I need some advice...

[Sawyer]

I'm not attention seeking, I genuinely need some advice because I don't know what to do or how to handle this situation, and I can't really ask anyone I know.... so anyone willing to boar themselves, read on...

I work with this guy, and his cousin came into work the other day and we exchanged a few glances, she exactly my type and I sure the way she looked at me she liked how I looked [on first impressions anyway]. Now, i've found her facebook through my co-workers facebook, but I obviously can't just add her as a friend because it'd look strange to my co-worker and I don't feel like I could just tell my co-worker i'd like to get to know his cousin more because it's his cousin... [does that make sense?]...

She came in the other day again and we briefly spoke in general and I've dropped hints to my co-worker but he just aint getting it. I have no idea what to do, I literally can't get this girl out of my head, which is strange because I've only spoken to her briefly, but when our eyes glanced at each other it felt right. This probably sounds so immature, but hey, I don't care, I just need some ideas...

[Locke.]

Just start a conversation with her next time she goes to your work and ask her for her number/facebook

[Kerry]

Just add her on FB. Go for it!!!!! What's the worst that can happen? If you've spoken to her you could even say to your workmate she's mentioned she's on there or something

It's that or maybe forever regret not contacting her........

[Sawyer]

Just add her on FB. Go for it!!!!! What's the worst that can happen? If you've spoken to her you could even say to your workmate she's mentioned she's on there or something

It's that or maybe forever regret not contacting her........

Now this is so true, but I'm not sure if SHE might find it weird, or might not even know who I am... (I doubt she knows my name)

[Locke.]

Oh if you've already got her facebook then yeah just add her

[Sawyer]

Oh if you've already got her facebook then yeah just add her

Lol, I wish I had the confidence to just do that. I'm a pathetic excuse for a man :joker:

[GypsyGoth]

Propose to her before someone else does!!!

[Sawyer]

Propose to her before someone else does!!!

LOL. This genuinely made me laugh.

[Kerry]

Now this is so true, but I'm not sure if SHE might find it weird, or might not even know who I am... (I doubt she knows my name)

I'd bet she does :D But if not just mention it (sorry, no idea how messages work on there :laugh:) casually. Go on. Add her now! You're sat there :p


*Terms - if it goes wrong, don't hunt me down
Goes right - I'd like an invite or at least cake

[joeysteele]

Just add her on FB. Go for it!!!!! What's the worst that can happen? If you've spoken to her you could even say to your workmate she's mentioned she's on there or something

It's that or maybe forever regret not contacting her........

Kerry's right,she'd never guide anyone wrongly.

Don't you just on facebook send a friend request or something, I am not on facebook but sending a friend request could prompt her to ask you who you are and at that point you are only adding friends to your facebook so she'd have no need to be upset at that.
Once you said who you were and where you knew her from, no telling where it could lead from there and even so you still would have then another friend on your facebook.

Normally,I never give advice but the old saying is' he who hesitates is lost',if it means that much to you, go for it. Really, good luck with it all.

[Ninastar]

if it was me, i'd wait till next time I talked to her, to add her on fb.

saying that though, one of my friends adds people on fb almost as soon as she knows them, and I don't see any reasons why a person wouldn't like it

[Sawyer]

I'd bet she does :D But if not just mention it (sorry, no idea how messages work on there :laugh:) casually. Go on. Add her now! You're sat there :p


*Terms - if it goes wrong, don't hunt me down
Goes right - I'd like an invite or at least cake

I suppose I could add her and put in there I work with her cousin... Kerry, you're a genious.

Plus, I'm quoting that, it's hilarious.

[CharlieO]

Don't be a creep. Ignore her and spend you life thinking what if. Social conditioning tells us to do this so STICK to it, bow down to social etiquette.

[Kerry]

Don't be a creep. Ignore her and spend you life thinking what if. Social conditioning tells us to do this so STICK to it, bow down to social etiquette.

Awwwwww give up. He's nervous! :nono:

[Sawyer]

So the gerenal consensus here is just to add her on facebook?

[Kerry]

So the gerenal consensus here is just to add her on facebook?

Yes!!!!!!!



For now. I shall think of more plans....... :whistle:

[Sawyer]

Yes!!!!!!!



For now. I shall think of more plans....... :whistle:

I'll let you all know how it goes...

[Kerry]

I'll let you all know how it goes...

Brilliant :D

Good luck. Be brave! You've nothing to lose :)

[Sawyer]

Brilliant :D

Good luck. Be brave! You've nothing to lose :)

Maybe I should ask my co-worker first?

[Vicky.]

Its nothing to do with your co-worker IMO.

But personally I would wait til the next time i saw the girl, face to face, and just talk. maybe if you want her on FB then just drop it into the conversation...rather than randomly adding her :/

[Sawyer]

Its nothing to do with your co-worker IMO.

