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[Z]

Have there been any drastic changes in your life that have made you the person you are today? Death of a family member, meeting the love of your life... what has made you the person you are today?

[Firewire]

Not that I can think of.

[Jessica.]

My father died when I was 3.
I think I would be a completely different person than who I am today if he was still around. I'm not saying I would be any better but I think I would be really different.

[MissKittyFantastico]

My mum chucking me out when I was 15, and not having spoken to her since pretty much, that's been my biggest shock to the system you could say. Had to grow up damn quick, and I'll always have her in the back of my mind, wondering where she is and what she's doing I guess. But I have my dad and my step mum so I'm lucky. Definitely changes you when you don't have the woman that gave birth to you in your life though and they don't want to know you.

[King Gizzard]

Finishing education and being left behind when all my mates left for uni has changed me into being unemployed..depressed..joining this site..confused

before that i had a life

[Stu]

Drugs, I suppose. Taking them and then ... not ... taking them. Sounds like a cliche, I know, but when your altering your brain chemistry for the better part of three years it tends to have an effect on your life.

I'm glad I saw the amazing things I saw, and I'm glad I stopped when I started to see the same things over and over again.

Seeing Depeche Mode in Paris also last June convinced me that my life lay in music. I messed up my education because of the deeerugs [I would have messed it up anyway because I had no interest in it - but I figured it was more fun with drugs] so I'm in that depressing position Nathan is in now but I get a lot of free time to make tunes. That's where I'm headed. To hell with conventional living.

[Iceman]

When I was 13 my Mother died, I think i had t grow up pretty fast and "be mature" (Even if i dont show it on here).

Then when I was 18 my brother jumped off a bridge, now im practically a full time carer for him so i think thats changed me a lot and basically over runs my life to a degree....

I think with those two things happening at a young age it made me listen to people a bit more and stop being petty.....I think they made me into a decent enough bloke.....(even though many would disagree lol)

[Beastie]

Ahhhhhhh a song springs to mind.......

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[Beastie]

On a serious note.. oh sorry to hear all your stories. Sounds horrific for some, depressing for others or both.

Erm I don't think I have changed much.. regardless of who I am with?

[Princess]

When I was younger,I got bullied and didn't have many friends,especially after my best friend moved away. So that made me apperciate my friends that I have now way more. I always try and see the good in life,even when it's really hard to.

[Stacey.]

no, not really...
but before i was born, my dad was in quite a bad car crash with this mate...
this mate died, my dad broke a few ribs, and injured himself very seriously.
so, Im just pleased he survived - or i wouldnt be here today! :)
He still has depression to this day... goes abit crazy at times!

[setanta]

It's life, that's all. Peaks and troughs.

[GypsyGoth]

My dad dying. It's strange that the absence of someone can affect one's life soo much. More than any other it probably defines what I'm like now as a person. And if I could change time I'd have more days with him.

The Suicide of a good friend; that shook me to my core but he was a very unhappy soul.

I done something stupid when I was depressed. I find it difficult to get past it, to forgive myself and more on. And there is another part or consequence to it; I think neighbours and relatives think that I'm a selfish ungrateful brat.

And lastly it was falling out with the popular crowd.

Ok after saying all that stuff I'd just to add that I'm happy in life at the moment. And I'm pretty upbeat, I like being me.

[Patrick]

My Mum and Dad broke up.

If they hadnt of, I would of been living in a diffrent side of the town.. a rough side infact, with a bunch of dicks who like to go out everynight drinking and rioting.

I would of never been like settled down (feels weird saying that and im 14 lol) but, I do go to school over in that side of town and I can see how diffrent I am to everyone else as I moved to a quieter place to get away from dad.

If I didnt do that, then I wouldnt of been on here as right now I probley would of been out fighting, drinking, smoking crack etc

[30stone]

When i smoked weed, i decided i didnt want to **** up my life.. so quit cold turkey.. never touched it in like 4 years now.. And started the gym as it something i really wanted to do.

Starting the gym in general, i would never be as condident as i am now..and be very small and skinny..

[Stu]

When i smoked weed, i decided i didnt want to **** up my life.. so quit cold turkey.. never touched it in like 4 years now.. And started the gym as it something i really wanted to do.

Starting the gym in general, i would never be as condident as i am now..and be very small and skinny..
How often did you smoke it? Because your the first person I have ever heard to use the words 'cold turkey' in relation to weed. It's not Heroin. And it stands no more of a chance of wrecking up your life than booze or even weightlifting.

It's all about self control. I don't like the implication that all pot smokers are on the road to messing up life.

[Enid]

Falling in love for the first time at sixteen and subsequently getting my heart broken three years later. I learnt a lot from that relationship and at the time I swore I would resent this guy for the rest of my life, but now I'd say he was one of my closest friends.

