Did Scott attend his sisters funeral?

[muchadoaboutnothing]

Sorry if this has been brought up already and passed through the pages of time. But i was wondering if Scott did go to his sisters (I think sisters) funeral as we appear to have seen him, at some stage, on every nights HLs shows?

[lostalex]

It's none of our business imo.

[Beastie]

He must not have been close to his sister. I am sure most housemates would leave the house if their sibling has passed away.

[lostalex]

He must not have been close to his sister. I am sure most housemates would leave the house if their sibling has passed away.

who are you to judge anyone's response to something that personal? It's none of your business and has nothing to do with the TV show Big Brother.

[fruit_cake]

He got very upset with Becky when she mentioned his sister, some might say his anger with Becky came straight out of the blue. It did suggest he's grieving for her.

[Gillian-73]

We don't even know if it was his sister, other than the daily star i don't think anybody else reported it was! Last year Tom went to his grandfather's funeral but from the highlights we wouldn't have known.

[muchadoaboutnothing]

It's none of our business imo.

Blimey - sorry I asked

[lostalex]

Blimey - sorry I asked

Well if you can't respect someone's right to privacy over something as personal as that, then what do you have respect for? Certainly you've got to draw the line somewhere, don't you agree?

[KingOfTheMods]

Well if you can't respect someone's right to privacy over something as personal as that, then what do you have respect for? Certainly you've got to draw the line somewhere, don't you agree?

If he wanted privacy he should have went home. People are bound to be curious.

[lostalex]

If he wanted privacy he should have went home. People are bound to be curious.

Ic so people's curiosity trumps the right to privacy? really?

[KingOfTheMods]

Ic so people's curiosity trumps the right to privacy? really?

I'm not saying it should, I'm saying it will. That's just the way people are.

[Mrluvaluva]

He could have been. It does not have to necessarily be mentioned on the highlights show.

[Jords]

I think BB are keeping things about Scott and his loss close. And rightly so :)

[mkbb]

Are you sure it is his sister? He said the other day to Becky I think when she said he was a nasty person something along the lines of "you wouldnt want to meet my sister then thas how we talk to each other all the time. Its a joke". If she had died would he really say that.

[Urban Cragou]

I understand the death of one of his family members was always going to cause controversy but it's not for us to decide what's appropriate for him to do. It's a personal matter and it's up to him to choose how to deal with it.

[joeysteele]

I agree with Lostalex and Redway, it is none of our business. It's a very private matter and I also agree as to the comment made above when Scott retorted to Becky about his Sister, clearly it is a sensitive subject.
I just hope, if he needs it that BB are giving him any support behind the scenes that he may need.

[In the Drunk Tank]

Yeah I don't see much point in speculating

[Petershaw1984]

He must not have been close to his sister. I am sure most housemates would leave the house if their sibling has passed away.

Beastie i love your sig. She is beautiful

[Shaun]

Are you sure it is his sister? He said the other day to Becky I think when she said he was a nasty person something along the lines of "you wouldnt want to meet my sister then thas how we talk to each other all the time. Its a joke". If she had died would he really say that.

He could have more than one sister :p

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[Urban Cragou]

If there are members on here who seriously labour under the stupid illusion that they are in any position to decide what someone who clearly has their own mind - and who they will never see again (and don't care much about beyond the show) - then I do worry.

Incidentally, coming from the guy who doesn't worry enough about the effects of smoking to not do it, that's saying something.

[lostalex]

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.

[Marc]

lostalex, calm down. Your replies seem very rude

[lostalex]

lostalex, calm down. Your replies seem very rude

i havn't said anything rude. If i did i'm sure you would have given me an infraction by now.

[Marc]

Because you haven't insulted anybody. But I don't agree that you can just shut a thread down like that and snap at people saying it's none of their business etc.

It's a forum, to discuss BB related stories, Scott's never going to find this forum and never going to read this thread.

It is strange that somebody wouldn't go to their sister's funeral

[lostalex]

Because you haven't insulted anybody. But I don't agree that you can just shut a thread down like that and snap at people saying it's none of their business etc.

It's a forum, to discuss BB related stories, Scott's never going to find this forum and never going to read this thread.

It is strange that somebody wouldn't go to their sister's funeral


I didn't shut anything down, you are a mod though, so you actually do shut threads down. i think it's hilarious that you as a person that has actually shut threads down is accussing me of what you have actually done.

I didn't shut anything down, i'm just emotional about this issue because i know what it's like to be judged for the way i've greived about my loved ones. I have not been rude in any way though.


and saying that Scott is never going to read this threaD/ we have had many former housemates post on this forum, so why would you say that??

