What happens on a stag/hen do -

[Kerry]

- stays on the stag/hen do


Do you agree with this mentality? I'm just watching Booze Britain - Brits abroad and hate it when I see men who are about to get married get off with other women (and vice versa)

Would you be fine with it if you later found out that your husband/wife had been doing anything from kiss to sleep with someone else just before you married? It's cheating isn't it?

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

no

[Novo]

Last night of freedom i would let them do as they want.

[joeysteele]

Yes.It is cheating and I would not be fine with it.I have seen it go on at stag nights I have been to,sadly it is seen as a last night of freedom by some when in fact it should really be the opposite.

[Kerry]

Last night of freedom i would let them do as they want.

So if you'd been with your partner for say 5 years and you decide to marry, you'd be fine if they slept with someone a week before your marriage?

[Doogle]

I wouldn't be fine at all. I don't see it as their "last night of freedom", I think that comes before you agree you're in a commited relationship rather than marriage.

[Kerry]

I wouldn't be fine at all. I don't see it as their "last night of freedom", I think that comes before you agree you're in a commited relationship rather than marriage.

I think many use these 'parties' as an excuse. "Oh it was my hen/stag night, I'm allowed". Ridiculous

[Doogle]

I think many use these 'parties' as an excuse. "Oh it was my hen/stag night, I'm allowed". Ridiculous

Agreed. I don't get why people would want to do that if they're about to get married the next day, which is meant to be "till death".

If/when I get married (which will be like 15 years from now LOL) I'm not going to do anything like that, I'm just gonna go out and have a good time. -will probably change mind in 15 years time-

[Lee.]

I think if anyone has to celebrate their last night of freedom, they aren't ready to commit/settle down.

[Novo]

So if you'd been with your partner for say 5 years and you decide to marry, you'd be fine if they slept with someone a week before your marriage?

As long as they had a few showers after

http://www.duckisland.co.uk/images/products/shower-gel-bottle-30ml.jpg

[Niamh.]

I think if anyone has to celebrate their last night of freedom, they aren't ready to commit/settle down.

Absolutely spot on.

[MTVN]

I think the boundaries definitely get pushed a bit but I wouldnt say it's ok to actually have sex with another woman. I agree that what happens on a stag do should stay on a stag do though

[joeysteele]

I think if anyone has to celebrate their last night of freedom, they aren't ready to commit/settle down.

100% right,

[Grimnir]

If a man has a stag do, you know already that he is the type of character who puts his mates first and girlfriend second. Women who have hen nights believe in their friends first and man second.
So why the surprise if the man/woman cheats when you know beforehand you are not the number one love of their life? You are not even 2nd or 3rd or 4th.
For them it goes family>mates>lover.
If someone priority was lover>family>mates then they would not want to even have a stag do/hen night in the first place. Instead they would want to have maybe a romantic night with each other. To me, this couple seems a lot more in "love"
You have zero grounds for complaint if man/woman cheats on stag/hen night as you have already accepted your status as being second to the mates.

[Ammi]

I think if anyone has to celebrate their last night of freedom, they aren't ready to commit/settle down.

I agree, I would rather have a pamper hen do to de-stress for the big day than a p*** up, I don't understand the point in that. When its a stag night/weekend I think it should be a similar treat for the groom.

[Niamh.]

If a man has a stag do, you know already that he is the type of character who puts his mates first and girlfriend second. Women who have hen nights believe in their friends first and man second.
So why the surprise if the man/woman cheats when you know beforehand you are not the number one love of their life? You are not even 2nd or 3rd or 4th.
For them it goes family>mates>lover.
If someone priority was lover>family>mates then they would not want to even have a stag do/hen night in the first place. Instead they would want to have maybe a romantic night with each other. To me, this couple seems a lot more in "love"
You have zero grounds for complaint if man/woman cheats on stag/hen night as you have already accepted your status as being second to the mates.

that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. You think a good relationship means never spending time with your friends for a man?:conf:

[Grimnir]

that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. You think a good relationship means never spending time with your friends for a man?:conf:

If someone would rather spend time with their friends than husband/wife then its not really an important relationship is it.
It is nothing more than a buddy who you occasionally ******. ****** buddy.
So if one of them cheats, who cares really? It wasn't important to begin with

[Niamh.]

If someone would rather spend time with their friends than husband/wife then its not really an important relationship is it.
It is nothing more than a buddy who you occasionally ******. ****** buddy.
So if one of them cheats, who cares really? It wasn't important to begin with

so you think that if you're in a relationship with someone you should never go out with your friends? I think it's important and far more healthy to be able to spend time with your friends as well as your partner. The point of the matter is, in a good, committed and trusting relationship you wouldn't even worry about your partner cheating while they're out.

