[Sunny_01]

Hey Chris - hows it going today? Parents splitting is never easy, it is a really confusing time for everyone involved especially you and your sister.

All I can really say is give it time, time is a wonderful thing in terms of how you feel, how things turn out etc.. I know that might sound pretty lame but it's the truth.

You will be upset about this, its normal and ok for you to be upset, dont hold back, ask any questions that you might have, speak to both of your parents and get them to help you understand and accept this sad situation.

Remember you are not alone, you still have 2 parents that love you even though they are not together anymore, you have a sister and friends who care about you and you have us guys to offer you an e-shoulder when you need it.

Take care honey and if you want to talk U2U me xxx

[Wiglet]

How are you feeling today?

Sunny has spoken much of what I would have said if I'm honest but she knows you and I don't so can add a more personal touch. Just want you to know even though I don't know you I'm still thinking about you and I'm here.

My parents never split for good but when I was 14 my dad left for 24 hours and it was the most sureal 24 hours of my life. He actually slept in the back of a truck up where he worked and came home the following morning. He didn't come in the house, instead he continued to build the wall outside our front garden like nothing had happened?

Because I thought 'That was it!' My parents were finished for those 24 hours, I had so many emotions running through my head but shock must have been the big one. You need time to get used to what is going and only time and the support of your family and friends will get you through this.

You're a popular lad here, you will get a lot of support. Take care.

[natjake2504]

i am sorry to hear that.

My mum and dad spilt and i think its the best way least you no then that they are not staying together just for the kids.
I would of been worse if they stayed together as they probally would not of been happy

[Kristen]

Chris this is a really hard situation and the same happened to my best friend.

Now, two years on, she says she got through it with the support of other loved ones. She also saw a counsellor and I know this might scare you a bit as a common miscomception is that people that get counselling are 'mental' which is a load of rubbish.

Stay strong and I know you will get through this

[Chrizzle]

Thanks for the advice and stories guys.

Today was looking better in the morning my Mum text to ask to come back, but it seemed it wasn't what anyone wanted, they had a chat together.

I had tea just me and my dad, and i know it sounds, as the twins would say, cheese mcsqueezy, but its just really sad, and hard to get used to.

[the_stillness]

I am always sorry to hear stories about Parents splitting up. It is never easy and Chrizzle - it is not definite that things may stay that way!! parents can split and then get back together in time to come. My parents split for two months once. A massive argument which happened while I was at School - I came home and found that my dad had left and gone to his mum and dad in Doncaster - where they live. But after a month, they started talking over the phone and after about 6 weeks, he came back for a couple of days - left again and then came back permanently. Ever since then - no problems, [touch wood]

I hope you are lucky like I was and it is only a tempory situation. However bad an argument can get - things can get better, if both make it that way! Perhaps you can do something to mend things?

[sol]

Good luck with it all Chris. Must be a very difficult time for you.

[Sunny_01]

Hi Chris, just wanted you to know that I am still thinking about you.

Sitting down to meals and stuff that you usually do as a family will be hard at first but you will get a new kind of normal and routine over time. It is still very early days and you never know what is around the corner. Me and my hubby have split up before and it is awful but given the time to calm down and talk we have been able to work things out.

Hope you keeping your chin up though xxx

[Ann]

aww Chris its sad to hear that I hope everything turns out how it should bless you friend

[MarkWaldorf]

Chris, I know this is weird, but my parents split it up last night. I didn't wanna say anything because it was just after yours. I didn't know what to do.

But they had a chat this morning and they 'got back' together.

[Ann]

aww Markchap that is brill news mate

[Princess]

Awww yay Mark!

[Bells]

I'm really sorry to hear you're having a difficult time.
Always remember though, both of your parents love you as much as they did before. That, at least, should never change.

Although things are difficult now, you're lucky in the sense that you're older and more mature, so you will probably be able to handle it much better. I understand that it must have come as a huge shock, but at the same time even you will be following in the footsteps of your sister and will be leaving home soon. That's why you need to remain strong for both of your parents, and let them see how you're coping.

If anything, now that things are difficult between them, they may be finding it easier to cope and express things themselves.
It's a much healthier environment now, I'd have thought, rather than them being in the house together with a tense atmosphere or them constantly arguing.

You can always U2U me whilst my Internet plays up, and when you can let us know how you're getting on. Good luck. xxx

EDIT: Good to hear that Mark.

[Chri$]

Awwww Dont Worey Chris

If they dont hate eatch other thats Great because my dad hates my mum and dosent care about me my sis or my mum but you will get thro it like me!

Go & Give ur sis a BIG Sloppy hug lol

[Hugo]

Just try to concentrate on other things. I have experinced it and the little things WILL get you like holidays. But it will pass. And you realise that you will be much happier living in friendly atmosphere rather than funiture getting thrown across the room. It will gte better

[Retroman]

Family issues are hard...
My dad abandoned me and my mum soon after I was born because he didn't want a child. To add insult to injury, he then got with another woman, married her and had a boy and is still with them today.

Then I had a step dad, who raised me until I was roughly sixteen. My mum cheated on him through the internet and left me with him, he then turned into a violent alcoholic...

I then moved in with my ex girlfriend for a couple of years, split up with her and was forced to go and live with my mum and the man she had an affair with, the one who ruined my family.

Im now still living with them, and as ive mentioned...I haven't had a proper family from the start.

However, im not trying to turn this topic into a subject about me...
What im trying to say is, people have gotten through much worse, so you will get through this. And people have gotten through much worse than what I have, so I know I can get through my problems too.

As long as they're still there for you, nothing will change for the worse and you'll be ok =]
Whether your original parents are in love or not doesn't necessarily affect you, as long as they don't let it affect your family life. Try to think of it that way.

[MarkWaldorf]

Thanks Ann, Laura, Ash.

Wow, Retroman, I'm sorry to hear that.

[Retroman]

Lol there's no need..but thankyou kindly anyway.

I don't want anyone to get the impression I was looking for a sympathy vote that's all, I just thought it might be comforting for the topic creator to know it's not the end of the world and that they will get through it, just like others have.

I know it doesn't make things better, but if anything..broken up families are a very common thing these days. So don't let yourself feel like you're abnormal or missing out, because you're just as entitled to a happy family life as everyone else.