I need help (again)

[Conzors]

Hey guys.

Sorry to use you all as agony aunts but i seriously don't know what to do, and i want an impartial view.

Around February, me and this guy were dating for a few months. He then randomly said to me 'Im going on a second date with this other guy, so i dont wanna date you anymore'. I was kinda hurt and a little taken back, but i soon got over it. I haven't dated anyone since him. Last week, he got back into contact with me, and said sorry for what he did and he is just in a bad place. He is seeing another guy, but he wants me to be his friend and help him 'become a better person'. He revealed that last year he had a serious relationship and his ex abused him and stuff and that made him weak, paranoid and caused him to get cold feet all the time. However last week i also met a guy and we went on a date yesterday (friday 16th nov) and it went well we had dinner and had a little kiss.

Im meeting the guy i was seeing in February tonight for a coffee and to talk, i'm confused about my feelings towards him.


Do i stick with this new guy and see what happens? Or do I see how things go with the old one.

I dont wanna date them both at the same time.

[Kate!]

The new guy. The old is messing you about and has too much baggage. You deserve better.

[Shaun]

If he said he wants you to be his friend I wouldn't get your hopes up about the possibility of any feelings towards him being reciprocated... I can't tell you to block him completely, because he could turn out to be a good friend, but if you can't be around him without wanting to be together then maybe it'd be best to try and avoid him?

[Marcus.]

I would stick to the new boyfriend because if you dump the new one and go to the old one it be unfair to the new one

[Conzors]

The new guy. The old is messing you about and has too much baggage. You deserve better.

I know i know, but this old one seems to really need help.

If he said he wants you to be his friend I wouldn't get your hopes up about the possibility of any feelings towards him being reciprocated... I can't tell you to block him completely, because he could turn out to be a good friend, but if you can't be around him without wanting to be together then maybe it'd be best to try and avoid him?

I dont like him YET, but im scared if i meet him ill end up liking him again, and he even said hed take me back but i dont know! im a sucker for this kinda thing. hes lied before and, god forbid, what if hes lying about his ex and stuff just make me feel sorry? x

[Marsh.]

Depends, do they spit or swallow?

[Kate!]

I'm sure he does need help, but from experience I think someone with deep rooted issues isn't ready for a relationship and I think he'd use you and mess you about. Not saying deliberately but still.

[Ninastar]

new guy for a bf, but keep old guy as a friend

[Conzors]

cheers guys x