[Ramsay]

yeaaah
fliped a coin back when i was like 13 on which subject to pick out of home ec or art
landed on home ec and i got sat beside a dude who became my best friend for a few years
he introduced me to a friend of his(shes one of my best friends now which is weird cus back then we didnt really like eachother haha) who introuced me to my first girlfriend through her i met a dude who introdouced me to a girl who is my best friend now and through her ive met these little group of 6 people who i cant imagine living without
i know that was hard to follow but i think about it all the time
that one coin changed my life more then i could imagine..i cant even manage to think what my life would be like if the coin landed on art..

[Beastie]

yeaaah
fliped a coin back when i was like 13 on which subject to pick out of home ec or art
landed on home ec and i got sat beside a dude who became my best friend for a few years
he introduced me to a friend of his(shes one of my best friends now which is weird cus back then we didnt really like eachother haha) who introuced me to my first girlfriend through her i met a dude who introdouced me to a girl who is my best friend now and through her ive met these little group of 6 people who i cant imagine living without
i know that was hard to follow but i think about it all the time
that one coin changed my life more then i could imagine..i cant even manage to think what my life would be like if the coin landed on art..

Lol Karl that is amazing! Aww I want to toss a coin now.. but I don't really have a dilemma at the moment.

[30stone]

How often did you smoke it? Because your the first person I have ever heard to use the words 'cold turkey' in relation to weed. It's not Heroin. And it stands no more of a chance of wrecking up your life than booze or even weightlifting.

It's all about self control. I don't like the implication that all pot smokers are on the road to messing up life.

I done it every day for 2 months, not a long time i know but i lost all concentration in school..

As for others, most people i know that have stopped it have either smoked cigarettes/ smoked them more / At least had it once.

I know it doesn't but i hated doing it why do i need to do something illegal when i could just drink as i prefer drinking.. but when i done it, i couldnt breathe as deeply couldnt hold my breath or run as long whilst i was doing it and for a couple of months after.

As for booze, i only drink once every 5 - 10 weeks if that.. and dont drink a lot, im never really "drunk".



I know all pot smokers arent like that, but i dont like it, i hate smoking in general but when people smoke it and they have children, or even worse have children around whilst smoking it, i think its just so cheap and just shouldnt be done.

[Enid]

That's cool, Ben. Marijuana affects us all very differently and it's great that you stopped to improve your health. I just hate it when people take the moral high ground because they are too ignorant to learn what drugs are relatively safe and what aren't, and so in their minds, all drugs are bad, and everyone who takes 'em are good for nothing junkies.

[30stone]

Yeah i still have friends that do it, admitedly i dont see them as much anymore but still friends..

I have no problems with people enjoying life..

But it didnt agree with me, it was fun to an extent but when i realised i couldnt fully breathe in i hated it.

I do think people should stop no matter who they are when they decide to have children..


I also quite like not drinking now, i didnt drink for 9 - 10 weeks other than the odd pint.. never had more than one in that time and i didnt miss it, i had fun without it, although i cant dance without it lol. But i do still enjoy it, i drank just over a week ago and it was great.

[MrGaryy]

two things

coming out - not a huge event but it meant I could live a little bit more freely and openly with everyone around me.

having my stomach pumped when I was 14 - massive wake up call, had I not gotten as bad as I had at that stage I don't have a clue where I would be today, or if I even would tbh.

[Scarlett.]

My mum dying when I was 13 (made me more mature, but made me scared of anyone outside the family, and scared of opening up) + Being bullied in school

Getting a good friend who didnt stab me in the back who I talked to about a lot of stuff, made me less scared of others, but still its hard for me to be really close with anyone in case they stab me in the back

Moving to Blackpool and starting afresh

[Jords]

From primary school to secondary school a lot of things changed. :/

[Captain.Remy]

Starting rugby at the age of 5 because this has been my life well, forever now. I honestly don't know what I would do without it.

Being obese from 8 to 12. It was a really hard experience, people made fun of me but I got my sweet vengeance and it made me realize one thing: Eat or be eaten. That step made my personality.

A friend of mine dying from overdose in 2006. At this time, I was clubbing heavily. I could be out for 48 hours without going back home. I tried so many things, I was a real party addict. And a girl from our group went a bit too far and that was terribly shocking for me. It was a wake up call.

Living in England for 3 months. Back in 2006, our Sixth Form class had a partnership with this school in Hertfordshire. That's when I realized I am made to be living in UK because it fits me so much more than in France.

And then being in a relationship for almost 2 years with a girl I immensely loved and still have a lot of respect for her. She is the first love of my life, I had such a hard timer moving forwards but now I look back at it and think "That was amazing". It changed me.

[Harry!]

Getting bullied for most of my school life. Though I havnt been bullied for the last 2 years or so it has effected me alot. Because people used to take my things it has made me a very selfish person and dont like people borroring anything from me (Big things mostly).

Also I would have more friends and go out with friends more after school. And would be more open and happier then I am now. I am not as tolerant with people then most would be and would of been if people gave me chance in school.

I have learned that the only person you should care about is yourself. You are the most inportant to you. And 'Sticks and stones may brake your bones' saying has helped me alot. I dont care what people think of me, afterall why should I care about what they say. There opinions about me are irrelevent.

