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Daniel-X · 30-04-2016, 04:50 PM

Right, it's all a bit long winded but I'll just explain as short as I can what's happened. My friend had a birthday party at the end of March and I was invited and stuff and I put her a happy birthday message in FaceBook, my profile picture is of her and me and we're actually really close. Anyway, without me knowing I sit in a room with all my friends at dinner and she purposley took them to one side yesterday when I went out the room and told them to come round to hers tonight for a party, I found out yesterday afternoon off one of my other friends and just thought like 'oh she'll probably ask me later'. She put a story on snapchat of loads of ale and was like 'Can't wait for tonight' and when I tried asking her what was going on knowing full well what was she just kept avoiding my question and asking me other things. Anyway, I thought tonight I'd put a story on saying 'someone give me plans' shes seen it and ignored it, when I've looked at her story she's invited people she didn't even invite to her proper birthday party yet not invited me.

I've come to the conclusion she's not invited me because a few lads from another school are there and they've expressed previously they dislike me. Despite not knowing me.

However, this girl is invited to my birthday party and is behaving perfectly fine and nice to me still despite being so sneaky and sly to me. Shall I just removed her from my birthday? Or is that childish?

reece(: · 30-04-2016, 05:10 PM

I'd uninvite her because i'm petty like that, but I value my friendships on both ways. Don't expect an invite out from me if I don't get one from you

Babayaro. · 30-04-2016, 05:20 PM

Not ale

Greg! · 30-04-2016, 05:20 PM

Uninvite the silly cah!

If she doesn't consider you good enough for her then she's not worth your time tbqh imho

Jamie89 · 30-04-2016, 05:29 PM

I'd ask her directly what's going on, that you know she invited everyone except you and ask her why. You can't resolve it unless you're both totally open with each other and since it looks like she won't be, you'll have to be more direct with her. Then take it from there. If it turns out she hasn't invited you becausr there's people going that don't like you then I wouldn't be happy about that if it were me. Maybe she's not as good a friend as you thought? You need to talk to her properly about it though.

Daniel-X · 30-04-2016, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Babayaro.

Not ale

Make an actual contribution to the thread.

LeatherTrumpet · 30-04-2016, 05:37 PM

she wants to cop with a guy and does not want you there

is this what is not going on or am i missing something?

Daniel-X · 30-04-2016, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by reece(:

I'd uninvite her because i'm petty like that, but I value my friendships on both ways. Don't expect an invite out from me if I don't get one from you

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Originally Posted by Greg!

Uninvite the silly cah!

If she doesn't consider you good enough for her then she's not worth your time tbqh imho

I'm inclined to do this but she's not being nasty to me or anything she's still being nice, and I don't want to cause unnecessary drama but I kind of don't want her at my party either.

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Originally Posted by Jamie89

I'd ask her directly what's going on, that you know she invited everyone except you and ask her why. You can't resolve it unless you're both totally open with each other and since it looks like she won't be, you'll have to be more direct with her. Then take it from there. If it turns out she hasn't invited you becausr there's people going that don't like you then I wouldn't be happy about that if it were me. Maybe she's not as good a friend as you thought? You need to talk to her properly about it though.

I don't really know how to though, it probably is the best solution but I don't to come across all angry and confrontational like 'Why did you not invite me?' cos I dunno I think I'd be taken aback and annoyed if someone asked me that. However, I think it is the only way I'm going to stop thinking about it. I'll wait till I next see her and I might ask her.

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Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

she wants to cop with a guy and does not want you there

is this what is not going on or am i missing something?

I dunno TBH LT. It's all very odd. I mean I could just be jumping to the wrong conclusion and there might be another reason but idk.

Lostie! · 30-04-2016, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by reece(:

I'd uninvite her because i'm petty like that, but I value my friendships on both ways. Don't expect an invite out from me if I don't get one from you

Same.

It's annoying when friends don't treat you with the same basic respect as you do them. I've had "friends" who've, for no reason apparent to me, decided to exclude me at times so I just cut ties with them. I have other friends who value me so I don't see the point in wasting time with those who clearly don't anymore.

In your case, since it's bothering you I'd definitely try to speak to her about it but it seems you already have and she tried to dodge your questions. Try again and if she continues to do the same, don't waste any more energy on her and concentrate on the friends who treat you as a friend should. At least you'll know you tried.