[alex_front2]

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

[Livia]

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

Don't you take this personally... everyone's personal circumstances colours everything they think and do, and sometimes using your own personal circumstances justifies your own opinions. We've heard an awful lot about your own personal circumstances, after all.

Everyone treats death differently and everyone copes differently. There is no right or wrong way, only what's right or wrong for you.

[lostalex]

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

i never dictated what anyone can and can't say around here. I'm not a mod and i have no power over what people can and can't say. I only gave my opinion.

[Iceman]

You telling people to keep their opinions to themselves = shutting thread down.

[Jordan.]

He went to his sisters funeral with half shaven red curly hair?

[lostalex]

You telling people to keep their opinions to themselves = shutting thread down.
I don't have the authority to tell anyone what to do. I think i explained my position in a rational way.

[lostalex]

There are certain mods on this forum that would love an excuse to infract and/or ban me, and i won't give them the satisfaction, and because they don't have an excuse to infract me, they decide to just try to intimidate me instead. I'm fully aware of what is going on here.

Sorry, but i'm on to your game.

[Marc]

There are certain mods on this forum that would love an excuse to infract and/or ban me, and i won't give them the satisfaction, and because they don't have an excuse to infract me, they decide to just try to intimidate me instead. I'm fully aware of what is going on here.

Sorry, but i'm on to your game.

:laugh: Seriously? I do not intend to intimidate anybody, I wouldn't know how to start. You need to just stop being so rude and snappy at people on this forum.

You stop that and you'll stop the MODs getting on your back. We're trying to make this forum a nice place for people to come on and not get into arguments with people, yet some members chose to be rude which then intimidates other members.

[lostalex]

I'm not being rude dude, i'm giving my opinion about something that i've had personal experience with. Because i've had personal experience with this type of situation, i shared my experience, and your lack of sensitivity is more rude than anything i've said.

read every post i've made, they were all on topic and i made no attacks or rude statements to anyone.
Do i think people wanting to judge Scott based on how he mourns his loss is obscene and inappropriate? yes. i don't see how that's rude though.

[Marc]

You're pretty much shutting everybodies opinion down because you've experienced death, we've all experienced death. We all have opinions but it doesn't mean you get to quote everybody who has a different opinion to you and drum it into them that they shouldn't think that way.

[lostalex]

You're pretty much shutting everybodies opinion down because you've experienced death, we've all experienced death. We all have opinions but it doesn't mean you get to quote everybody who has a different opinion to you and drum it into them that they shouldn't think that way.

well i havn't heard anyone else talk about their opinion from a personal point of view. i havn't shut anyone down. You know perfectly well that only mods can do that.

[Marc]

Closing a thread doesn't mean you shut it down. There are other ways of doing it

I'm leaving this now :idc:

[Black Dagger]

Lostalex causing a scene again? Not like him.

Scott more than likely did attend his sisters funeral and now he's back in the house, his call whatever, people grieve differently.

[lostalex]

I don't want you to leave, i just wish you'd talk about the issue of the thread, i.e, scott's loss and the issue of people wanting to judge him based on going to a funeral or not, but instead you've used an entire page to chastize me over something that you yourself even admit isn;t even a rule break. You tried to make the thread about me but i was on topic the whole time.

you can understand why i feel targeted now then.

[Vicky.]

Sorry if this has been brought up already and passed through the pages of time. But i was wondering if Scott did go to his sisters (I think sisters) funeral as we appear to have seen him, at some stage, on every nights HLs shows?
A funeral only takes like an hour, maybe a few hours for the wake or whatever.

It would be very easy to slip away and the HL shows not say anything about it.

Scott wanted to keep it to himself (he said this when he was informed of the death, when he came back out of the DR) and I think his/his families privacy should be respected tbh

[Yayita]

Dudes, I missed this whole thread... It went completely awry.

My 2 cents? If your a public figure, which for the time being Scott is. You expose yourself to the public and their curiosity, therefore it is completely normal for people to want to know what happened and for them to opine on the matter... Thats what happens when you are on tv and a pseudo celebrity, it is always open season.

Lostalex, Im sorry about your lost, I lost my dad in 2007 and its quite painfull and I understand the feeling. However, not everyone understands it and so you should play it close to your chest and not invest your emotions into a forum with people who wont completely understand....Just my opinion love.

[lostalex]

Dudes, I missed this whole thread... It went completely awry.