But personally I would wait til the next time i saw the girl, face to face, and just talk. maybe if you want her on FB then just drop it into the conversation...rather than randomly adding her :/

But it is his cousin? I can't garantee the next time she'll be in.. could be months, tomorrow or even never lol.

[Kerry]

Maybe I should ask my co-worker first?

You're hesitating....... :nono:


It's upto you. As I say I dunno how FB works and who can see what and what-have-you but I personally can't see why there'd be a problem. If he say's anything just shrug it off. You're doing nothing wrong. You like someone. So what? Why on earth should there be a problem?

['Conor]

go 4 it bud :) add her

[Vicky.]

But it is his cousin? I can't garantee the next time she'll be in.. could be months, tomorrow or even never lol.

Still though, his cousins lovelife has nowt to do with him.

And ah, I get it now. In that case I would just add her and if she finds it weird or anything just say she flashed up on the side of your screen saying she had 1 mutual friend or something, and that you recognised her :)

[Sawyer]

You're hesitating....... :nono:


It's upto you. As I say I dunno how FB works and who can see what and what-have-you but I personally can't see why there'd be a problem. If he say's anything just shrug it off. You're doing nothing wrong. You like someone. So what? Why on earth should there be a problem?

Very trueee, I'm getting all nervous just thinking about it. I haven't had a relationship for over a year! Lol.

[Shasown]

Maybe you could message her first and see if there is anything between you, see if she sort of feels the same way.

[Sawyer]

Still though, his cousins lovelife has nowt to do with him.

And ah, I get it now. In that case I would just add her and if she finds it weird or anything just say she flashed up on the side of your screen saying she had 1 mutual friend or something, and that you recognised her :)

You are a flipping genious! They don't call you moderator for nothin', do they?

[Kerry]

Very trueee, I'm getting all nervous just thinking about it. I haven't had a relationship for over a year! Lol.

It's natural - and good. In an awful natural good way :joker:

[Tom]

would be funny if you went through all this build up and then her profile says 'in a relationship with____'

[Sawyer]

would be funny if you went through all this build up and then her profile says 'in a relationship with____'

Shup, kid.

[joeysteele]

I wish you really good luck Matthews220, hope it works out for you,I also vote that Vicky gets a special award/recognition for her perfect guidance.

Really, though, hope all goes your way.

[Vicky.]

You are a flipping genious! They don't call you moderator for nothin', do they?

I know this http://thmg.photobucket.com/albums/v161/stellkins/th_av_fsmrockstar.gif

[Sawyer]

I wish you really good luck Matthews220, hope it works out for you,I also vote that Vicky gets a special award/recognition for her perfect guidance.

Really, though, hope all goes your way.

Cheers mate, and my name's Sam. :)

[Tom]

Shup, kid.

:joker:

[Kerry]

I know this http://thmg.photobucket.com/albums/v161/stellkins/th_av_fsmrockstar.gif

:joker:

[Roy Mars III]

Yeah, add her. Good luck, mate.

[Sawyer]

right, I haven't done it, I think I need to ask the co-worker when he gets on facebook

[Locke.]

It is his cousin not his sister, it's not as bad and definitely worth the risk if she is fit

[Tom]

Just do it. then poke her. if she pokes you back you're in.

[Z]

Make your profile picture a really clear, close up picture of you, click add and she'll presumably recognise your face and 9/10 times people will accept; then either catch her on chat or fb message her just saying you were being a creep and found her through her cousin, just make a joke out of it and take the chat from there. Go for it! The worst that can happen is she declines, and even then she might only do that because she's serious about her privacy. Do it!

[Sawyer]

It is his cousin not his sister, it's not as bad and definitely worth the risk if she is fit

you're making perfect sense. I'm just being a woos. [sp?]

[Sawyer]

I've done it

If this backfires, you're ALL to blame. Be warned! :P

[Sawyer]

Just do it. then poke her. if she pokes you back you're in.

Lol.

[Kerry]

I've done it

If this backfires, you're ALL to blame. Be warned! :P

:spin:

[Sawyer]

Ahh ****. She's just accepted.

+ She aint writing back on Chat :S

[Sawyer]

She wrote back, and remembers me!! :d

Edit:

dunoo what to say! HELP!

[Shasown]

Would it be as funny as F, if she was a member of this forum and is reading this thread even as we discuss her?

[Kerry]

Just be friendly. Funny. Relax :D

[Sawyer]

Would it be as funny as F, if she was a member of this forum and is reading this thread even as we discuss her?

It's all worked, I love you guys! We're now having a conversation! :D

[Kerry]

Awwwwwwwww I'm so chuffed!!!!!! :D

[Sawyer]

Awwwwwwwww I'm so chuffed!!!!!! :D

You've done your good deed for today! :P

[Z]

I'm pleased for you Sam! :)

[Sawyer]

I'm pleased for you Sam! :)

Cheersss :)