[Livia]

Unregulated hackers are not the morality police. Who are they to decide to expose cheats? People don't want MI5 to have more powers but some are happy to have a faceless, unregulated group of hackers expose people's private business online? Seems like a bit of a double standard to fit an agenda to me.

[DemolitionRed]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

There was a thread on that on which many were disgusted that that was hacked and yet nobody likes a cheat....

Damn I missed that!

I think that site is shameful and the alarming thing is, the huge amount of members. Something like 1.5 million Brits were using it.

As far as I'm concerned, people who are prepared to cheat deserve to get caught.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Livia

Unregulated hackers are not the morality police. Who are they to decide to expose cheats? People don't want MI5 to have more powers but some are happy to have a faceless, unregulated group of hackers expose people's private business online? Seems like a bit of a double standard to fit an agenda to me.

Oh - Yeah. Double Standards is exactly what it is -- as per usual.

[Northern Monkey]

Have cheated on women in the past when i was younger and just did'nt care tbh.Have never and will never cheat on the woman i'm with now.I think most people have cheated when they're young like in their 20's.Some people just don't grow out of it.I have as i would never want to risk losing what i have now.

[DemolitionRed]

I didn't say the hackers were doing the right thing. I just explained what they did before giving my opinion of the site and then, in another paragraph I said...

...As far as I'm concerned, people who are prepared to cheat deserve to get caught.

Its ok though Kirk, as per usual, I expected that retort

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

If either me or my wife developed feelings for someone else we'd just be honest about it. There's no point not being, to be honest.

Also, I (both of us) think that this "emotional cheating" thing is utter bollocks, you should be able to have as many people in your life as you want who you can turn to emotionally and be emotionally close to, and whether they're male or female shouldn't matter. You only get one life... Closing yourself off to close relationships seems like a needless waste. If your partner having emotional closeness with someone else makes you feel insecure then you have problems already. In my opinion.

I agree.Me and my misses are always texting and looking at our phones.We don't ever look at or even ask about who's on the other end.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

I didn't say the hackers were doing the right thing. I just explained what they did before giving my opinion of the site and then, in another paragraph I said...

...As far as I'm concerned, people who are prepared to cheat deserve to get caught.

Its ok though Kirk, as per usual, I expected that retort

So that I do not derail this thread, I will expound about 'Double Standards' on a new thread later. Though I do not expect some to agree - obviously.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey

Have cheated on women in the past when i was younger and just did'nt care tbh.Have never and will never cheat on the woman i'm with now.I think most people have cheated when they're young like in their 20's.Some people just don't grow out of it.I have as i would never want to risk losing what i have now.

did you get caught?

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by lostalex

did you get caught?

Once but i wriggled out of it,Me and my gf at the time never trusted each other again though and it only lasted a year.Was very young though.Cba with all that now.I think i probably never found anyone i felt close to until now.Been with my misses 8 years now so was 26 when i met her.Before then i was immature and just did'nt care about all them feelings n ****.It was all about getting the penis away.lol.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey

Once but i wriggled out of it,Me and my gf at the time never trusted each other again though and it only lasted a year.Was very young though.Cba with all that now.I think i probably never found anyone i felt close to until now.Been with my misses 8 years now so was 26 when i met her.Before then i was immature and just did'nt care about all them feelings n ****.It was all about getting the penis away.lol.

well i'm glad you've improved as a partner.

It's a very arrogant and selfish thing to do to someone.

don't you worry about karma? the indian mentality would be that you will be betrayed by your partner, the universe needs justice.

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by lostalex

well i'm glad you've improved as a partner.

It's a very arrogant and selfish thing to do to someone.

don't you worry about karma? the indian mentality would be that you will be betrayed by your partner, the universe needs justice.