I dont give in to peer presure and I am what I am. Do I care about what others say? No I don't.

Long essay but I felt like doing one.

[pinkmichk]

i think the main one is coming out the other side of a abusive relationship cos of how the relationship was i lost so many friends it affected school and thus my career it had a real affect on my family and how i was with them so turning my life around after that was big cos it was very close to becoming one of those where i ended up as a statstic for girls killed in those kinds of relationships

also becoming a mum made me grow up loads then adjusting to being a single mum as well had a big effect on me

[Stu]

I done it every day for 2 months, not a long time i know but i lost all concentration in school..

As for others, most people i know that have stopped it have either smoked cigarettes/ smoked them more / At least had it once.

I know it doesn't but i hated doing it why do i need to do something illegal when i could just drink as i prefer drinking.. but when i done it, i couldnt breathe as deeply couldnt hold my breath or run as long whilst i was doing it and for a couple of months after.

As for booze, i only drink once every 5 - 10 weeks if that.. and dont drink a lot, im never really "drunk".



I know all pot smokers arent like that, but i dont like it, i hate smoking in general but when people smoke it and they have children, or even worse have children around whilst smoking it, i think its just so cheap and just shouldnt be done.
Aye it's all subjective to the individual. You seem like the type of person better off not smoking it anyway.

[30stone]

Aye it's all subjective to the individual. You seem like the type of person better off not smoking it anyway.

Probably yeah.

It didnt agree with me, and im happy i didnt continue to.
I am considering giving up drinking to..

[Z]

For me, it was standing up to my "friend" who bullied me when I was 14. I became a lot happier after that, he's not friends with us anymore because everyone sees him for what he is; and ever since then I've been a lot more confident, and I'm the person I want to be.

[LemonJam]

Probably when I first picked up a violin. Since then I've always wanted to be in music.

[xDramatick]

I wouldn't say anything drastic but there's a fair few things that I can see have made me who I am today:
- Getting bullied in general. I was bullied a hell of a lot at school, generally because I was quite intelligent, I wasn't particularly friendly with the 'cool' kids and because of my sexuality. There was never a certain moment where I just stood up to it, moreso.. my confidence grew over time and now I've got to the point where I won't take any of it. Particularly if it's homophobic.
- Coming out + moving in with my boyfriend. As a result, I'm a lot more independent, more cautious about money, more confident as a person and a lot happier.
- Something quite minor, but after years of pleading with my parents to enrol me for ballet, gymnastics, dance, singing, and acting classes, I ended up joining a club at school as they couldn't really afford anything else. From then on I pretty much knew I wanted to perform, jumping at any opportunity that arose. Although it's not until I started college that realized how seriously I wanted to become successful.
- Also from college, due to being in quite a lazy class where people won't bother to learn lines, learn songs, do work in rehearsals etc, I've learnt to put myself first. I'll do whatever work I have to, and not get distracted. It works, as I'm predicted the highest grade in my class because simply put, I work, and they don't.

[InOne]

Ermm probably changed most in NZ, was a with a girl there, all ended badly. Came home was pretty depressed and alot of other drama. Also used to like being around people, socialising and that, not i'm always making excuses not to see my mates. And yeah jobless and that does not help!!

[bronaaaa]

Moving around lots when I was younger and dad always working abroad
Dad nearly dying in a car crash when I was 10
A whole pile of shizz in the last 18 or so months
Travelling

[Raph]

When my grandmother passed away with cancer :(

[*mazedsalv**]

I think that I have grown up the way i thought i would, and the way by parents thought I would. Just a normal teenager, who is quite confident and can achieve good things.

I like who I am today, i dont think if anything happens now would change me, as i think it would be too late. I doubt I will change from what i am now.

[GhettoSuperstar]

I'm generally a positive person, I don't let things in the past bother me and I can usually pick up quickly but here are my experiences:

-Being abused by my father from the age of 3 to 6. My mum was also too but my sister wasn't. My mum was trapped and couldn't get out of that relationship. It all came to a conclusion when he beat me so bad I was put into hospital, i still have a vague scar on my forehead but it's not bad.
-And obviously living without any real father ^, he's gone out our lives.
-My mum almost dieing from a lung collapse whilst we were in an aeroplane. Scariest moment of my life.
-Getting into University, I never really had much belief in myself but the harder I work the more rewarding it's becoming. Up, up and away!
-And a more recent one. About 3 weeks ago during my sleep I lost the feeling and most movement in my lower leg & foot. The doctors haven't diagnosed it yet but i've got a CT brain scan on March 16th for a suspected mini stroke in my sleep. It's been a wake up call but people have said I still seem the same mood wise = happy! :)

[sooty]

The doctors haven't diagnosed it yet but i've got a CT brain scan on March 16th for a suspected mini stroke in my sleep. It's been a wake up call but people have said I still seem the same mood wise = happy! :)

GhettoSuperstar
Very good luck to your hospital appointment on 16 march.

[GhettoSuperstar]

GhettoSuperstar
Very good luck to your hospital appointment on 16 march.

That's sweet, thank you very much. :)