[Marsh.]

This bitch needs a hard smack.

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

This bitch needs a hard smack.

She's already had one. When my sister was admitted to hospital late last year and my dad took her, a random man came to the door at my dads house an punched my dads gf in the face... Apparently.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Chaos

She's already had one. When my sister was admitted to hospital late last year and my dad took her, a random man came to the door at my dads house an punched my dads gf in the face... Apparently.

What? For no reason?

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

What? For no reason?

yep...

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Chaos

yep...

Clearly a good judge of character.

Or the woman trying to turn the attention back to herself?

[Braden]

I think you need to confront the issue in some way.

You're holding resentment against your step-mum and rightly so (she sounds awful), so if you keep bottling your emotions up then there's a possibility that you'll end up exploding and doing/saying something you regret (unless you're totally not that person).

I wouldn't do it straight away because it may reflect badly on you that you're confronting the issue so near to their marriage ceremony, but maybe if you wait a couple of weeks and try tell your dad how you feel then it will go a bit smoother.

As long as you're being completely honest and not saying anything purposely hurtful nobody can vindicate you.

I really hope things get better for you because I know how annoying family issues are. They're not like other things you can shrug off and eventually forget. They're with you for life, and can really impact your life negatively.

But it's nice that you talk about it on here. A problem shared is a problem halfed.

[LeatherTrumpet]

I would live and let live. What people say about you behind your back is none of your business tbh.

[Z]

My uncle left my auntie for a younger woman, had four kids with the younger woman and then 10 years later it finally ended when he found out she was cheating on him. He's a rich man, she essentially had four insurance policies with him, by all accounts she's not much of a mum - nannies this and babysitters that. He abandoned my cousins (then aged 14 and 12) and wasn't there for them, would just deposit money in their bank accounts every so often and fight with their mum. Now that his fancy piece has left him he's popping back up in their lives.

The lesson I take from that is that your dad has fallen for someone who is exciting and new - she is part of his healing process in getting over the break up with your mum; this new woman can more or less do what she wants to your dad and his life because he's just wanting to put the past behind him at the cost of his future. I don't know why your sister has chosen to live with him instead of your mum; I think she's made a poor choice and she ought to come home and leave them to it - the three of you will always be your dad's little girls no matter how old you are and, sadly, this woman is going to do her absolute best to isolate him from everyone. One day he'll wake up and realise what she's done and he'll stand up for himself, but that has to come from him - you trying to get him to wake up and smell the coffee is just going to make him turn on you and play into her game, which you already know. By all means tell him that you're worried for your sister, with her issues, and that you think it's important that she's surrounded by people as much as possible - that's about the most you can hint to him that you think he needs to get away from his monster bride, anything else will just play into her victim card.

One thing you could try doing is being impossibly nice to his wife. Give her absolutely no reason to justifiably bitch about you and cut you out. Insist on talking to her in front of your dad and making a huge show of trying to speak to her - that forces her to either be nice to you or openly be a bitch to you in front of your dad; and he will definitely notice that she's not being nice to his kids, it'll be mentally logged and when he does eventually stand up for himself, that'll be one of the main points of contention. He has three daughters, he doesn't need his new partner trying to cut them out of his life - his marriage ended, he still has a family though. Just be glad that you have both your sisters and that whatever you're feeling and thinking, they will be too. Lots of love to you Caitlin xxxxxxxx

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Clearly a good judge of character.

Or the woman trying to turn the attention back to herself?

I think you're right there.

Originally Posted by Braden

I think you need to confront the issue in some way.

You're holding resentment against your step-mum and rightly so (she sounds awful), so if you keep bottling your emotions up then there's a possibility that you'll end up exploding and doing/saying something you regret (unless you're totally not that person).

I wouldn't do it straight away because it may reflect badly on you that you're confronting the issue so near to their marriage ceremony, but maybe if you wait a couple of weeks and try tell your dad how you feel then it will go a bit smoother.

