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23-01-2019, 06:18 PM | #76 | |||
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23-01-2019, 06:38 PM | #77 | |||
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Yeah the family definitely should have been asked first
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23-01-2019, 06:53 PM | #78 | ||
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23-01-2019, 06:56 PM | #79 | ||
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Again, that doesn't make your opinions more valid than anyone else's on Bulger related topics, anymore than someone who has given birth. |
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23-01-2019, 07:02 PM | #80 | |||
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Not really sure why you’re making personal comments but can’t say I’m surprised
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23-01-2019, 07:10 PM | #81 | |||
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His blood is bad.
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I think it's pretty ****ty they didn't consult the family first
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23-01-2019, 07:13 PM | #82 | |||
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Because it was cold. Even for you. But yeah, I wasn't surprised either.
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23-01-2019, 07:16 PM | #83 | ||
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Why would that not be the case? And why make comments like "it's not big or clever to pop out a child! Thick folks can have kids too!" Like... Thick people learn to drive too. It's not big or clever to learn to drive, basically anyone can do it. But that doesn't mean that the opinion of a driver isn't better informed than a non-driver in a discussion about road etiquette. It's not that other people can't have an opinion or that their opinion might not be correct or valid, or that a driver can't be totally wrong about some topics (God knows, there are plenty of disagreements) it's just pretty obvious that there IS a difference between the opinions. Surely. I mean you can say it about anything! Building a PC isn't hard. Look at a few YouTube videos and BillyBob with an IQ of 80 can do it but once he's done it, his advice on building one yourself is going to be better than a certified genius who has never even looked inside one? These are probably crap examples but you can see my point. Surely. Its ludicrous for people to say "I don't have any kids but I know just as much about how a parent feels for their children as those who do!". Like... How? And how could you possibly know if that statement is true? I can say with some certainty - as a parent and a self confessed ex-non parent (I spend decades being one of those ) that while yes as a non-parent it's perfectly possible to empathise with the emotions that a parent feels about their offspring... It's not the same as having them. It just isn't. And you also sort of have to accept that every parent has BOTH perspectives because every parent HAS BEEN a non parent, whereas obviously, those who are not parents only have ONE perspective and can only possibly be guessing about the other. So no its not big, it's not clever, it's not difficult to have kids, it's not a "moral victory" or any sort of achievement but it does usually result in a shift in perspective. I don't know why so many non-parents take issue with that. Last edited by Toy Soldier; 23-01-2019 at 07:19 PM. |
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23-01-2019, 07:16 PM | #84 | |||
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23-01-2019, 07:21 PM | #85 | ||
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We're discussing a murder. So, no, I won't be told my opinion isn't as valid as someone who has had a child because it's complete bollocks. We can ALL relate to losing loved ones, as Livia said you don't have to be a parent to know or understand or comprehend the loss of a child. It's universal. But, yeah, maybe the magical superiority that enters a person once they've had sex and conceived a child means the ones murdered by their parents are right too. Last edited by Marsh.; 23-01-2019 at 07:24 PM. |
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23-01-2019, 07:29 PM | #86 | ||
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A lot of parents don't have that perspective and a lot of non-parents do. Having a child simply isn't a valid argument in this case. Next you'll be telling me age denotes maturity. |
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23-01-2019, 07:31 PM | #87 | ||
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Maybe becoming a parent makes one more mature in that way, too . |
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23-01-2019, 07:34 PM | #88 | ||
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Again you're stating your opinions as fact; you don't (and can't possibly) know if and how your life perspectives will change if or when you have children. It's literally impossible. It can only be hypothesis?
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23-01-2019, 07:35 PM | #89 | ||
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But then as a qualified parent I'm sure you can explain it. |
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23-01-2019, 07:35 PM | #90 | |||
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23-01-2019, 07:39 PM | #91 | ||
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I'm saying having children (or not) doesn't automatically make your perspective more valid or otherwise. Especially on a topic like this. The action of "having a child" simply does not automatically give anyone a more valid perspective. It's bollocks. |
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23-01-2019, 07:39 PM | #92 | |||
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The rush of unconditional love that most, not all most, parent's have on the birth of their child in indescribable. However, as a parent we also dont know how we would deal with the brutal horrific murder of that child unless it happens to us (which I hope not one of us ever has to really think about let alone live through) so yes, we can empathise with the Bulgers but we are also the same as any non parent in not knowing how we would deal with it. I always said if anything ever happened and I lost my son, I would want to go with him so he wasn't alone,it just doesn't bear thinking about but unless (god forbid) anything did happen I don't know how I would react to anything
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23-01-2019, 07:39 PM | #93 | ||
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23-01-2019, 07:40 PM | #94 | |||
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23-01-2019, 07:42 PM | #95 | ||
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And also, not every parent feels the same towards their child, some parents feel absolutely nothing towards them so it's a meaningless generalisation for people to make. |
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23-01-2019, 07:42 PM | #96 | ||
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23-01-2019, 07:42 PM | #97 | ||
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Romans used to set lions onto slaves and people would watch.
The internet has made the most horrific scenes viewable at the click of a button. People would not make these films if no one would watch them and even if you banned them that would only make people want to watch them more. Humans are closer to animals than we think. |
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23-01-2019, 07:44 PM | #98 | |||
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No, just someone whos kid has passed away, do they have a better percpective on her feelings on the matter?
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23-01-2019, 07:46 PM | #99 | ||
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We're discussing the validity of people's opinions and the ability to empathise. Someone who HAS actually experienced something is a completely different story. Last edited by Marsh.; 23-01-2019 at 07:51 PM. |
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23-01-2019, 07:46 PM | #100 | |||
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Certainly have more of an insight to the pain and suffering parm....
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