[MTVN]

If someone would rather spend time with their friends than husband/wife then its not really an important relationship is it.
It is nothing more than a buddy who you occasionally ******. ****** buddy.
So if one of them cheats, who cares really? It wasn't important to begin with

LOL what bull, so spending one night with some friends as part of a traditional celebration means that you must not love your partner.

You're talking out your ass, loving someone doesnt mean that they're the only person you can ever spend any time with, and that you have to sacrifice and cut ties with any friends you previously had.

[Grimnir]

so you think that if you're in a relationship with someone you should never go out with your friends? I think it's important and far more healthy to be able to spend time with your friends as well as your partner. The point of the matter is, in a good, committed and trusting relationship you wouldn't even worry about your partner cheating while they're out.

why you keep going to the extreme and misquoting me?

i never said they NEVER go out with friends. I talking about someone who enjoys and prefers to go out with their friends rather than partner. So they choose more times to spend time with friends.
Whether it is a guy who prefers to go down pub with his mates and woman who prefers night out with the girls instead of being with their partner.

Its not thy should NEVER go out with friends. Its what do they prefer?
If they prefer spending time with friend over lover/partner/spouse its not a very good relationship in my opinion.

[Niamh.]

why you keep going to the extreme and misquoting me?

i never said they NEVER go out with friends. I talking about someone who enjoys and prefers to go out with their friends rather than partner. So they choose more times to spend time with friends.
Whether it is a guy who prefers to go down pub with his mates and woman who prefers night out with the girls instead of being with their partner.

Its not thy should NEVER go out with friends. Its what do they prefer?
If they prefer spending time with friend over lover/partner/spouse its not a very good relationship in my opinion.

ok, that's fair enough, it's just when you said "If a man has a stag do, you know already that he is the type of character who puts his mates first and girlfriend second. " that's the impression you gave off.

[CharlieO]

I just think the content of what people do on those parties are up to the couple to agree their consent on.

[Lee.]

I agree, I would rather have a pamper hen do to de-stress for the big day than a p*** up, I don't understand the point in that. When its a stag night/weekend I think it should be a similar treat for the groom.

Yeah, I can't actually think of anything worse than my friends dressing me up as a tacky bride, sticking penises on me and subjecting me to some god awful stripper.. I'd just be mortified. I'd much rather do something that I wouldn't usually do (I'm not sayiong it's the norm for me to go out with plastic penises on me)

On my sisters hen night, all the girls went for a good slap up Mexican meal, her hubby and co went for a traditionla lads curry and lager then we all met up and went clubbing and bride and groom to be went home together. It was a great night!

[Lee.]

As long as they had a few showers after

http://www.duckisland.co.uk/images/products/shower-gel-bottle-30ml.jpg

Lol.. you do make me laugh sometimes!

:laugh3:

[Ammi]

Yeah, I can't actually think of anything worse than my friends dressing me up as a tacky bride, sticking penises on me and subjecting me to some god awful stripper.. I'd just be mortified. I'd much rather do something that I wouldn't usually do (I'm not sayiong it's the norm for me to go out with plastic penises on me)
On my sisters hen night, all the girls went for a good slap up Mexican meal, her hubby and co went for a traditionla lads curry and lager then we all met up and went clubbing and bride and groom to be went home together. It was a great night!

:joker:
My son's gf is on a hen party at the moment, they've gone for a pamper weekend and my son is going on a stag next weekend where they are all going paintballing and go karting, then they'll all have a few drinks after. Not a plastic penis in sight:wink:

[Lee.]

:joker:
My son's gf is on a hen party at the moment, they've gone for a pamper weekend and my son is going on a stag next weekend where they are all going paintballing and go karting, then they'll all have a few drinks after. Not a plastic penis in sight:wink:

Lol.. but yeah that sounds much better. I always think you can actually go and get pissed any weekend you want. Pamper weekends etc sound bliss!

[Patrick]

Agree with Andy.

At the end of the day - I'm the one that will have the bitch in my bed for years to come, the guy at the bar she ******ed the night before won't see her again.

Unless of course she got his number - but I'd check her phone straight after the wedding and delete all her male contacts. x

I would try and get off with at least 3 Women on my stag night - and if one of them is fitter than my wife, then guess who's not getting married the next day? :amazed:

[Niamh.]

Agree with Andy.

At the end of the day - I'm the one that will have the bitch in my bed for years to come, the guy at the bar she ******ed the night before won't see her again.

Unless of course she got his number - but I'd check her phone straight after the wedding and delete all her male contacts. x

I would try and get off with at least 3 Women on my stag night - and if one of them is fitter than my wife, then guess who's not getting married the next day? :amazed:

lmao, spoken like a true teenager:wink:

[Lee.]

Agree with Andy.

At the end of the day - I'm the one that will have the bitch in my bed for years to come, the guy at the bar she ******ed the night before won't see her again.

