[Ninastar]

I was kinda hoping for advice because my mum always drinks. It always makes her turn bitchy and never talk to me or my sisters. I tell her every single day she needs to stop and she always says she will but she doesnt.
Is there anything I can do??

Sorry if it sounds pathetic but it really gets me down/really angry.

[MR.K!]

Sorry

Switch the vodka for lemonade.

Sorry.

[MR.K!]

Seriously talk to your sisters about it mabe you can all talk to her ?

[Ninastar]

Its not vodka lol. Its wine. She drinks loads of it tho x

[MR.K!]

Originally posted by Ninastar
Its not vodka lol. Its wine. She drinks loads of it tho x

How much ? Is it excessive ?

[Lewis.]

Swap it with Ribena

Naah, seriously though. When she is sobre tell her how much you hate it. Turn on the waterworks My mum is the same sometimes

[Novo]

Get her to go to AA meeting's If you think it's really Bad

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by MR.K!

How much ? Is it excessive ?

Ermm like 4-5 glasses?? I dont know if its alot to you but it is to me

[MR.K!]

Originally posted by Ninastar

Ermm like 4-5 glasses?? I dont know if its alot to you but it is to me

There could be a reason. Sometimes when people are depressed or lonely they can turn to alcohol. Mabe you could get to the source of her unhappyness ?

[pinkmichk]

thing is there is nothing you can do if she has a addiction to it she needs to be the one to realise that and get help i've dated someone who liked a drink and there is no helping them they get defensive and stuff they need to say for themselves yes there is a problem i need help

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by MR.K!

There could be a reason. Sometimes when people are depressed or lonely they can turn to alcohol. Mabe you could get to the source of her unhappyness ?

Well her es is dieing of lung cancer and she always talks to him about it cause his wife doesnt like to hear it. She is still friends with him so it is hard I guess x

[Billy]

Speak to your mum, if that doesn't work then speak to your dad or another adult.

I know how you feel cos my mums damaged her liver due to (we think) alcohol consumption, so if you ever wanna chat or anythin then gimme a u2u x

[MR.K!]

Originally posted by Ninastar

Well her es is dieing of lung cancer and she always talks to him about it cause his wife doesnt like to hear it. She is still friends with him so it is hard I guess x

Thats really sad. Mabe its something you cant fix, mabe its just natural. Im sure she will get better so stay positive.

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by MR.K!

Thats really sad. Mabe its something you cant fix, mabe its just natural. Im sure she will get better so stay positive.

Thansk x

[Lauren]

Instead of taking her drinking as the problem, take her reasons for drinking as the problem. Alcohol... 90% of the time... is for escapeism. Either to escape the downsides of "real life", or to create a false image of yourself. For your mum, its the first thing. There's nothing you can do to stop it, but you can start by realising the drink is making her ignore you and your sister - it's nothing you've done wrong, and it's not even your mums personality to do that. It's completely down to the drink, so don't feel that there is any blame to be placed.


Secondly; your mum must be very unhappy at the moment. I assume for the reasons you told us. Maybe you could just ask her how she is, randomly during the day (when she's sober?) - she'll realise you're concerned for HER, and not her drinking.

Good luck and stay strong

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by Lauren
Instead of taking her drinking as the problem, take her reasons for drinking as the problem. Alcohol... 90% of the time... is for escapeism. Either to escape the downsides of "real life", or to create a false image of yourself. For your mum, its the first thing. There's nothing you can do to stop it, but you can start by realising the drink is making her ignore you and your sister - it's nothing you've done wrong, and it's not even your mums personality to do that. It's completely down to the drink, so don't feel that there is any blame to be placed.


Secondly; your mum must be very unhappy at the moment. I assume for the reasons you told us. Maybe you could just ask her how she is, randomly during the day (when she's sober?) - she'll realise you're concerned for HER, and not her drinking.

Good luck and stay strong

thank you SO much!! You dont know how much that means! x
Your so good at advice its unbelieveable!!! x

[bronaaaa]

Aww Nina
I like Lauren's advice, I read in a book that if you see things from their point of view and not form their problem, people tend to appreciate it more and sort themselves out over time

[Christina]

My dad used to be an alcholic, he had to go to hospital to make him realise he needed to stop. Sometmes it's the best way. Maybe talk to a family member about it and say that it's worrying you
Good luck

[lily.]

Caitlin, this site will help...

http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

It's not anyone's fault. These things happen, but it's down to the person to decide how to deal with it. Al-Anon is for families/friends of people who drink. They're a really good source of info and support.


Edit to add: http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/alateen is the part which will possibly be more relevant to you since you're young.

[Ninastar]

Awww thanks everyone. And thank you Lili both sites are interesting!! x x x

[lily.]

Anytime.. Xx