As long as you're being completely honest and not saying anything purposely hurtful nobody can vindicate you.

I really hope things get better for you because I know how annoying family issues are. They're not like other things you can shrug off and eventually forget. They're with you for life, and can really impact your life negatively.

But it's nice that you talk about it on here. A problem shared is a problem halfed.

Thanks, I think you're right. I'm not the type to explode, but a year ago, I would have been. I'm way more mature now and I'm able to analyse a situation before I respond.

I think I'm just going to wait a few weeks (when he gets back, anyway) and then see how I feel then. I truly think she wants a big argument over it.

Originally Posted by Z

My uncle left my auntie for a younger woman, had four kids with the younger woman and then 10 years later it finally ended when he found out she was cheating on him. He's a rich man, she essentially had four insurance policies with him, by all accounts she's not much of a mum - nannies this and babysitters that. He abandoned my cousins (then aged 14 and 12) and wasn't there for them, would just deposit money in their bank accounts every so often and fight with their mum. Now that his fancy piece has left him he's popping back up in their lives.

The lesson I take from that is that your dad has fallen for someone who is exciting and new - she is part of his healing process in getting over the break up with your mum; this new woman can more or less do what she wants to your dad and his life because he's just wanting to put the past behind him at the cost of his future. I don't know why your sister has chosen to live with him instead of your mum; I think she's made a poor choice and she ought to come home and leave them to it - the three of you will always be your dad's little girls no matter how old you are and, sadly, this woman is going to do her absolute best to isolate him from everyone. One day he'll wake up and realise what she's done and he'll stand up for himself, but that has to come from him - you trying to get him to wake up and smell the coffee is just going to make him turn on you and play into her game, which you already know. By all means tell him that you're worried for your sister, with her issues, and that you think it's important that she's surrounded by people as much as possible - that's about the most you can hint to him that you think he needs to get away from his monster bride, anything else will just play into her victim card.

One thing you could try doing is being impossibly nice to his wife. Give her absolutely no reason to justifiably bitch about you and cut you out. Insist on talking to her in front of your dad and making a huge show of trying to speak to her - that forces her to either be nice to you or openly be a bitch to you in front of your dad; and he will definitely notice that she's not being nice to his kids, it'll be mentally logged and when he does eventually stand up for himself, that'll be one of the main points of contention. He has three daughters, he doesn't need his new partner trying to cut them out of his life - his marriage ended, he still has a family though. Just be glad that you have both your sisters and that whatever you're feeling and thinking, they will be too. Lots of love to you Caitlin xxxxxxxx

Sorry to hear your cousins had a similar experience. It truly sucks.

And that's exactly what I am doing... Being impossibly nice. I'm not giving her ANY reason to hate me. She's clutching at straws and I think it really pisses her off that I'm not giving her any reaction. The only thing that she could likely complain about was the fact that I spoke up for my sisters and I when we were told not to have parties or anything like that. But again, that wasn't anything nasty.

I'm just going to keep visiting my dad and be impossibly nice. She can't say anything bad about me then.

[Cal.]

Ugh I hate this bitch. She does need a smack.

I would speak to your dad about it.

[jennyjuniper]

Originally Posted by Chaos

She's a really selfish woman who wants my dad all for herself. So much so, that this summer when my dads contact ends and when he goes back to the states, she wants to go to a place where we have no family and friends. She more or less told my aunt last year that she doesn't like us and doesn't want my dad to spend time with anyone other than her.

His gf said all that KNOWING that my sister would tell me. I mean, who wouldn't tell their sister something like that? But now I want to know whether or not to tell me dad. She is a master manipulator as my aunt and I call it. She knows exactly how to get my dad to feel sorry for her. Now that they are getting married tomorrow, I only imagine it will get worse.