My 2 cents? If your a public figure, which for the time being Scott is. You expose yourself to the public and their curiosity, therefore it is completely normal for people to want to know what happened and for them to opine on the matter... Thats what happens when you are on tv and a pseudo celebrity, it is always open season.

Lostalex, Im sorry about your lost, I lost my dad in 2007 and its quite painfull and I understand the feeling. However, not everyone understands it and so you should play it close to your chest and not invest your emotions into a forum with people who wont completely understand....Just my opinion love.

thanks Yay, i agree, obviously some people don't wanna hear about how it really is, so i shouldn't share my own personal experiences, because i' just get torn down for it.

I love this forum, and i feel like it's a community, sometimes i forget that some people will use that kind of thing against me. yur right, i shouldn't disclose such personal things in the future.

[Yayita]

thanks Yay, i agree, obviously some people don't wanna hear about how it really is, so i shouldn't share my own personal experiences, because i' just get torn down for it.

I love this forum, and i feel like it's a community, sometimes i forget that some people will use that kind of thing against me. yur right, i shouldn't disclose such personal things in the future.

:flowers: you can bitch at me in private if you need to

[sarakss]

Well if you can't respect someone's right to privacy over something as personal as that, then what do you have respect for? Certainly you've got to draw the line somewhere, don't you agree?

You need to chill out because OP asked a very valid question and his question was not disrespectful. He did not ask WHY Scott remained in the house after his sister died, he asked if he attended her funeral - a question ALMOST everyone would ask.


OP, I did have the same questions as you because the only time I'd heard Scott mention his sister was when he talked about their role-playing games with Caroline and the fight with Becky.

I even started doubting if his sister had passed away because he's handling himself like nothing happened and there's only one article that claimed it was his sister.

[lostalex]

You need to chill out because OP asked a very valid question and his question was not disrespectful. He did not ask WHY Scott remained in the house after his sister died, he asked if he attended her funeral - a question ALMOST everyone would ask.


OP, I did have the same questions as you because the only time I'd heard Scott mention his sister was when he talked about their role-playing games with Caroline and the fight with Becky.

I even started doubting if his sister had passed away because he's handling himself like nothing happened and there's only one article that claimed it was his sister.

i need to chill out? when did i say anything that wasn't "chill"?

[sarakss]

i havn't said anything rude. If i did i'm sure you would have given me an infraction by now.

Your responses since the start of this thread have been rude and dismissive.

[lostalex]

Your responses since the start of this thread have been rude and dismissive.

the OP was rude and dismissive by your standards.

[sarakss]

i need to chill out? when did i say anything that wasn't "chill"?

Let me take a step back because I don't want to seem as if I'm jumping on you. The OP, IMO, asked a valid question many people are wondering about because no one saw anything about him leaving the house.

I can't speak for everyone, but I find it really odd that 1. he's still in the house and 2. he's handling himself so 'well'. People grieve in different ways and for some people who may have not experienced that loss or reacted differently when they experienced a loss, his reaction is baffling.

Enough about that and back to your statement. When the OP asked the question, right from the start your response was rude and dismissive. You could have worded it differently, but reading it seemed like a hostile response. You might have as well said 'shut your fcuking mouth!'

[sarakss]

the OP was rude and dismissive by your standards.

How can the OP be dismissive by asking a question? Asking a question is inviting a response, not trying to silence someone.

[lostalex]

Let me take a step back because I don't want to seem as if I'm jumping on you. The OP, IMO, asked a valid question many people are wondering about because no one saw anything about him leaving the house.

I can't speak for everyone, but I find it really odd that 1. he's still in the house and 2. he's handling himself so 'well'. People grieve in different ways and for some people who may have not experienced that loss or reacted differently when they experienced a loss, his reaction is baffling.

we havn't seen much of Scott in the past few weeks atleast not since Aaron left, and i totally agree with what you've said about epople greiving in different ways. I'm not seeing how you can accusse me of saying anything offensive or aggressive, it sounds like we are agreeing!!

my innitial response was not dismissive or hostile. I said it was none of OUR business. How is that dismissive or offensive? It's not any of our business. how can i say that in any other way?

[sarakss]

When I read it, that's how it appeared. That's the internet for you - when we try to get to the point to make it short and sweet, it may read a different way.

I see what you mean when you say it's no one's business how people grieve, but when you put your life on TV, people will ask questions and make judgments. How many times has Ashleigh been labeled a ***** and all that for what she's done. Just as people can label you as funny or nice, they can also question what you do whether or not it relates to the show.

[vikram84]

I read Step-Sister.

[KingOfTheMods]

who are you to judge anyone's response to something that personal? It's none of your business and has nothing to do with the TV show Big Brother.

