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03-11-2021, 07:13 PM | #1 | |||
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Shall we discuss this?
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03-11-2021, 07:23 PM | #2 | |||
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Sure. I’ve suffered for years and am always very vocal about it, needs to be done.
Always here if anyone wants to talk too! Last edited by LaLaLand; 03-11-2021 at 07:23 PM. |
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03-11-2021, 07:37 PM | #3 | |||
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03-11-2021, 07:46 PM | #4 | |||
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It is a struggle Lalaland.
I'm at the stage where I need diagnosed with PTSD, but I am also the type of person who would just be happy and relieved to know that it is PTSD. Probably, (my assumed, to me depression) will stop me getting the tablets needed to aid my PTSD, due to the hassle of it all. But I'm at an age where I reckon I can handle the fact that it's PTSD. So will just soldier on. I do however realise that many men like me just cant talk to anyone about it (ive been lucky enough to have my mate michael, (an ex military guy, who suffers and is medicated for PTSD) popping in twice a week. Or my ex and her kid who I can chill out with at the weekends, but many men don't. Last edited by parmnion; 03-11-2021 at 07:47 PM. |
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03-11-2021, 07:55 PM | #5 | |||
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Honestly, most severe mental health conditions (schizophrenia, bipolar manic depression, etc.) are either (roughly) gender-equivalent or more common in men. Ditto for substance abuse, most personality disorders, OCD and neurodevelopmental conditions. These things are generally accepted.
As harsh as it sounds male ego needs to know its place. If certain blokes are too emotionally immature to open up about their common mental health experiences it’s on them more than anyone (I’m also coming at this topic from a cultural perspective so bear that in mind before you start coming for me).
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03-11-2021, 07:56 PM | #6 | |||
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I do sympathise with people without a solid support network or who can’t make the best utilisation of it for personal reasons (including you, parm.). I hope you’re able to get the help you need soon.
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03-11-2021, 08:06 PM | #7 | |||
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That's a very harsh take on things (the last part) if you dont mind me saying. Also, it's the stigma that stops men seeking help, and is the reason they turn to the only way they think is best for all. Suicide. Last edited by parmnion; 03-11-2021 at 08:42 PM. |
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03-11-2021, 08:07 PM | #8 | |||
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Look at Robin williams, if he can, anyone can. |
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03-11-2021, 08:09 PM | #9 | |||
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Many people do have that network, but a vast majority of them push that network away or to the side because they feel it's a hassle for the network.
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03-11-2021, 08:18 PM | #10 | |||
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03-11-2021, 08:26 PM | #11 | |||
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I’m a bloke myself so it’s not even that. Everyone has the right to access help when they need it.
But male ego in the contemporary sense is rooted in white male supremacy (and the racism thereof) so I’m obviously not here for that per se. That issue needs to be addressed as well. It’s not just about the illness. It’s also about toxic perceptions western society has made men internalise that needs to be dropped.
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03-11-2021, 08:36 PM | #12 | |||
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Could you explain a bit about how your cultural background makes you take such a harsh and intolerable take on the overall problem of mens mental health. It seems you dont see all men as equal when it comes to this subject, so can you explain a bit more please. Last edited by parmnion; 03-11-2021 at 08:39 PM. |
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03-11-2021, 08:39 PM | #13 | |||
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03-11-2021, 08:44 PM | #14 | |||
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Yeah it's definitely a topic that should always be discussed. I feel that a lot of men feel ashamed to talk about any feelings in general and including their mental health. In fact I'm now 31 and have struggled with mental problems since I was 16 but never felt comfortable to talk about it until it got to a severe point this year in which I was close to taking my own life and leaving behind my wife and kids who I love very much that's how bad it can affect people. So yes talking about it is really important and never be ashamed to be open about it
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03-11-2021, 09:01 PM | #15 | |||
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I think parents have a lot of responsibility here as well, if parents spoke openly and encouraged their sons to be more open to talk about their feelings and what's going on in their lives, it would be a good and really helpful way for them to carry that on as men in their later life
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03-11-2021, 09:06 PM | #16 | |||
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03-11-2021, 10:38 PM | #17 | |||
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It wasn't that long ago this all happened actually if you can recall I made a leaving thread and said I wasn't in a good place. I revealed more than I had to those closest to me as it felt safer as noone truly knows me on here and I got advice from a few members to talk to a GP and I did and it saved my life. So people may say this is a dead forum or whatever but it's important as you can share your feelings more easily sometimes
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03-11-2021, 11:02 PM | #18 | |||
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I’m not saying we can’t converge on plenty of common ground or that we’re not all at least fairly similar in certain fundamental ways but in other ways people diverge in a way that’s unique to their own experiences and cultural backgrounds. There’s a lot to say for this line of discussion (naturally beyond the parameters of this thread) so I’m probably going to leave it here for now. I’m not dismissing this thread as a whole, by the way. I actually do think it’s a good idea.
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03-11-2021, 11:04 PM | #19 | |||
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Lol. You don’t know the first thing about me and you don’t know where I’m coming from with my responses. Not being funny but you don’t get to tell me which problem-side I’m on. You don’t know me enough to make that call (if anything we’re actual virtual strangers).
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03-11-2021, 11:11 PM | #20 | |||
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03-11-2021, 11:41 PM | #21 | |||
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It’s so good to talk…not everyone has someone to talk to. Even on here there are people that will listen. So glad you got help and opened up…it’s not always an easy option. |
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04-11-2021, 06:10 AM | #22 | ||
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I struggle a lot with my mental health
Due to having dyspraxia which effects me in so many ways I struggled with my mental health at times at uni Second year was when my mental health was just a nightmare where I considered suicide but luckily I’m still here today |
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04-11-2021, 07:17 AM | #23 | |||
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I was more hoping for an explanation on why your cultural background makes you call someone weak for not opening up about things! |
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04-11-2021, 09:07 AM | #24 | ||
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The absolute #1 problem for men's mental health is toxic patriarchy; other men making men feel weak/pathetic/embarrassed if they admit to anything other than stoicism. It's something that's improving but there's generations upon generations of damage done by the "men don't get emotional" concept. Sadly, it's an idea that women can latch onto as well, it's so deep rooted ... most people will say that they're fine with everyone sharing their emotions but in reality, it's often seen as unattractive in men. I know that sounds a bit MRA but it is actually the case. Certainly far from everyone thinks this way and there are huge variations across social groups and across cultures. But yeah, the idea that "men are tough and solid" is, ironically, the root of mental health issues in men and the reason that suicides are higher. It's not that more men than women are suicidal... it's that they feel too embarrassed to confide in anyone or seek help and just end up doing it.
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04-11-2021, 09:27 AM | #25 | |||
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