It sounds to me as though she is a controlling type of person, who is trying to alienate your dad from all his friends and family, so that she will be the only one who is with him.
I doubt your dad would believe you at this moment, because he will know that you don't like her and she will make sure to have told him that you are stirring things up.
It sounds sneaky (but sometimes you have to be) But try getting her alone and telling her what you feel. With a bit of luck she will also reveal her real feelings for you and your sister. If you can get her to confess that her motive is to alienate your dad from you and your sister, so much the better. Just make sure you record the whole conversation on a recorder, phone etc., that she doesn't know you have going at the time.
Best of luck,

[T*]

Call him. I'd tell him everything before he makes a huge decision tomorrow and ties the know. His gf sounds like an utter bitch.
Either that or get her alone and tell her your feelings
If it all gets a bit too much remember you can pm or vm me <3

[VanessaFeltz.]

What a disgusting cheap woman that she is.. Who the f is she to make "house rules" stupid f'ing waste of space. She really needs to know her place, she is even annoying me and i only read about her 2 pages. If i were you i would be like you need the shut the f up. But logical choice unfortunately waiting couple of weeks.

And send her this link please:

[GypsyGoth]

Accidentally knock this bitch down.

Try and get your sis to live somewhere else if possible, her staying there can't be good for her.

[Brother Leon]

I don't think House Rules are that bad a thing tbh. Me and my brothers had them growin up. She sounds like a right annoying bitch On the whole though. You should have privately spoke to your dad about it before the wedding in all honesty.

[Ninastar]

I have posted on my dads FB wall 3 times now and they have all been 'mysteriously' deleted. This bitch pisses me off so much.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Chaos

I have posted on my dads FB wall 3 times now and they have all been 'mysteriously' deleted. This bitch pisses me off so much.

That's messed up :/ That I would definitely say to your dad but again if he makes excuses for her then I would be blaming him 100% tbh

[Ninastar]

I'll say something when he comes back. She is so pathetic and he needs to open his ****ing eyes.

[Ninastar]

yet ANOTHER fb wall post has been deleted. My aunt posted on his wall and that has been deleted too

[Ninastar]

AND NOW, SHE HAS BANNED MY SISTER FROM GOING BACK TO MY DADS HOUSE lurhgiusgsdfgjdsfgljsfdgsdfjgbdsfl

[AnnieK]

Aren't they in the states. How is she going to enforce that lol?

[Smithy]

Does your dad know they're being deleted or not? You should print screen it afterwards then send it to him if he doesn't believe you

[T*]

Originally Posted by Chaos

AND NOW, SHE HAS BANNED MY SISTER FROM GOING BACK TO MY DADS HOUSE lurhgiusgsdfgjdsfgljsfdgsdfjgbdsfl

omfg
give her a right hook

[Gstar]

What a trifling bitch. I know you don't like being confrontational but there are times and situations when you have to, getting angry/telling someone off/losing your temper aren't negative things it's just part of being a human being. Don't think that doing this would revert you to your old self a year ago

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

Aren't they in the states. How is she going to enforce that lol?

She's clearly worked this out already. She's told both neighbours that my sister isnt to come back, she's given one of the neighbors a key to stop her from entering the second door into the house (there's like a small port for shoes before you walk into the house) so now my sister cant go in.

Originally Posted by Smithy

Does your dad know they're being deleted or not? You should print screen it afterwards then send it to him if he doesn't believe you

I already have

Originally Posted by Tom!

omfg
give her a right hook

I really wish I ****ing could.

Originally Posted by Germyle

What a trifling bitch. I know you don't like being confrontational but there are times and situations when you have to, getting angry/telling someone off/losing your temper aren't negative things it's just part of being a human being. Don't think that doing this would revert you to your old self a year ago

Tell me about it. I think I might end up doing so. But if I did shout and get angry, she could claim that she's 'afraid' of me and that I'm not to come back to my dads house.

Which is exactly what she wants. She wants their to be drama, she's trying as hard as she can to get us less involved and I am determined to not let that happen.