Unless of course she got his number - but I'd check her phone straight after the wedding and delete all her male contacts. x

I would try and get off with at least 3 Women on my stag night - and if one of them is fitter than my wife, then guess who's not getting married the next day? :amazed:

Hahah! That did make me laugh.. a lot. But I do think your opinion will change one day.

[Vicky.]

:joker: patrick :D

[Crimson Dynamo]

I think they are revolting and never had one. Chavish.

[Jords]

Dont mind strippers as theyre just a bit of a laugh but shouldnt go any further.
Have fun, get drunk and dress up.
Then the next day marry your partner with a good clear start!


I dunno if I want to get married tbh, cost a lot just for a piece of paper and a couple of rings, Id probably see what my partner wanted, but I dont believe in getting married and divorced 3 or 4 times in a life :tongue:

[InOne]

I think I'd hate one. Hate all that 'One of the lads' bollocks

[Z]

Yeah, I can't actually think of anything worse than my friends dressing me up as a tacky bride, sticking penises on me and subjecting me to some god awful stripper.. I'd just be mortified. I'd much rather do something that I wouldn't usually do (I'm not sayiong it's the norm for me to go out with plastic penises on me)



Lolololol still totally sigging you Lee! :D

Yeah I agree if a couple are about to get married, which is the most serious relationship commitment a couple can make other than deciding to have children IMO, there shouldn't be a desire to get up to sleazy antics with strangers to 'celebrate their last night of freedom', just doesn't make sense to me.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

I think they are revolting and never had one. Chavish.

are you married? D:

-feels for your wife-

[Smithy]

-feels for your wife-

I took that the wrong way :laugh3:

[Kerry]

Read it as "Feels your wife"

[Lee.]

Lolololol still totally sigging you Lee! :D

Yeah I agree if a couple are about to get married, which is the most serious relationship commitment a couple can make other than deciding to have children IMO, there shouldn't be a desire to get up to sleazy antics with strangers to 'celebrate their last night of freedom', just doesn't make sense to me.

Haaaaaaaaaaaahaha! nice sig! :laugh3:

And no, it makes no sense to me neither!

[lostalex]

I've seen some videos online of women's bachelorette parties/hen nights and they do ALOT more with the male strippers than most people think. They were giving the male stripper oral sex, it was crazy. Even like old ladies at the party and stuff.

[Beastie]

- stays on the stag/hen do


Do you agree with this mentality? I'm just watching Booze Britain - Brits abroad and hate it when I see men who are about to get married get off with other women (and vice versa)

Would you be fine with it if you later found out that your husband/wife had been doing anything from kiss to sleep with someone else just before you married? It's cheating isn't it?

I wouldn't mind if my partner had a stripper or something on his stag night. Possibly forgive him if he kissed someone else.. but sleeping with someone else.. I would be mad!! I would even then.. not marry him.. or say to him "now that you have slept with someone, I will pick a man to have a one night stand with" lol or I would just forgive him alltogeher.

But yeah it should be a light hearted laugh. With a stripper. lol. Not something as far fetched as The Hangover Part 2 which I saw tonight! :hugesmile:

Same rules should apply for a hen night. Draw a line at a stipper and that's it.

I wouldn't want a fuss of a big hen night anyway though! lol

[Niamh.]

I've seen some videos online of women's bachelorette parties/hen nights and they do ALOT more with the male strippers than most people think. They were giving the male stripper oral sex, it was crazy. Even like old ladies at the party and stuff.

I've been to a few hen parties in my time and I can honestly say I've never seen anyone doing anything funny with the stripper:joker:

[MTVN]

I wouldn't mind if my partner had a stripper or something on his stag night. Possibly forgive him if he kissed someone else.. but sleeping with someone else.. I would be mad!! I would even then.. not marry him.. or say to him "now that you have slept with someone, I will pick a man to have a one night stand with" lol or I would just forgive him alltogeher.

But yeah it should be a light hearted laugh. With a stripper. lol. Not something as far fetched as The Hangover Part 2 which I saw tonight! :hugesmile:

Same rules should apply for a hen night. Draw a line at a stipper and that's it.

I wouldn't want a fuss of a big hen night anyway though! lol

I like how you went from not marrying him at all to completely forgiving him in the space of a few words :laugh:

[CharlieO]

I've seen some videos online of women's bachelorette parties/hen nights and they do ALOT more with the male strippers than most people think. They were giving the male stripper oral sex, it was crazy. Even like old ladies at the party and stuff.

I think that is called porn.

[Niamh.]

I think that is called porn.

:laugh2:

[Livia]

There's only one thing I find more tedious than an night out with the girls, and that's a night in with the girls.

[Beastie]

There's only one thing I find more tedious than an night out with the girls, and that's a night in with the girls.

Are you one of the lads Livia?

[lostalex]

I think that is called porn.



you're soo naive :P