Prejudice against single mums.

[InOne]

Do you think it is about alot? What do you think of them? I know a girl who has a kid and got all A's in her A-Levels at uni. People do break the stereotypes at times.

[Ella]

What a brill thread! As a Single Mum myself I always get put into the 'Benefit grabbing, Jobless, Out every night of the week, Jeremy Kyle watching category, But that's so wrong, I work and have done since Cian was a few months old, I don't drink anymore, I look after Cian very well and she has everything she wants and needs, Shes extremely bright, I teach her everything she knows, And i chose to be a single Mum because her 'Dad' is a total loser and I don't want him having anything to do with her.

[Lucy.]

Single mums get too much stick. So they made a mistake, it's not all fun and games for them either.

[Kerry]

Single mums get too much stick. So they made a mistake, it's not all fun and games for them either.

Why a mistake? Many are in loving relationships that break down

[Lucy.]

Mistake was just a bad word choice.

[Ella]

Single mums get too much stick. So they made a mistake, it's not all fun and games for them either.

The only mistake most of them make is getting involved with the dick head 'Dads'! :hugesmile:

[arista]

No
Single Mums
are Cool.

[Ella]

No
Single Mums
are Cool.

They so are! :hugesmile:

[InOne]

An annoying thing though, I was talking to a girl a few years ago and she was telling me that all her mates actually wanted to get preggers. They were like 16 and basically wanted that life. They saw having a baby as an excuse not to work.

[Ella]

An annoying thing though, I was talking to a girl a few years ago and she was telling me that all her mates actually wanted to get preggers. They were like 16 and basically wanted that life. They saw having a baby as an excuse not to work.

Yeah I know a few girls that said that, Its pathetic. Benefit bums :nono:, Pisses me off, 'Cause a lot of single Mums work and earn a decent living to provide for their child/ren.

[cupid stunt]

Do you think it is about alot? What do you think of them? I know a girl who has a kid and got all A's in her A-Levels at uni. People do break the stereotypes at times.

i dont mind single mums as long as they dont trap some poor bloke so they can sponge off of him

[pinkmichk]

i am a single mum yes i'm on benefits and live in a council house but i didnt set out to get pregnant just to get these things my daughter was a baby concieved on the pill but i dont agree with abortion so there was no doubt i would keep her and as much as i love her to bits being a single mum was not the life i would have chosen for myself it is not easy not in the slightest i'm not with her dad cos of how he treated me and yes i have claimed benefits but that is cos for me personally i couldnt put her into a nursery or similar i chose to have so i'm bringing her up now she is at school full time i'm looking for a job which is what i said i would do right from the start

sadly we are clumped into the stereotypes cos of a few who do purposely have a baby for the benefits etc i was 20 when i got pregnant so not even in that teen band but i still get put under the labels
i know 1 girl who had 3 under 3 by 3 different blokes before she was 18 purely cos she wanted to have her own place its people like her who give others a bad name

[arista]

"i know 1 girl who had 3 under 3 by 3 different blokes before she was 18 purely cos she wanted to have her own place its people like her who give others a bad name "


Yes I can see how some
are doing the Vicky Pollard.

And Not every single mother is like that.

[InOne]

I saw a FB group saying 'Any dick can make a baby but it takes a man to be a daddy' lol

[Enid]

Most single mums are benefit scroungers, which is fair enough if they can't get help any other way. It's when they choose to live their life that way and have no intention of changing it.

Couple of years back I saw an old school friend. She was a bit of slut, even back then. I saw her with two young children, and she was heavily pregnant. One of her kids were black, and the other white. I couldn't believe it. People like that shouldn't be allowed to have kids. It's like breeding rats.

[Beastie]

What about single dads?

[Enid]

What about single dads?
Single dads don't exist apparently. :bored:

[InOne]

Is there even a stereotype for single dads?

[Enid]

Is there even a stereotype for single dads?
See my post above. :P

[InOne]

See my post above. :P

Ohhhh haha well for me it's usually when the wife dies or something. But my mates dad was one cos the mother just upped and left.

[Zippy]

Problem with single Mothers is that they usually have sh!t taste in men. Which is why they usually end up as single Mothers.

I just wish they'd put more time and effort into choosing the right man to father their kids. One who is actually likely to stick around for that childs life and give them the father they deserve. Some women are just too selfish and don't even think about what the child will need throughout their life.

Im not saying single Mothers can't raise good children but it's certainly much harder and they deserve to have a balanced influence. It's sad when a child has never known a Father figure and Im sick of people pretending otherwise.

