[Loukas]

I'm not being myself. I'm very snappy and arguing with EVERYONE. I know im a teenager and i blame hormones however what can i do

Yesterday i banged my elbow on chair and screamed, my mum told me not to scream when i hurt myself, it killed! I said to her "please leave me alone" angrily they told me don't get angry.

I'm not perfect, i said "I'm not perfect, i was angry because i banged my elbow, so please just let me calm down, she looked at me all upset and that pissed me off, my hormones went mad so i stormed out the house. Without a word. My mum called me said hello and i hung up. Then my dad called me and was like your not old enough to leave the house without telling us where you are going, i was going to call him and tell him what happened, he went on about random stuff that didn't matter. I hung up. After 5 mins i just hung up. I came back 6 hours later at 7, and my dad screamed at me called me, a stupid, selfish, arrogant idiot, i went to my room for the rest of the night, today i left the house told my mum i was going park, i went to the westend. Should i talk to them about it or??

To make it worse my sexuality is pissing me off, i tried to tell the boy i liked i was bi and i liked him and i just burst into tears like a baby!!! I just couldn't do it, he said don't be upset i just went home and havent really spoken to him since!?

WHAT DO I DO!? Help!?!

[Billy]

Conor, is that you?.



No im kidding, but like you said it's hormones, it'll get better in time.

[AlexBigBrother]

ive been a tosser recently too!

[JOSHUAH!]

I've been like that lately, I just get really angry when something goes wrong I just blame it on being a teenager its just mad!

I don't know if you should speak to them, it seems all a bit to serious to sit them down and talk about it! I'd just say if I get angry don't blame me, its just a stressful time?

Being Bi must be more stress because you want to tell people but maybe you feel like you can't. I think mainly though everyones angry and snappy as a teenager because I am and I get really stressed over the tiniest of things.

[Lauren]

Loukas - I know this isn't very good advice, but the best you can do is stick it out.

You should count yourself lucky you have such a supportive group of friends around you that will never stop liking you cos of a few hormonal changes, and the same goes with your family.

There is a reason people say the teenage years are the worst ever, you're bound to be feeling emotional (both happy and sad!) and sometimes it won't make sense.

You're still yourself, you know that, and your friends know that.
As for the guy you like - I say go ahead and do it. He sounds very supportive, and you can't do anything wrong by telling him.

Good luck.

Edit: About your parents - I think you should apologise to them for being out of character, explain you think it's your hormones and they will appreciate your attempts. I'm sure they already understand though

[DamonJ]

Am I the only relaxed, un-angry teenager here?

[Christina]

Ive been alot more fustrated recently i think its because of my nan but the other day i was just lashing out at anything. Its soo unlike me but i was screaming, punching, kicking and throwing anything in site. I hate it when i become like this because i always used to be soo happy. And i find myself swearing under my breathe and i would never swear in front of anyone so i dont know why ive been doing it recently. Tbh i think its a part of growing up.. teens tend to go through these stages, recently ive been thinking about this. I just hope it passes through and i become happy again lol. Yesterday and today ive been more like myself. Maybe it will be the same for you too x

[Loukas]

Thanks Everyone.

Lauran i think i should take your advise, Joe, the guy i like is quite understanding, he is like one of like 5 boys in my school who are NOT homophobic. However, i love the relationship i have with him right now i don't want it to change..

About my parents i think i should talk to them now, but i think they have gone to bed without saying goodnight. The first time EVER!!

[Christina]

Yay thanks for helping me too Loukas x

[rachb]

