[Twosugars]

For me, the bigger issue than hostility was when I was single and some of my straight (and doable) male friends were so chilled out about it all that I started getting ideas. So started flirting until I realized I was barking up the wrong tree.

[Daniel.]

Remember the longest shower in history

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Twosugars

For me, the bigger issue than hostility was when I was single and some of my straight (and doable) male friends were so chilled out about it all that I started getting ideas. So started flirting until I realized I was barking the wrong tree.

I’m so ugly this happens to me with gay guys

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Daniel.

Remember the longest shower in history

Crab claws FLEW

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by Elliot

I’m uncomfortable meeting new people where I live in general tbh. It’s quite a rough area filled with a lot of nasty people. As a result people in big groups give me anxiety in general. All my close friends are from elsewhere. And the most homophobic people I’ve met in my life happened to be women lmao

I think if i got homophobic abuse from a woman I could take it bc I’d just turn round and say her hair and contouring was ****, or smn like that, but don’t think that’s gonna work on a man

Originally Posted by Twosugars

I temped in a very macho office for a few years and it was hard work at times. But in the end rewarding. Tried answering all the questions which were many. Some were standoffish but majority wasn't hostile, just wanted to crack a joke sometimes. As I say, it was rewarding bc I was able to, erm, put them straight about gay stuff.

Thinking about work, there’s only one guy whose given me an issue or made comments that have been sly digs and I guess that’s just what I expect from every guy

[Daniel.]

To the straights

I used to have a friend like five years ago who qould randomly kiss me on nights out and walked me home holding hands etc who said he was comfortable but idk it seemed a bit much

I mean how comfortable is comfortable

[Moniqua]

i'm at an all boys school so i'm cordial with a lot of str8's

my only close friend is gay however

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by Daniel.

To the straights

I used to have a friend like five years ago who qould randomly kiss me on nights out and walked me home holding hands etc who said he was comfortable but idk it seemed a bit much

I mean how comfortable is comfortable

Sounds like Marsh

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Daniel.

To the straights

I used to have a friend like five years ago who qould randomly kiss me on nights out and walked me home holding hands etc who said he was comfortable but idk it seemed a bit much

I mean how comfortable is comfortable

I would say he's likely bi or at least fancied giving it a go. I do know a guy that thought he'd try out "being bi" until it actually started going somewhere with one guy and then he was like "WAIT err I think I'm actually straight after all" and ran off.

And then he outed the guy to a load of people before he was ready. But that's another (horrible) story .

[Twosugars]

Originally Posted by Smithy

Thinking about work, there’s only one guy whose given me an issue or made comments that have been sly digs and I guess that’s just what I expect from every guy

There's always one **** like that everywhere.
I think we are lucky bc it's getting better. Gays in the media help and straight men have realized we're not a threat to them. You've seen yourself with the rugby guys. I think this is becoming a new norm.

[Twosugars]

Originally Posted by Moniqua

i'm at an all boys school so i'm cordial with a lot of str8's

my only close friend is gay however

how cordial?

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Smithy

Sounds like Marsh

Marshogyny only likes the D because he hates women and doesn't have any other choice when he wants to get his willy wet.

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Twosugars

how cordial?

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by Twosugars

There's always one **** like that everywhere.
I think we are lucky bc it's getting better. Gays in the media help and straight men have realized we're not a threat to them. You've seen yourself with the rugby guys. I think this is becoming a new norm.

Yeah, both jobs I’ve had over here has had one person like that.

Does it get better or do we just get better at dealing with it/used to it?

[Ant.]

When I fell out with my straight friend he started accusing me on having a crush on him which was always wild bc he knew I was dating someone so I just sorta huffed like "lmao guess the straights can't handle being friends with a gay guy!" and it was always a wild thing for him to believe given the fact we werent even affectionate at all. Like he'd see me snog a gal friend knowing full well it means nothing and me and him wouldn't even hug. someone accused him of homophobia like "just cuz Ant's gay doesn't mean he's crushing on you YA HOMOPHOBE!!" like thanks queen x

on the topic of homophobic abuse, i got called a ****** while i was out by a guy and I wanted to cry what a nasty het boy

[Ant.]

