[Ashley.]

I somewhat disagree with people who say that you're "born" gay. While this is the case for some people, I think some people can "develop" homosexuality in their later life and begin to show an interest for the same gender over a certain period of time.

What are your thoughts on this?

[Livia]

"Born with it"?

It's not a disease.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Livia

"Born with it"?

It's not a disease.

You were the first to mention that word. I wasn't thinking about diseases when I wrote this.

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

You were the first to mention that word. I was thinking about diseases when I wrote this.

were you thinking along the lines of say an affliction or a curse?

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Livia

"Born with it"?

It's not a disease.

Maybe she's born with it

Maybe it's Gaybelline

[Dollface]

Originally Posted by Kyle

Maybe she's born with it

Maybe it's Gaybelline

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Kyle

Maybe she's born with it

Maybe it's Gaybelline

[Daniel.]

I'm gay and I didn't choose it. from as young as I remember I've been attracted to guys and it's been out of my control

100% natural, any other suggestions are stupid imo

[Niamh.]

I'm not gay so I can't really have an opinion based on anything other than what I hear gay people say and the very big majority believe that they were born gay so I'm happy to take their word for it. Does it really matter that much either way anyhow?

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm not gay so I can't really have an opinion based on anything other than what I hear gay people say and the very big majority believe that they were born gay so I'm happy to take their word for it. Does it really matter that much either way anyhow?

of course its an interesting thing and it leads into other areas like the gay voice/accent debacle

[Daniel.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

of course its an interesting thing and it leads into other areas like the gay voice/accent debacle

Most gays don't have this.

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Daniel_

Most gays don't have this.

are you quite sure?

[Daniel.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

are you quite sure?

Yes

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

of course its an interesting thing and it leads into other areas like the gay voice/accent debacle

I think the "gay voice" isn't about being gay it's just about the person. Some gay people are quite flamboyant and that's when the "accent" comes out.

[LeatherTrumpet]

dominant mother and no father figure?

i dont think you are born with it as such but it cant be just how you are raised and by who due to the numbers and the fact that it was the same 1000 years ago etc

its just a thing that you have 100 babies 5 will end up being a a gay and ending up on Tibb

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

dominant mother and no father figure?

i dont think you are born with it as such but it cant be just how you are raised and by who due to the numbers and the fact that it was the same 1000 years ago etc

its just a thing that you have 100 babies 5 will end up being a a gay and ending up on Tibb

[LukeB]

I think it develops as you get older

[Daniel.]

I was raised by a lad like football loving dad and my uncles and cousins are boxers aswell so I really just think your born with it, I defo had a father figure

[Tom4784]

Nobody chooses their sexuality. You're born gay, straight or somewhere in between and nothing can impact or change that.

People coming out later in life will not have chosen to be bi/gay, they would have just repressed that side of themselves.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

You were the first to mention that word. I wasn't thinking about diseases when I wrote this.

Your phrasing could have been better.

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Nobody chooses their sexuality. You're born gay, straight or somewhere in between and nothing can impact or change that.

People coming out later in life will not have chosen to be bi/gay, they would have just repressed that side of themselves.

This, surely the only answer.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Livia

Your phrasing could have been better.

Done.

Originally Posted by Livia

This, surely the only answer.

There's no incorrect answer to this question.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

Done.

There's no incorrect answer to this question.

If you say so, Ashley.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Nobody chooses their sexuality. You're born gay, straight or somewhere in between and nothing can impact or change that.

People coming out later in life will not have chosen to be bi/gay, they would have just repressed that side of themselves.

But is it possible that one can like the opposite gender all their life, and end up falling in love with someone of the same gender?

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

But is it possible that one can like the opposite gender all their life, and end up falling in love with someone of the same gender?

I'd say that they were bisexual with a massive preference towards the opposite gender or that they repressed their bi/gay side.

Sexuality is not something that can change. No one would choose to be gay or bi if it was a choice, life is harder for anyone who isn't straight.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Nobody chooses their sexuality. You're born gay, straight or somewhere in between and nothing can impact or change that.

People coming out later in life will not have chosen to be bi/gay, they would have just repressed that side of themselves.

This really, says it all for me.