And I have no doubt whatsoever that a lot of problems in our society stem from the break up of the family unit. Kids just don't know who they are anymore and what their place in society is. The family structure is how they learn their place and also respect for their elders. Which has gone right out the window these days.

[InOne]

A lot of teens I find, like to go for 'The bad boy' usually does not end well.

[WOMBAI]

i dont mind single mums as long as they dont trap some poor bloke so they can sponge off of him

If he had sex without using a rubber - then he is not a poor bloke! He is just as responsible as her!

[Zippy]

No
Single Mums
are Cool.

No theyre not. Theyre usually guilty of very bad choices. Nothing cool about that.

And a child having no Father figure isn't cool either. They lose out in many many ways. Not least by not having additional Grandparents and extended family.

Cool doesn't apply.

[WOMBAI]

Most single mums are benefit scroungers, which is fair enough if they can't get help any other way. It's when they choose to live their life that way and have no intention of changing it.

Couple of years back I saw an old school friend. She was a bit of slut, even back then. I saw her with two young children, and she was heavily pregnant. One of her kids were black, and the other white. I couldn't believe it. People like that shouldn't be allowed to have kids. It's like breeding rats.

I don't agree most are - I think most work! And for a lot of those that don't work - it is only a temporary thing whilst their children are young!

Single mums are damned if they do, accused of neglecting their children, latch-key kids and all that, and damned if they don't, accused of being scroungers! And then there are those that say they shouldn't be allowed terminations and forced to have unplanned babies - then call them scroungers! At least they stick by their children - when a lot of the men don't!
Judgemental nonsense in my book!

[Tom4784]

Single mothers get tarred with the same brush as the few stereotypical ones really, In my own experiences I don't think I've come across a bad or stereotypical single mother, most I know do a brilliant job and should be applauded not lambasted.

Then again I can only talk from my own experiences.

[Zippy]

Ultimately it's women who control what happens to their bodies. And it's their bodies that create babies. So really, they should take control of the situation and be prepared for all possibilities.

And any woman who relies on a man to prevent her getting pregnant is a ****ing idiot. Seriously.

[Tom4784]

The responsibility for contraception should be shared really, if you are in a casual relationship then you should always have your own contraception just in case because you never know unless you can trust the other person completely.

[James]

Thread re-opened.

[InOne]

wow that's a lot of deleting lol

[BB_Eye]

I didn't see what happened... all I saw was cupid stunt's name next to the thread so figured I'd best avoid it, lol.

[Beastie]

Aww missed all the deleted comments! lol

[Zippy]

Lol at cupid stunt only having ONE sentence left in the thread!

[Shasown]

Single dads don't exist apparently. :bored:

I have just been posted out of existance apparently.

[WOMBAI]

Ultimately it's women who control what happens to their bodies. And it's their bodies that create babies. So really, they should take control of the situation and be prepared for all possibilities.

And any woman who relies on a man to prevent her getting pregnant is a ****ing idiot. Seriously.

As I said before - and any man that relies on a woman who says she is on the pill (in a casual relationship) is a *****ing idiot! Applies both ways!

[Zippy]

As I said before - and any man that relies on a woman who says she is on the pill (in a casual relationship) is a *****ing idiot! Applies both ways!

I heard you the first time. Lol. :joker:

[WOMBAI]

I heard you the first time. Lol. :joker:

Good! :joker:

[thejoker1983]

single mums shouldnt open there darn legs and it takes two too have a kid

[WOMBAI]

single mums shouldnt open there darn legs and it takes two too have a kid

It certainly does - irresponsible men should keep it in their pants!

[Shasown]

single mums shouldnt open there darn legs and it takes two too have a kid

Dont be silly once labour starts you cant stop it by keeping your legs crossed. And its a fact you dont need two legs to have a child, look at Heather Mills McCartney.

[hotleggs]

he never meant that , he meant if the girl hadent opened her legs the first place it wouldnt of happened lol

[WOMBAI]

he never meant that , he meant if the girl hadent opened her legs the first place it wouldnt of happened lol

He knows that - he is being facetious - you will get used to Shasown's sense of humour! :joker:

[Shasown]

The original comment was a bit, lets say not thought through, a lot of girls or women who end up as single mothers may have been in a long standing relationship, may have been using contraception, or may have been unlucky or stupid. I dont think many people actually do go out to get pregnant and intend to remain single in order to milk the system, do you?

Incidentally a female can keep her legs closed, bend over and still be penetrated, an enjoyable position for women is to be on top have the male inside her and then close her legs and enjoy the stimulation this brings.

Would be more accurate to state both parties having sexual relations should ensure that the other person uses a form of contraception at the same time as using a form themselves. Nothing as effective as wearing braces and a belt as my granny ised to say.