That's you laying the law down I'm afraid. And your presumption that anyone with a different point of view to you on this is staggering. I lost my stepdad and grandmother (who more or less raised me) within 2 months of each other so I know a lot about personal loss. As can be seen by the posts here people have differing views on it and that's what makes this a discussion not a dictatorship.

[lostalex]

That's you laying the law down I'm afraid. And your presumption that anyone with a different point of view to you on this is staggering. I lost my stepdad and grandmother (who more or less raised me) within 2 months of each other so I know a lot about personal loss. As can be seen by the posts here people have differing views on it and that's what makes this a discussion not a dictatorship.

I'm not a mod, so i cannot lay down any law. I'm glad you shared yur personal experience, cause i don't like being the only one. I just said that i think people should not have to be judged on national TV for how they react. I didn't attack or "shut down" anyone bro. I'm sorry for your loss, and i'm gladd you didn't have to suffer any of the scrutiny that Scott is facing here.

i know you posted this in disagreement to me, but i think we agree. We both know that dealing with death in the family should not be subjected to judgment on TV.

I don;'t think i truly dealt with my mom's death emotionally til atleast a year after she was gone. The idea that you should be in pieces and destroyed right after is ridiculous to me.

[Urban Cragou]

..We're all judges of morality here and whilst I don't think it's right that people are judged based on what they do it's totally called for as people are supposed to be judging him based on his character and what he does. I understand what lostalex is saying but you have to allow for different points of view.

[KingOfTheMods]

I'm not a mod, so i cannot lay down any law. I'm glad you shared yur personal experience, cause i don't like being the only one. I just said that i think people should not have to be judged on national TV for how they react. I didn't attack or "shut down" anyone bro. I'm sorry for your loss, and i'm gladd you didn't have to suffer any of the scrutiny that Scott is facing here.

i know you posted this in disagreement to me, but i think we agree. We both know that dealing with death in the family should not be subjected to judgment on TV.

I don;'t think i truly dealt with my mom's death emotionally til atleast a year after she was gone. The idea that you should be in pieces and destroyed right after is ridiculous to me.

I agree with you up to a point mate. Whatever's happened, for him to carry on living his life on national television then speculation and questions are to be expected. How coud they not. How can you ask people to respect your privacy when your laying yourself bare to the world.

[joeysteele]

A funeral only takes like an hour, maybe a few hours for the wake or whatever.

It would be very easy to slip away and the HL shows not say anything about it.

Scott wanted to keep it to himself (he said this when he was informed of the death, when he came back out of the DR) and I think his/his families privacy should be respected tbh

Definately I agree with this.

Also Lostalex, I am really sad to learn of your loss and no,the fact you didn't want to be involved in the planning or whatever of your Mum's funeral etc, does not mean in any way you cared less for her.
Grief affects people in all different ways.
As Vicky said, even when Scott came back after leaving the house at the time of the death, he didn't want to discuss it when he came back, that is his full and total right.

When my Grandmother died, one of her Daughters,my Aunt, couldn't face anything as to it, the funeral or house full of people etc, she didn't attend the funeral even,went off on a trip until all was over, she had lived with My Grandmother all her life but grief has no norm as to thought, feeling or action.

Which is why Scott has every right not to discuss it at all and also to be solidly protected by BB from having to in the house too if he needs that.

Whether Scott attended the funeral or not,is for him to reveal and just because he is on BB,it is not also right for them to disclose if he did or not without his consent. That has nothing to do with wrong or right but is all about respect and decency for him, his late Sister and his family too..

[1311]

..We're all judges of morality here and whilst I don't think it's right that people are judged based on what they do it's totally called for as people are supposed to be judging him based on his character and what he does. I understand what lostalex is saying but you have to allow for different points of view.

That!

[muchadoaboutnothing]

You need to chill out because OP asked a very valid question and his question was not disrespectful. He did not ask WHY Scott remained in the house after his sister died, he asked if he attended her funeral - a question ALMOST everyone would ask.


OP, I did have the same questions as you because the only time I'd heard Scott mention his sister was when he talked about their role-playing games with Caroline and the fight with Becky.

I even started doubting if his sister had passed away because he's handling himself like nothing happened and there's only one article that claimed it was his sister.

Thank you Sarakass. I was just wondering if Scott had left the house to attend the relatives funeral. I had no intention of criticizing Scott if he did or didn't as that would be a personal matter for him. But as BB fans (viewers) we are entitled to enquire (wonder) about HMs, I would have thought that part of the BB experience for HMs is a warts and all for viewers to share.