Originally Posted by Smithy

Yeah, both jobs I’ve had over here has had one person like that.

Does it get better or do we just get better at dealing with it/used to it?

If Tomasz/Isaac is anything to go off, it is that it does, in fact, get better

[Tony Montana]

Originally Posted by Ant.

When I fell out with my straight friend he started accusing me on having a crush on him which was always wild bc he knew I was dating someone so I just sorta huffed like "lmao guess the straights can't handle being friends with a gay guy!" and it was always a wild thing for him to believe given the fact we werent even affectionate at all. Like he'd see me snog a gal friend knowing full well it means nothing and me and him wouldn't even hug. someone accused him of homophobia like "just cuz Ant's gay doesn't mean he's crushing on you YA HOMOPHOBE!!" like thanks queen x

on the topic of homophobic abuse, i got called a ****** while i was out by a guy and I wanted to cry what a nasty het boy

Should've kicked his ****ing head in Anthony!

[Moniqua]

Originally Posted by Twosugars

how cordial?

cordial to the point when they inevitably say something problematic (happens a lot)

i've blacklisted HEAPS of str8's during lunchtime discussions including;

"i'M whItE BuT i caN StiLL saY tHe N wOrd"
"F*ggot this, and F*ggot that"
"Women are property"

deadass everybody bar the asians at my school have said some fooked up problematic shit at one point or other

[Ant.]

I remember being really upset bc on my second day of high school I got called gay and when a high school team I was in found out we would be going away one of the guys said to my face "ugh if we're sharing rooms I'm not sharing with Ant because... yknow" and like. We'd be in separate beds. He'd know if I tried to do anything. And I think he knew that I wouldn't do anything bc he was clearly saying it as a jab and not like a concern like "oh ant's gonna feel me up!!" like. ok. in fact on that trip a teacher (who was drunk) asked me if i was gay like. huh

[Ant.]

Originally Posted by Tony Montana

Should've kicked his ****ing head in Anthony!

I was gonna but my boyfriend already flipped him off and they got angry and I was like "we're in the middle of a retail park and he's wanting a response so I won't give him one" but I got home and I swear I was nearly crying which was dramatic bc I never get insecure about my sexuality

[Ant.]

it was so weird after I left high school bc I met straight guys and they weren't repulsed about me at all which was kinda sad bc I've just grown up with straight guys doing jabs at me. The only guy friends I did have ended up being gay so I never really had a friendship with a straight guy and it was really weird bc being friends with a straight gu is different from being friends with a straight girl/any girl. Like with my gal pals I'd kiss them and hug them and be really affectionate and say "i love u!!!" and I just didn't feel comfortable doing that with a straight guy. And I'm a p affectionate person and even with my gay guy friends we've talked about how much we've platonically loved each other and been up all night talking and it's never meant anything romantically. It's just weird how I don't feel comfortable doing that w/ the straights

[Tony Montana]

Originally Posted by Ant.

I was gonna but my boyfriend already flipped him off and they got angry and I was like "we're in the middle of a retail park and he's wanting a response so I won't give him one" but I got home and I swear I was nearly crying which was dramatic bc I never get insecure about my sexuality

Aww I'm sorry to hear that That guy was probably a closeted gay himself and was attempting to impress his friends.

[Twosugars]

Tbf some straights still find us disgusting but those are usually ****ed up about sex and/or gender identity so We are only one of many other problems they have.

[Elliot]

Originally Posted by Moniqua

cordial to the point when they inevitably say something problematic (happens a lot)

i've blacklisted HEAPS of str8's during lunchtime discussions including;

"i'M whItE BuT i caN StiLL saY tHe N wOrd"
"F*ggot this, and F*ggot that"
"Women are property"

deadass everybody bar the asians at my school have said some fooked up problematic shit at one point or other

Same. They used to joke about it in some classes too and never get told off or picked up on it either...

[Liam-]

Straights that can have conversations with you about guys like they do with fellow straights and girls are the best