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09-11-2018, 09:33 AM | #101 | |||
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You can’t write off an entire culture’s mode of discipline kids as lazy parenting just because it doesn’t resonate with modern western standards. In’t that a tad offensive?
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09-11-2018, 09:34 AM | #102 | |||
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09-11-2018, 09:35 AM | #103 | |||
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Well, it's more than an opinion in Ireland actually as it's illegal here to hit your child
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09-11-2018, 09:36 AM | #104 | |||
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09-11-2018, 09:36 AM | #105 | |||
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It all comes to poor parental skills.
You don't need money or violence to avoid your kid being a little brat.
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09-11-2018, 09:37 AM | #106 | |||
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Except the post you agreed with said "Perhaps if someone had put their hands on him when he was younger" not when he was 15.
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09-11-2018, 09:37 AM | #107 | |||
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That’s half the world down as poor parents then.
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09-11-2018, 09:38 AM | #108 | |||
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Livia’s damn right either way.
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09-11-2018, 09:39 AM | #109 | ||
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By all means outline to me how and why it is a good idea independently, psychologically and scientifically and then there's a discussion on its merits. "It's just the way we do things!" is none of those things and says absolutely zero about the merits of the practice. |
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09-11-2018, 09:40 AM | #110 | |||
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It's offensive to disagree with using physical force against a child? I don't think it is no in the same way I disagree with alot of cultural treatments of women in middle eastern countries for example or FGM in some African cultures, is disagreeing with those practices in the name of culture offensive? And if so call my offensive by all means
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09-11-2018, 09:42 AM | #111 | |||
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Parents of my generation that I would know very well don't hit their kids as far as I'm aware, I've never seen family or friends of mine hit their kids and alot have spoke about being against that sort of discipline too, that's anecdotal of course but that's all I've got I'm afraid
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09-11-2018, 09:42 AM | #112 | |||
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09-11-2018, 09:42 AM | #113 | |||
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You said it
Disagree.
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09-11-2018, 09:44 AM | #114 | |||
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09-11-2018, 09:44 AM | #115 | |||
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09-11-2018, 09:45 AM | #116 | ||
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So you're argument is that they shouldn't be hit as a small child, and then START hitting them as a teenager? When a "little smack on the bum" would be undoubtedly ineffective and inappropriate, so what would be the method? A swift backhand to the face? Being pushed up against a wall? In what possible version of reality are either of those things preferable to a reasonable and respectful conversation?
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09-11-2018, 09:45 AM | #117 | |||
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And the other half of the world has more respect for elders than Britain does. That’s the funny thing considering their parents are crap according to British standards.
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09-11-2018, 09:45 AM | #118 | |||
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Once again, I'm not British and I find it offensive that you keep referring to me as that, especially considering our history. Hitting your kids is illegal in Ireland, it's not in Britain.
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09-11-2018, 09:46 AM | #119 | |||
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You know what I’m saying. Calling parents from non-Western countries lazy and crap parents because you don’t agree with their mode of discipline is more offensive than anything I’ve said on this thread.
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09-11-2018, 09:48 AM | #120 | |||
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LMAO. When it’s gotten to the point of some stupid kid standing up to a grown man like he can reasonable conversation takes a backseat.
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09-11-2018, 09:48 AM | #121 | |||
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It really isn't. I'm not British, stop calling me that. Thanks.
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09-11-2018, 09:50 AM | #122 | |||
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Maybe it’s just my cultural perspective talking. That’s why these conversations are hard to have with people from purely Western cultures.
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09-11-2018, 09:52 AM | #123 | ||
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Because fear and ingrained response =/= respect, and I would counter that what you are identifying as "respect" is little more than Pavlovian dog training, and completely unrelated to true, deserved, ideological respect. |
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09-11-2018, 09:56 AM | #124 | |||
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Look at this guy trying to quantify traditions passed down from generation to generation.
“Respect for elders is a bull**** concept.” That attitude’s the reason why the kid was bold enough to call the bus driver a prick in the first place.
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09-11-2018, 09:56 AM | #125 | |||
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Just because something is part of a culture doesn't make it ok and un-challangable, there was plenty in my culture (IRISH) that was wrong but we're changing that as time goes by, I have no issues with someone who isn't Irish saying they think something Irish people do as a cultural thing is wrong
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