[GoldHeart]

I know both men & women do this.
But I will never understand why a bloke will be talking to you every day, and then out the blue disappear. Weirdly he's still around but isn't speaking .

It's going on for 4 days now with nothing ,I know he had personal stuff to sort out or so he reckoned. But if that's the case why was he still around & online?? , makes no sense.

[Niamh.]

Someone you were seeing?

[Cherie]

People can be more than strange, but ghosting is probably one of the worst things that can happen to someone

[Swan]

If it was someone you're seeing, it's likely to be 3 reasons.

1.He's not interested anymore and either doesn;t have the balls to tell you, or he doesn't wanna hurt you.

2.He might want to see how much you like him, and hoping you chase him (men do this a lot, it's silly)

3.He might just generally be down and want his space.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Cherie

People can be more than strange, but ghosting is probably one of the worst things that can happen to someone

I always remember that Youtuber that ghosted her dying fan, absolutely awful that was.

With the particular situation that GoldHeart is in, does he suffer with bad mental health?

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Someone you were seeing?

Sort of ..but not really ,it was more a friends having drinks type thing. But we seemed to get on . He use to contact me everyday.

He did say last week he was busy with stuff & personal issues,but if that's the case ... then why still go online. I'm not entirely convinced.

[Cherie]

Can you contact him online GH? If so I would just drop him a message asking him if he has sorted himself out and if he is up a meet...at least you will know where you stand then if the doesn't respond

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

Sort of ..but not really ,it was more a friends having drinks type thing. But we seemed to get on . He use to contact me everyday.

He did say last week he was busy with stuff & personal issues,but if that's the case ... then why still go online. I'm not entirely convinced.

I don't miss that dating scene/trying to figure that stuff out! Usually your intuition will be right though in these situations

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Swan

If it was someone you're seeing, it's likely to be 3 reasons.

1.He's not interested anymore and either doesn;t have the balls to tell you, or he doesn't wanna hurt you.

2.He might want to see how much you like him, and hoping you chase him (men do this a lot, it's silly)

3.He might just generally be down and want his space.

If it's number 2 . Then he can forget it , I was tempted ..but I'm not making a fool of myself .

I hope it's 3. But he's still going online, and of he was genuinely going through stuff & busy , surely he wouldn't have time to go online. Or maybe I'm being too harsh ..but I have a feeling he's got bored & is talking to other people instead .

If he has time to go online ..then it takes 2 minutes to send me a quick message explaining ... surely.

I don't really want to put too much personal stuff on here ,but I think he's influenced by relatives around him. But I told him at the time that he's an adult who can make his own choices surely .

[The Slim Reaper]

Arista does that to everyone at some point, GH. He's too much of a player to be tied down, unfortunately.

[hijaxers]

Originally Posted by Swan

If it was someone you're seeing, it's likely to be 3 reasons.

1.He's not interested anymore and either doesn;t have the balls to tell you, or he doesn't wanna hurt you.

2.He might want to see how much you like him, and hoping you chase him (men do this a lot, it's silly)

3.He might just generally be down and want his space.

Or
4. He's met someone else.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by The Slim Reaper

Arista does that to everyone at some point, GH. He's too much of a player to be tied down, unfortunately.

LOL

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I always remember that Youtuber that ghosted her dying fan, absolutely awful that was.

With the particular situation that GoldHeart is in, does he suffer with bad mental health?

Re: mental health ..I really don't want to speculate tbh , he sort of joked about the spectrum. But I think that's to be taken with a grain of salt.

[parmnion]

How do you know hes been online?

[Niamh.]

The bottom line is, if he is interested, he will contact you, I wouldn't chase him

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

Re: mental health ..I really don't want to speculate tbh , he sort of joked about the spectrum. But I think that's to be taken with a grain of salt.

Hopefully you're correct.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by hijaxers

Or
4. He's met someone else.

This is what I think , or he's enjoying talking to other people. But if that's the case why not just tell me.

We actually we're supposed to meet up again,he cancelled originally due to his personal stuff & busy stuff.

But He seemed happy to reschedule ... strangely today probably would have been the day we met up again. But he hasn't been in contact for 4 days.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by parmnion

How do you know hes been online?

Because he still uses a dating site,and I think he still checks his .com email inbox,he also easily gives out his mobile number aswell.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

This is what I think , or he's enjoying talking to other people. But if that's the case why not just tell me.

We actually we're supposed to meet up again,he cancelled originally due to his personal stuff & busy stuff.

But He seemed happy to reschedule ... strangely today probably would have been the day we met up again. But he hasn't been in contact for 4 days.

oh, so you were supposed to meet, he cancelled and then went off grid, I would say delete his profile in that case

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Can you contact him online GH? If so I would just drop him a message asking him if he has sorted himself out and if he is up a meet...at least you will know where you stand then if the doesn't respond

I have several ways to contact him Cherie, but I really don't want to be that girl who runs after a guy saying "ohh where are you" ," what happened " etc .

I know I keep ranting, but it just feels hypocritical of him as he himself told me.... he got ghosted by a girl he was going to meet before me .

[hijaxers]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

This is what I think , or he's enjoying talking to other people. But if that's the case why not just tell me.

We actually we're supposed to meet up again,he cancelled originally due to his personal stuff & busy stuff.

But He seemed happy to reschedule ... strangely today probably would have been the day we met up again. But he hasn't been in contact for 4 days.

He honestly seems like a waste of time ~ probably done this to others sadly.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by hijaxers

He honestly seems like a waste of time ~ probably done this to others sadly.

I know this sounds a bit like pot kettle black as I'm sharing on here ,but from what he told me after our first meet up ... He basically over shared at home about stuff . And he was told not to meet me again, he made out he wasn't paying attention to that...but I don't know.

I think he gets swayed easily , he told me he thought I was pretty & a nice person ..but he knew we had different interests, I agreed with him but I told him he's an adult who can make his own decisions,and we got on as friends. But what's weird is he still kept contacting me, until 4 days ago.

[LeatherTrumpet]

They have got a better offer

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

I know this sounds a bit like pot kettle black as I'm sharing on here ,but from what he told me after our first meet up ... He basically over shared at home about stuff . And he was told not to meet me again, he made out he wasn't paying attention to that...but I don't know.

I think he gets swayed easily , he told me he thought I was pretty & a nice person ..but he knew we had different interests, I agreed with him but I told him he's an adult who can make his own decisions,and we got on as friends. But what's weird is he still kept contacting me, until 4 days ago.

Was it cultural? The family telling him not to see you again

Tbh if he is overly influenced by his family it is probably for the best

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Was it cultural? The family telling him not to see you again

No , but his mother is critical. I think she's got high unrealistic expectations for him re: the perfect woman. He told me she acts like Hyacinth Bucket.