Can I add a bit from a parents side
I think the important thing for all of you to consider is that you share the same or most of the same frustrations as each other.Even though it was a long time ago for me I can still remember being a teenager and all for the wrong reasons.It's the point in life when you're not sure if you want to be a child or an adult.
But try talking to one or both of your parents now is the best thing.Pick a time when you aren't angry and when they aren't and tell them how you sometimes feel,by that I mean how angry you get sometimes.Try not to start an argument about the things that triggered the upset.
The main point is to remember that they were once a teenager too even if it was a while ago and I can bet that at some point they had times like you're having.
Also try and remember that being your parents isn't an easy job sometimes-that's not to say that your bad or any different than anyone else but knowing how to do the best thing for you isn't always easy either.
I really regret some of the arguments I had with my parents but I know that after all the years they don't hold them against me.It's only now having my own child that I realise it isn't that easy and although I do my best I sometimes ponder on how to handle some situations.Oh and when my little boy is doing something I don't like my mum is always around to tell me that I was much worse at that age!
It will pass but for now you are stuck with your hormones I think the best thing is just to make sure when you're not feeling angry that you have some nice time with your parents to balance things out.
As for the boy problem Doubletrouble if he's any good then he'll understand and if not then he's not worth worrying about.
Right enough of my waffle I'm making myself depressed about my teenage memories,I hope that helps in some way xx

[Sunny_01]

Rachb with wonderful advice. You hit the nail on the head from a parents persepective.

I would add that getting angry and blowing things out of proportion is not an exclusivley teenage thing to do so dont let people tell you it is. I regularly blow up and then later think gawd what an idiot I was. I suppose the key is to take something from everything, look at how your actions might have fueled things and do something about changing that in the future. You could also like Rach said ask your parents to give you some space at times.

[Loukas]

OMG! Thanks for the advise Rach and Sunny!! THATS GREAT ADVISE!! Thank You!!

I will take it when they get home.

As for the Joe situation, he asked me to the cinama.. just me and him

[Jake!]

We all get like this all the time, the majority of the time I'm a complete twat, I just say to get through it is baisically tell yourself that it isn't you and trust me you'll soon calm down. And have fun at the cinema. I wish I could be that upfront about that sort of stuff.

[Emzy-!!]

I think everyone goes through the stage where one day your happy and then the next week your angry with the world, i think it's all part of growing up.
I also think if this boy you like doesn't like you back, you should move on otherwise you might miss an opportunity with someone cuter!!!!

[Bells]

Thinking back on it, it must seem a bit weird that all this stemmed from you banging your elbow? But on a serious note, arguments between teens and parents usually do develop from the smallest of things. You've accurately pinpointed hormones. I feel the exact same way as you sometimes, and did even more in the past. You've got to remember that your parents do really care about you though, and probably get upset and worried.

They try to disguise it with anger at first, but deep down they are upset about it because they do love you (even if you don't think it at the time and are extremely angry at them). Your teen years are as good as you make them, and if you spend all of your time worrying and arguing, you're essentially wasting them. I know dealing with it is easier said than done, particularly because it's taken me long enough to follow the same advice.

Putting your head down and getting on with things will really help. Before you know it this low point in your life will be over - you just need to be strong enough to deal with it, or find some way to cope. Your parents should understand if you talk to them in a calmer manner. Maybe whenever you happen to feel better, you should make it a point to talk to them, express how you're feeling with them and get things off your chest be it about good things or bad. Parents can give really amazing advice! Try and make it a regular thing, since bottling feelings up is never good.

In terms of the boy issues, I do think you should tell him. What have you got to lose? You'll probably constantly regret the fact that you didn't.

[Nurse57]

For anyone who is stressed out.

Just in case you've had a rough day, here is a stress management technique recommended in all the latest psychological texts, the funny thing is that it really works!

Picture yourself near a stream. Birds are softly chirping in the cool mountain air. No one but you knows your secret place. You are in total seclusion from the hectic place called "the world."

The soothing sound of a gentle waterfall fills the air with a cascade of serenity. The water is crystal clear. You can easily make out the face of the person you're holding under water.

[Matt10k]

You may be a tad young but try doing a few weights or exercise. You won't have the energy to be pissed off afterwards- it can really help.

[MrGaryy]

The joe situation - you have nothing to loose really. If you don't tell him then you could be haulting something special. If you do and he hates u, well then he obviously isn't the right guy for you.

[Scarlett.]

Loukas, its just teenage years, I think I am nearing the end now as I am able to control my anger a lot more, my advice? just try your best not to hit out at other people, its likely you will do, but just remember it isnt cause you are a bad person, its just your body trying to cope with stronger feelings.


Hope that helps mate!

[bronaaaa]

ive been like that the past week to. write down how you feel or play sport to get your anger out