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View Poll Results: How sociable/weekend-adrenaline-fused would you be if money wasn’t a hindrance? | ||||||
A lot more than I currently am | 2 | 22.22% | ||||
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Somewhat more-so but I’m content enough with how things are already | 4 | 44.44% | ||||
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There wouldn’t be that much difference | 3 | 33.33% | ||||
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Less (I’d be saving and not searching for coins on my couch to have a drink) | 0 | 0% | ||||
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21-06-2022, 09:57 PM | #76 | |||
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21-06-2022, 10:17 PM | #77 | |||
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I’m obviously not accepting that friend request either.
How low can you stoop in one night?
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21-06-2022, 10:24 PM | #78 | |||
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21-06-2022, 10:29 PM | #79 | |||
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There’s never been a time on here where I considered you to be anything like a forum buddy, let alone friend. Try not to flatter yourself.
That doesn’t mean I don’t think you’re an okay chap deep down. But let’s just respect ourselves in the meantime. M’kay?
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21-06-2022, 10:31 PM | #80 | |||
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Then again there’s no harm in actually getting to know someone a bit better and letting go of old pain and frustration.
I might just be prepared to give you a chance. Let’s just draw a line under all this because it’s actually given me a headache. By the way, the drink you’re talking about is Malta Guinness and I agree that it’s not terribly-palatable (I don’t mind it but it’s not my favourite). You might want to try Supermalt. Your local Tesco will have it if you’re lucky.
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22-06-2022, 07:44 AM | #81 | ||
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This thread was just the rollercoaster I needed to perk me up for work this morning. Who needs coffee?
Anyway, on the thread topic, my youngest daughter has complex learning disabilities and language issues meaning that without very specialist childcare, only me and my wife (and her school… ish) can actually look after her. If I was mega-rich we would probably have a specialist nanny of some sort. And then we could socialise AT ALL, rather than pretty much zero . |
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22-06-2022, 07:50 AM | #82 | |||
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22-06-2022, 08:11 AM | #83 | ||
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Important that you have time to socialise and have time out. Just my opinion btw before you tell me I must be qualified to suggest one. |
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22-06-2022, 08:12 AM | #84 | |||
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This Witch doesn't burn
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This is the plot twist we waited all our lives for, a Parmy and Redway bromance
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22-06-2022, 08:43 AM | #85 | |||
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22-06-2022, 09:04 AM | #86 | |||
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22-06-2022, 09:27 AM | #87 | ||
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It's not that we can't socialise at all - we can EACH socialise (lunch and a few drinks with friends, etc.) but it would be nice to be able to socialise together as well. We get plenty of time together as a couple as we're both 9 - 5 workers, so we have every evening together, it would just be good to actually be able to go out for dinner or go places as a couple occasionally. Not sustainable forever to be fair and we'll likely need to look at care support as she gets older, but she's only 9 so at the moment there's more priority on keeping her regulated and as anxiety-free as possible which means only leaving her with people she knows and trusts. The only family member we've ever been able to leave her with is my sister and she lives 2.5 hours (and a boat ride) away so that's been for "events" (awards ceremonies, weddings, etc.) rather than a regular thing. But yeah on the thread topic, if money was no object I'd totally hire a full-time staff member and palm her off on them regularly . |
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22-06-2022, 09:41 AM | #88 | ||
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Recruitment of PAs can be a nightmare. A lot of people don't want to do it or the individual is too complex for PAs to manage.... Continuity is a big issue which you mention. Not enough resources. Short breaks is an option, but again, like you say, getting regular and familiar staff at the minute is just really difficult....even more so at the minute with a lot of places using agency....some not even fit to work in social care and can struggle to speak English and understand it. Sounds like you manage it very well. Yeah if money was no object then quite a lot of problems would be resolved. You'd entice more people to want to actually do the job, you'd have more resources and access to help, you'd have services that haven't been cut. At the minute, resources are often put more into profound and severe needs and a lot go under the radar. LA just RAG rate, but what else are you suppose to do. |
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22-06-2022, 10:00 AM | #89 | |||
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I hate overly-outgoing people who hone in on the social/private lives of other people (usually people they don’t even know that well) and assume they’re depressed or socially-anxious-avoidant just because they’re not being as gregarious and outgoing as they’d like them to be. Even when money’s not an object many people have quiet intellectual hobbies and tight curated circles of time-tested friends. They’d rather just stay in that lane and play to their comforts in peace than put on an act for people who’ve decided that X is too reclusive for their liking. Not minding your own business when it comes to stuff like that won’t get you far but so many people out there just don’t get it.
That’s not to say that any personally type can’t be depressed (in any shade or form) or socially-anxious but many people seem to conflate social introversion with them and it just doesn’t help anybody. Unless it’s obvious that they’re actually not well, they’re probably just fine. The only reason they’re not cool is people telling them that their quiet lifestyle isn’t cool.
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22-06-2022, 10:01 AM | #90 | |||
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22-06-2022, 11:10 AM | #91 | ||
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tl;dr I'm not 100% on her official diagnoses, but further investigations would be intrusive and distressing so just not worth exploring at this point. It wouldn't really change any of the approaches at present. Again might be something we explore as she approaches adulthood. Last edited by Toy Soldier; 22-06-2022 at 11:11 AM. |
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22-06-2022, 11:40 AM | #92 | |||
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Bless her. What do you think the odds are of her attaining independence once she’s an adult?
For what it’s worth I think she sounds like a really bright girl (in her own way). One thing I’ve gotten to know over the years is that there’s always a lot more to people in general than what meets the eye. An outsider is never going to get the full picture so I don’t write off even people with diagnosed learning difficulties. They might actually be super-smart in a way that they just can’t express to us.
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22-06-2022, 11:51 AM | #93 | ||
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22-06-2022, 11:59 AM | #94 | |||
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Listen, has she tried any medication?
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22-06-2022, 12:02 PM | #95 | |||
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I know certain antidepressants can take the edge off a lot of conditions but there’s only so much I can post about that on a public forum since I don’t want random strangers reading this thread to get the wrong end of the stick and self-medicate their own issues based on what’s discussed here.
I’m dipping for a couple of hours (it’s been a lousy week so far so I need to decompress) but my PM’s always open if you do want to go deeper on this particular topic.
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22-06-2022, 12:36 PM | #96 | ||
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22-06-2022, 12:45 PM | #97 | ||
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Her anxiety levels have upped lately so it's something we might have to reconsider at some point - however with her age (almost 10) it's worth waiting out for a bit to see if it's temporary and hormone related.
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22-06-2022, 04:16 PM | #98 | |||
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Okay.
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22-06-2022, 04:18 PM | #99 | |||
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What’s she tried in the past?
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22-06-2022, 06:05 PM | #100 | |||
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I guess.
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