[Callum]

Well about a month ago I fell out with my best friend. We were just arguing about the silliest things and that. It was a spur of the moment thing and i decided i didn't want to speak to him/be friends anymore, he said he felt the same. And since then, we haven't talked at all. He hates me for some reason. But since we fell out, he has really changed, he's so different as to what he was like before, and it's scary to see someone change so much. He always ignores me in school and I always get the feeling he's talking about me. We were such great friends before, I've known him nearly all my life and I'm upset about losing a friend who I've known for so long. We used to have such a great time, but now it's not the same all my other friends are great, but I really want my best friend back. I just want it to go back to the way it was before.Does anyone have any advice?

[Conzors]

Stop Arguing with Him?

[Nicky.]

I had the exact same thing a few years ago..

What i did was i started hanging around with the people she was hanging round with.. and then over about a month, we were talking again and everything =) x

[xDramatick]

Sometimes it won't go back to how it was.
Sometimes it's just better that way.

Everyone will probably disagree with me but if a relationship [not as in love, duh] isn't gonna work out, then I wouldn't force it too much.
I fell out with someone recently and I've been happier since, because I've realized they kept dragging my mood down.


On the other hand, if I'm just completely rambling here, go with what Conzors said. >.>

[Callum]

We don't even speak no more.
I can't hang around with the people he hangs around with, because they don't like me either, for no reason at all, and I've known them a long time too, they just side with him! Sometimes he talks to my friends, but he just blatantly ignores me.

[Nicky.]

Hmm.. thats a hard one ..

Could your friends your hanging round with now hang round with them, with you there ? ..

Then he might have to talk to you ? x

[Dan_]

Perhaps you could ask to speak him in private and just tell him how you feel and see if you can resolve your issues.

[Callum]

He just won't talk to me, and I don't know why.
He's fine talking to everyone of my friends, but not me.

[Nicky.]

Hmm thats a tough one x

All i can say is just try and mingle in with his group..

and try saying Hi and just basic stuff to him.. and see what he says ? x

[Callum]

I have lots of confidence, but when it comes to this, I get like so nervous. I want to speak to him about it, but now that he's changed, it's much harder, and I don't want to cause a scene. It's real awkard, and even if I tryed to speak to him he'd probablly walk away.

[Callum]

It's so hard though, because we've been best friends for ages, and I never thought it would end up like this.

[Nicky.]

Hmm...

Your best bet i say is just talk to him ...

either tell him how you feel..

or just say Hi, and how are you a few times in passing and see what he says x

[Christina]

Oh my gosh this was like the exact same thing that happened to two of my friends. I ended up sorting them out lol. And now there talking again. Maybe you could get a friend to go and talk to him for you (thats what i did), get them to tell him that you miss the days when you were best friends etc.. Good Luck x

[Callum]

But I'm scared that he'll say he doesn't want to be friends anymore. I'd tell him online but you can't tell what anyone really thinks online. I just want to be friends again, but I don't think I'll be able to tell him face to face.

[GiRTh]

This is a real tough one. If you've tried to patch things up with him and he's refused then there's not much you can do. I know that not much advise but trust me I've been here if he's not prepared to listen to you then there's not much point in trying.

Having said that I know what it's like to fall out with a close friend so I understand that you're upset.

If you can get him into a room with say another person so that you can talk about your differences then maybe you can patch things up.

[Callum]

Thanks for the great advice guys. We are both in the same school production play, and it's the 1st performance next week and I'll try and have a word with him about this at the end of the show.

[Shaun]

Aw, I remember having arguments like that with a couple of friends, but luckily they worked out fine. I lost what was formerly a good friend, but because he continued to play me and other friends off against each other, and would constantly bitch about one to the other. We eventually got rid of him

I hope things work out, Callum.

[x.Nicola.x]

I fell out with my best best friend last year, we didn't speak for about two months, but he texted me saying he was sorry (we'd been argueing aswell) and said he would like to give our friendship another go. I accepted his apology straight away and it was abit strange being back on speaking terms at first but we soon forgot about it and now our friendship is stronger than ever.

I think it is probably just a matter of who makes the first move. Send him a letter or a text saying how you realise you were being daft for argueing and you would really like to talk about things and become friends again. Tell him that your friendship means alot to you. It is probably just that neither of you want to apologise first because of the awkwardness of the situation.

Hope that helps x

[Callum]

It's tricky though because like we've both made lots of new friends, and although I want to be his friend again, I've got a feeling he doesn't want to be mine. He doesn't seem like the same person that he was before.

[luvin-bb-since-no1]

same thing happend here but i was actually like taking punches and stuff from him!
then in english we did group work and i went in his group but as we were jotting down ideas we sortov started laughing at jokes and before i knew it we were talking again! so just try and be around him more and see what happens!
hope this helps,
josh

[Callum]

We'll probably be in the same classes next year, so we might start talking then. in the meantime, i think i'll stick with my other friends at the moment, i've started seeing sides to my ex best friend recently which has made me think if i even want to try and give our friendship another go or not.

[serensilver]

write him a letter if you dont want to talk to him or literally go up to him confidently and say lets stop being stupid we had a row now lets get over it!

[Mrluvaluva]

I think the letter idea is good. Although I do not know your friend, and I can only go by the info you have given us, it sounds to me like he did not want fall out and only went along with what you said because he may have felt stupid when you said you did not want to be friends any more. Ignoring you is childish, but maybe he was mad at you for ending your relationship and is trying to hurt you, even though he really does not want to. I bet he feels more stupid now for the way he has acted and maybe cannot face you. If you let him know in a letter that you don't resent him and just want to be friends again, he may realise just how silly he is being. It's worth a try.


And to luvin-bb-since-no1. If an ex best friend puched me, then there would be no way I would be friendly with them again. With friends like that, who needs enemies? Someone who cared about you would not do that and are not worthy of having you as a friend. Maybe it's time to get some new ones.

[luvin-bb-since-no1]

yer i know but ithin it was coz his parients were gettin divorced and stuff and his girlfriend left him so..

but yer were like best buds nw lol

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by luvin-bb-since-no1
yer i know but ithin it was coz his parients were gettin divorced and stuff and his girlfriend left him so..

but yer were like best buds nw lol

I understand what you are saying, but there are other ways to release your anger. Not really fair on you is it?