court case ... great, now i can continue to ignore him
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03-11-2020, 07:15 AM | #54 | |||
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....I do actually care a lot about this../...their private life because in terms of domestic abuse there is a bigger picture and many layers and especially if it’s Male on female domestic abuse and it’s a ‘popular Male’...
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03-11-2020, 07:15 AM | #55 | |||
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...domestic abuse is a huge concern atm in particular because of lockdown times, which are creating a thriving situation...
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03-11-2020, 08:02 AM | #56 | |||
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03-11-2020, 08:18 AM | #57 | ||
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I think it's doing a lot of damage tbh. Outside of the fact it was clearly an abusive relationship on both sides, the result of this libel trial is now starting a narrative in the papers (and on news shows) that the abusive woman remains the victim in this scenario, regardless of her own behaviours. Extremely damaging and playing into stereotypes IMO. They've both contributed to a toxic relationship, but, as the man, he's the "wife beater" who deserves to be vilified across the newspapers it seems by scum like Dan Wootton, whilst she, as the woman, gets to play act the victim and be the "winner" and anyone who dares point that out is "misogynistic". Nah, doesn't sit right at all. Those are the outdated attitudes Heard has relied on to push all blame onto Depp and destroy his life and career. Last edited by Marsh.; 03-11-2020 at 08:20 AM. |
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03-11-2020, 08:25 AM | #58 | |||
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03-11-2020, 08:28 AM | #59 | ||
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The only thing that's occurred is a scum publication has been given more ammunition to continue publishing half-truths depending on who they are or are not supporting on the whims of the personal preferences of people like Dan Wootton. That's not a good thing and never will be. Last edited by Marsh.; 03-11-2020 at 08:30 AM. |
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03-11-2020, 08:33 AM | #60 | |||
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...the courts case, so far as I believe...?...was ‘don’t call me a wife beater...(..I’m not sure that those were the exact words used by the Sun...)..because I’m not a wife beater...but the courts have proved him to be a wife beater../..abuser with at least 12 serious abuses ...so that is really a win for domestic abuse, surely...when a liar guilty of domestic abuse is proven by the courts to be a liar...
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03-11-2020, 08:34 AM | #61 | |||
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...I don’t understand, Marsh...they’re not half truths..the judge actually used the wording of them being truths...
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03-11-2020, 08:36 AM | #62 | ||
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If you find a misrepresentation and one-sided view of domestic violence to be in favour of a woman, purely for being a woman, and against the man labelled "wife beater" any kind of "win" for any victim of domestic abuse of either gender then I'm kind of speechless tbh. Last edited by Marsh.; 03-11-2020 at 08:37 AM. |
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03-11-2020, 08:37 AM | #63 | ||
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03-11-2020, 08:39 AM | #64 | |||
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03-11-2020, 08:41 AM | #65 | |||
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...it’s a victory for domestic abuse victims because someone who said ‘no I’m not’ when in fact they are...has been found to have lied by a the court judge...
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03-11-2020, 08:42 AM | #66 | ||
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It's really not any different to the story they ran on JK Rowling's husband, giving him the platform to defend his actions and blame the other person. If this was the other way around, NO WAY would Depp be being portrayed as the victim and a "win for victims". |
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03-11-2020, 08:43 AM | #67 | |||
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03-11-2020, 08:46 AM | #68 | |||
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03-11-2020, 08:47 AM | #69 | |||
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03-11-2020, 08:50 AM | #70 | ||
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You take the trial (which wasn't about Heard) but entirely focussed on one side of the story in order to give a scum tabloid more ammunition to post only their own versions of the truth as a positive? The conversation stops here then. Heard does not represent victims, anymore than Depp does. |
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03-11-2020, 08:51 AM | #71 | |||
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03-11-2020, 08:52 AM | #73 | ||
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03-11-2020, 08:53 AM | #74 | |||
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I don't know Marsh, I've seen a lot more people backing Johnny on here and on social media
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03-11-2020, 08:55 AM | #75 | ||
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This "win for Amber" twisting of the whole thing does not sit right at all for me. If the court case did anything, it was highlight the toxicity of the relationship on both sides. The slanting of it to now be that the "victim" has had her justification is repulsive to me and damaging for male victims of domestic abuse. How on earth can they feel comfortable coming forward as it is, and now they have to contend with a famous female abuser being presented as the victim? Stop the world I want to get off. Last edited by Marsh.; 03-11-2020 at 08:56 AM. |
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