It has happened to me twice
I think from my experience that relationships don't work properly until people mature and get all that sex with multiple partners out of their system.Everyone i know who settled down young has had relationship problems.I did'nt properly 'settle down' until i'd had some fun and it seems to work better.Not so much curiosity.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey

It has happened to me twice
I think from my experience that relationships don't work properly until people mature and get all that sex with multiple partners out of their system.Everyone i know who settled down young has had relationship problems.I did'nt properly 'settle down' until i'd had some fun and it seems to work better.Not so much curiosity.

That makes sense. i was a total slut in my early 20's. I never lied about it though.

but i agree when you first discover your sexual power, you need to explore it freely.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Livia

Unregulated hackers are not the morality police. Who are they to decide to expose cheats? People don't want MI5 to have more powers but some are happy to have a faceless, unregulated group of hackers expose people's private business online? Seems like a bit of a double standard to fit an agenda to me.

If you are stupid enough to have your details on sites like that then you take the risk of them being hacked... it's the internet, it happens.
The difference there being it's your choice, the proposals that security services have everyones data is not our choice is it?
So although you've manipulated this scenario to meet your agenda it hasn't worked has it? Because the flaws are apparent.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

If you are stupid enough to have your details on sites like that then you take the risk of them being hacked... it's the internet, it happens.
The difference there being it's your choice, the proposals that security services have everyones data is not our choice is it?
So although you've manipulated this scenario to meet your agenda it hasn't worked has it? Because the flaws are apparent.

It's basically the same thing as the Heidi Fleiss controversy in the 90s... She refused to release the names of her clients though. That was very admirable of her.

And i love heidi fleiss, she was an awesome housemate.

[the truth]

never cheated, its a horrible thing to do, but have been cheated on once , pretty unpleasant

in the longer term you say to yourself at least I found out now, imagine id married her with kids and then discovered she was a serial cheat

the trouble often comes when people consume a lot of booze, their brains get frazzled and theyre not fully in control of their actions. if someone kisses someone in a drunken stupor and you find out about it, they use the defence sorry I was off my face on booze.....but is that really a legit defence?

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by the truth

never cheated, its a horrible thing to do, but have been cheated on once , pretty unpleasant

in the longer term you say to yourself at least I found out now, imagine id married her with kids and then discovered she was a serial cheat

the trouble often comes when people consume a lot of booze, their brains get frazzled and theyre not fully in control of their actions. if someone kisses someone in a drunken stupor and you find out about it, they use the defence sorry I was off my face on booze.....but is that really a legit defence?

kissing is not cheating... cheating is sex.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

kissing is not cheating... cheating is sex.

that's subjective

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

that's subjective

I suppose it depends on what's being kissed

[Niamh.]

lol Northeren Monkey

but yeah I would consider a kiss cheating ( a proper kiss) obviously cheating to a lesser degree to sleeping with someone but still cheating

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

lol Northeren Monkey

but yeah I would consider a kiss cheating ( a proper kiss) obviously cheating to a lesser degree to sleeping with someone but still cheating

I'd be far more hurt by a relationship where they'd kissed and confided in each other than I would be if was just someone he'd banged.

[Lostie!]

I'd absolutely class kissing someone else (in a romantic / sexual manner) as cheating. I don't see why it wouldn't be.

[DemolitionRed]

If I ever found out that my man had, had an affair or even a one night fling, I could never trust him again and when trust has gone, so has the relationship.

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

If I ever found out that my man had, had an affair or even a one night fling, I could never trust him again and when trust has gone, so has the relationship.

That's the thing isn't it. Maybe some people can get past it and that's up to them but surely deep down you have to wonder every single time they are somewhere else you don't know if they are up to the same old tricks.

How can you know for sure if someone is indeed truly sorry for what they have done and is it worth all the mental torture that it will put you through?

I don't envy people in long term relationships who have to make that decision, especially if there's kids and friends of the both of you involved.

[Toy Soldier]

But what if you were "on a break"

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

But what if you were "on a break"

Shut it Ross.