[~Kizwiz~]

After reading the prostitution thread, several issues emerged on how we perceive sex.

Unless you sell your body its not illegal and gone are the days when you had to be married before you 'did the deed'.

Do you believe that sex is wrong before marriage or does it not bother you?

If someone is promiscuous would you care or would you think they are less of a person for sowing their wild oats?

Its it ok for males to have one night stands and not women?

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by ~kizwiz~
After reading the prostitution thread, several issues emerged on how we perceive sex.

Unless you sell your body its not illegal and gone are the days when you had to be married before you 'did the deed'.

Do you believe that sex is wrong before marriage or does it not bother you?

I have no problems with sex before marriage. I am nearly 40 and am not married. I would have to be a saint to have held out until now. Sex is enjoyable and there is nothing wrong with it as long as it is consensual between 2 adults in private and what you get up to is of no concern of others as long as it is not affecting anybody else.

If someone is promiscuous would you care or would you think they are less of a person for sowing their wild oats?

I wouldn't think any less of anyone. As long as they were careful, I don't see a problem. Of course, if they were doing it every night I would be having discussions with them about it.

Its it ok for males to have one night stands and not women?

In my opinion it is ok for either. What is the difference? Why discriminate? One rule for men, and another for women? All of that "He's a stud but sh'es a slag" is bullshit.

[Ruth]

Do you believe that sex is wrong before marriage or does it not bother you?

No I don't think it's wrong. I lived with my husband before we got married, and more and more people are choosing not to get married at all.

If someone is promiscuous would you care or would you think they are less of a person for sowing their wild oats?

If it was a friend, and I thought s/he was doing it because they were insecure or were 'looking for something' - or if they were doing it because they thought it would make people like them - I would be concerned only for their welfare. If someone is happy, then fine - who am I to judge? The only thing is that if you are sleeping with someone for the sake of having sex and nothing else, I think it is only right to be honest about it, and not let someone believe that it is going to lead to something more.

Its it ok for males to have one night stands and not women?

The gender is irrelevant to me.

[Jackie]

1 It doesn't bother me sex before marriage,never has done,you wouldn't buy a pair of shoes without trying them on first would you?
2I wouldn't think less of someone if they were promiscous,id tell them to be caredfull though.
3Its always been that way and i will never change.

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by ~kizwiz~
Do you believe that sex is wrong before marriage or does it not bother you?

Absolutely not. Sexual compatibility is important in a marraige.

If someone is promiscuous would you care or would you think they are less of a person for sowing their wild oats?

No. If they were carful there would be no issue.

Its it ok for males to have one night stands and not women?

This is a stigma that will always be with us. Personally, I think one night stands are for desperate people but I wouldn't think any worse of a man or woman for having them.

[Dr43%er]

I don't believe in marriage so it goes as read that I say you don't need to be married to have sex.

I could not care if someone chooses to have sex with people they had never met before. Male or female.

Me, I have had many one night stands over the years. Some, a couple of them we did not ask each others names. If I remember rightly I only said 10 words one time before we headed of. With that in mind I think it is safe to say I think one night stands are ok.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by ~kizwiz~

Do you believe that sex is wrong before marriage or does it not bother you?

I find the fact that some people wait till they are married quite odd, like Jackie quite rightly said, you would buy a pair of shoes before trying them on would you? There is a certain compatibility that needs to be balanced, sex drive is also compatible too. So if you were to wait till the big day I would say you are going in with a blind fold on.

If someone is promiscuous would you care or would you think they are less of a person for sowing their wild oats?

Not really no, as far as I am concerned so long as they were careful and safe then it doesnt really matter. Plus I am a firm believer that you need to experience sex and each person you sleep with adds something to our sexual being. If a friend was having one night stand to try and compensate for lack of self esteem or that they think that by having one the person they were with really must care about them then I would certainly have to say something.

Its it ok for males to have one night stands and not women?

Personally I wouldnt be bothered if someone sleeps around be them male or female.