Ross. · 30-04-2016, 05:46 PM

I feel these lyrics are appropriate

What's worse, lookin' jealous or crazy?
Jealous or crazy?
Or like being walked all over lately, walked all over lately
I'd rather be crazy

anyway now that's out my system

So basically uninvite the bitch

I think it'd be better to ask her in person about it tho rather than text, she can't dodge your questions that way

LeatherTrumpet · 30-04-2016, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Daniel-X

I'm inclined to do this but she's not being nasty to me or anything she's still being nice, and I don't want to cause unnecessary drama but I kind of don't want her at my party either.

I don't really know how to though, it probably is the best solution but I don't to come across all angry and confrontational like 'Why did you not invite me?' cos I dunno I think I'd be taken aback and annoyed if someone asked me that. However, I think it is the only way I'm going to stop thinking about it. I'll wait till I next see her and I might ask her.

I dunno TBH LT. It's all very odd. I mean I could just be jumping to the wrong conclusion and there might be another reason but idk.

So i take it you are gay and probs the guy she likes or his mate are like "dont bring your gay pal" and as she wants to cop she is like "ok"

I would not take it personally she just wants some male attention or a bunk up and you would cramp her style

Greg! · 30-04-2016, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Jamie89

I'd ask her directly what's going on, that you know she invited everyone except you and ask her why. You can't resolve it unless you're both totally open with each other and since it looks like she won't be, you'll have to be more direct with her. Then take it from there. If it turns out she hasn't invited you becausr there's people going that don't like you then I wouldn't be happy about that if it were me. Maybe she's not as good a friend as you thought? You need to talk to her properly about it though.

Yeah do this ignore me earlier post

Daniel-X · 30-04-2016, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Lostie!

Same.

It's annoying when friends don't treat you with the same basic respect as you do them. I've had "friends" who've, for no reason apparent to me, decided to exclude me at times so I just cut ties with them. I have other friends who value me so I don't see the point in wasting time with those who clearly don't anymore.

In your case, since it's bothering you I'd definitely try to speak to her about it but it seems you already have and she tried to dodge your questions. Try again and if she continues to do the same, don't waste any more energy on her and concentrate on the friends who treat you as a friend should. At least you'll know you tried.

Like I say Lostie I really am inclined to just remove her from the chat, a few of my friends have told me to just remove her but I don't think they understand the drama it will cause TBH. I really don't want to fall out with this girl but I don't want her thinking she can just use me when she wants me and dump me when she doesn't.

Yeah I think I'll speak to her in person when I next see her rather than text and if she just ignores my questions or is weird with me than so be it. Like you say at least I've tried.

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Originally Posted by Ross.

I feel these lyrics are appropriate

What's worse, lookin' jealous or crazy?
Jealous or crazy?
Or like being walked all over lately, walked all over lately
I'd rather be crazy

anyway now that's out my system

So basically uninvite the bitch

I think it'd be better to ask her in person about it tho rather than text, she can't dodge your questions that way

Thanks Ross for the Bey lyrics

Yeah I'll speak to her in school Tuesday or tomorrow if she ends up coming out.

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Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

So i take it you are gay and probs the guy she likes or his mate are like "dont bring your gay pal" and as she wants to cop she is like "ok"

I would not take it personally she just wants some male attention or a bunk up and you would cramp her style

Sorry, but I'd rather think that she'd cared about her friend than trying to cop off with someone. I don't really get how I would cramp her style either.

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Originally Posted by Greg!

Yeah do this ignore me earlier post

A bipolar Greg tea?

LeatherTrumpet · 30-04-2016, 05:59 PM

"Sorry, but I'd rather think that she'd cared about her friend than trying to cop off with someone. I don't really get how I would cramp her style either. "

Please, she wants to cop off, dont be so precious.

Cherie · 30-04-2016, 06:08 PM

If you uninvite her it will be difficult to keep the friendship going, either tell her you felt a bit left out at not bring invited, and see what she says or suck it up and assume she wants to do different things and doesn't feel like she has to include you in everything she does. She might not have told you as she doesn't want to create a drama

Daniel-X · 30-04-2016, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

"Sorry, but I'd rather think that she'd cared about her friend than trying to cop off with someone. I don't really get how I would cramp her style either. "

Please, she wants to cop off, dont be so precious.

'so precious'

Her moral compass is pretty skewed if she thinks her behaviour is appropriate if that's her reasoning.

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Originally Posted by Cherie

If you uninvite her it will be difficult to keep the friendship going, either tell her you felt a bit left out at not bring invited, and see what she says or suck it up and assume she wants to do different things and doesn't feel like she has to include you in everything she does. She might not have told you as she doesn't want to create a drama

Create a drama? She has created one through not inviting me because it's just made it seem really weird.

She should include me though that's my point, it's not everything she does I wouldn't mind if just a few where there it's the fact she's pretty much isolated me out.