[GiRTh]

So we're all agreed then.

[Tom]

Do you believe that sex is wrong before marriage or does it not bother you?

No. Excuse the way I've worded this but if you are buying a car you would want to take it for a test drive to make sure its OK. I think the same applies to finding a potential husband or wife.

If someone is promiscuous would you care or would you think they are less of a person for sowing their wild oats?

I would be a hypocrite to say I care and its wrong.

Its it ok for males to have one night stands and not women?

No. Historically, women have only been there for men, have done domestic chores for men but they have also looked good for men. The idea comes from that each woman belongs to a man. But recently times have changed and women now theoretically have the same independence as men and both sexes are now equal. So if women are looked down upon for sleeping around then men should be as well, or if men are looked up to if they have sex wherever they can then women should be as well. Again, I would be a hypocrite to say otherwise.

[xDramatick]

Something happened to me yesterday that kind relates to this.

I was having a convo with a mate that's confused about his sexuality, and he's dabbled in sexual experiences in the past, and asked me if I'd do certain favours for him. I told him I wouldn't because that's not my sorta thing, like, I'm happy to do that sorta stuff but not with him? THIS ISNT MAKING SENSE, but like. I'd rather be in a relationship and stuff?

&his reply was like 'it's the 21st century, loosen up', which I find interesting.

Are people more flexible with their sexualities and more free about having sex because times have changed?
I disagree with him, but I just thought I'd bring it up.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Darenn

Are people more flexible with their sexualities and more free about having sex because times have changed?
I disagree with him, but I just thought I'd bring it up.

Thats an interesting thought, I am not so sure if its a free thing... but I have noticed that lots more younger people are saying they are bisexual rather than straight/gay.

There seems to be a change in times were its more expectable to switch between the 2 sexes. Whether or not that relates to how free people are I am not sure.

My personal view is that he had no right to tell you to 'loosen up' as what people do with their sexuality is each to their own

[Dr43%er]

As Kiz said.

[Legend]

Sex before marriage?

Not atall. Why a signature and a few vows makes any difference I'll never know. That said, marriage has never appealed to me so I'm bound to say that otherwise I would have died a virgin.

To me sex is a bit of fun, nothing more and nothing less. If both parties are up for it then what's the harm in a quick bit of fun every so often? You're not doing anybody any harm and it's also nobody else's business what two people get upto in private.

Providing people have sex because they want to and don't feel the need to or feel pressured into it then I think it's completely fine whether it be with a partner of 10 years or with Joe Bloggs off the street.

[Matt10k]

Few things that could be immoral (to me): Person has an STi they know about but makes no effect to protect others from it, person cheats- is not single, has sex with an underage person or with someone who doesn't consent, makes no effort to stop themselves getting pregnant despite the fact they don't want children but more importantly would not be able to properly look after them if they did, impregnates someone and cuts all ties afterwards.

If you avoid that minefield I don't think it's immoral at all but then there are some religions that see sex as wrong or immoral too or those that think sex before marriage or outside a relationship ie one night stands are wrong but I personally don’t subscribe to any of these ideas...

[Sunny_01]

What an interesting thread!

I of course being a good catholic girl do not believe in sex before marriage seriously I have no problem with sex before marriage, in fact I think it is healthy to know your partner intimatley before marriage.

One night stands are fine if both parties are happy with that, in fact I think they can be good for you!

Who cares if it is a man or a woman who has lots of one night stands!

As for sexuality, I hate being labelled. Yes I am married to a man, thats because he is the person that I fell deeply in love with, but I have and probably always will find some women attractive, its human nature. I think we have little control over who we fall in love with. You love who you love at the end of the day.

[Mrluvaluva]

Well said Sunny. There are still a lot of stereotypes around, but slowly by slowly things change from generation to generation. Maybe one day we will just accept each other for the individuals we are. Different people have different views, and as long as their views are respected, even though not necessarily agreed with, then maybe things can get better.