Do you trust happy and overally nice people

[smeagol]

you know the types. do you trust them or do you think they are up to something
if someone is too nice do you always think they want to wear your skin as a lampshade lol or just think aww they are nice.

[Saph]

omg no my tutor at college is always happy and jolly and everyone loves her but I think shes fake

[Kyle]

I see no reason why not, some people are just naturally cheery and nice.

There are some people though who are just over the top patronisingly nice which makes you think something's not right. Multi faceted people.

[Kizzy]

It freaks me out too, oh you're so great... oh you should be pope... urg! makes me sick.

[King Gizzard]

yes

[smudgie]

Sometimes.
I do know there are some really great people out there.:hugesmile:

[thesheriff443]

the people that are too happy and every thing around them is perfect, cant stand these people.

[Z]

I'm Homer Simpson and they're Ned Flanders

[Natalie.]

I don't like it when people are overly nice to me but that's my problem probably.

[Verbal]

I would, if I knew any

[Stu]

I envy them. I'm working on being as consistently delighted with life as they are. It's something to aspire to. If someone doesn't trust or like that mentality then that's there problem, really.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

People genuinely don't trust people that are constantly happy. They think they're fake or weird. If you don't have a bitchy bone you're not part of the homosapien race.

[Josy]

Its a bad day when you don't trust someone because they are happy and/or nice tbh :suspect:

I don't trust people that are constantly loud and try to be centre of attention, like those people that feel the need to tell you how mad they are or how much they don't care what others think of them, those sorts would drop you in the **** if they thought they would get a few minutes attention from it.

I don't have a problem with happy or nice people though no...

[Z]

Personally I was thinking of the kind of people who insist that the world is a wonderful place after their house has been destroyed in a hurricane when I responded to this thread. I don't like people who are over the top about anything, really.

[thesheriff443]

Personally I was thinking of the kind of people who insist that the world is a wonderful place after their house has been destroyed in a hurricane when I responded to this thread. I don't like people who are over the top about anything, really.

people like my family where all killed, but the vicar did a lovely service!.

oakaly doakaly:joker:

[smeagol]

i find the ones that seem always happy and outgoing tend to be the most unhappy undeneath

the creepy ones though who try to be overally nice well they creep me out lol

though i trust no one im too cynical l when it comes to people espec nice people .if a girl says she wants to come home with me i dont think ooooh im in woohoo i think hmm whats she up to does she want to rob me or she needs someone to crash lol

[joeysteele]

I generally take a while to trust people but once I do I will do so until they give me reason not to.
So yes I probably would trust the people in the op.

[reece(:]

I don't know, you never know if it's genuine or not at first or if you're not close to them (for example, a few people in my class are like that but I rarely talk to them... so idk) but I don't think people could keep a nice act up every day of the week every week..

[HD]

Regardless of if they're nice or not, I don't trust people full stop. :joker:

Quite sad really!

[reece(:]

Regardless of if they're nice or not, I don't trust people full stop. :joker:

Quite sad really!
/life

[Ammi]

Its a bad day when you don't trust someone because they are happy and/or nice tbh :suspect:

I don't trust people that are constantly loud and try to be centre of attention, like those people that feel the need to tell you how mad they are or how much they don't care what others think of them, those sorts would drop you in the **** if they thought they would get a few minutes attention from it.

I don't have a problem with happy or nice people though no...

..ok, I’m probably over-thinking this but I agree with Josy...I think it’s quite sad that some people are suspicious/wary of anyone that they perceive to be ‘nice’....in my job, I guess I’m ‘programmed’ to see the best/strengths/great things in people, which everyone has...I also see flaws, of course but that’s not what I generally focus on because we all have those and are a balance and mixture in our personalities etc...it’s kind of a half full/half empty thing, I think...you can either ‘see’ the great stuff or ‘see’ the irritating stuff, either way it doesn’t matter because both things will be there... people will be the same no matter how you perceive them to be but for me, it’s a ‘no brainer’ to concentrate more on the great things in people....that doesn’t mean that it blinds me to the ‘irritating’ stuff either, I just don’t see the benefits of ‘pointing out’ things or contributing to people feeling bad about themselves in any way, I think we all pretty much do a good enough job of feeling like that on our own, without anyone else’s help...but I do think that because humans often don't see the great things in themselves and are too self-critical generally, it's a good thing to tell people when you think they're pretty amazing...

[Kizzy]

I don't think it's a case of being negative or cynical, I see it as being quite astute to use your instincts to guide you. It's quite natural to be wary when
some display behaviours that are false. Intuitively it puts your hackles up when you percieve fake emotions / friendship/ concern masquerading as genuine on any level.
I wouldn't ever be gullible enough to take someone at face value, however if someone is genuinely happy it shines out.

[Natalie.]

I always try to see the good in people, I don't hate that people are happy around me I'm glad they are happy. I just don't like it when people are over the top nice to me because it doesn't seem genuine, from past experience it sometimes hasn't been. I'm probably too nice to people sometimes though..

[Lee.]

Why the hell wouldn't you trust nice, happy people?? I try to surround myself with happy, content, positive people as I find cynical, grumpy guts who suck the fun out of everything bad for my soul.

[joeysteele]

Why the hell wouldn't you trust nice, happy people?? I try to surround myself with happy, content, positive people as I find cynical, grumpy guts who suck the fun out of everything bad for my soul.

Well said, great post Lee.

[Kizzy]

Have I misinterpreted the OP?
When someone says 'overly nice' I get an image of a permatanned, fixed grin American stylee customer services person...
Ain't nobody got time fo that! :laugh:

[Kyle]

Have I misinterpreted the OP?
When someone says 'overly nice' I get an image of a permatanned, fixed grin American stylee customer services person...
Ain't nobody got time fo that! :laugh:

Yeh that's what I saw too. Like I said first time there's nothing wrong with happy people, they are great but there's also that type of over the top nice that is so obviously patronising it's gut wrenching. I think that's the type Smeagol was on about.

[arista]

omg no my tutor at college is always happy and jolly and everyone loves her but I think shes fake



You need to see her playing GTA5

[Kizzy]

Yep, for most it's glaringly obvious when sentiment isn't genuine.

[Natalie.]

Have I misinterpreted the OP?
When someone says 'overly nice' I get an image of a permatanned, fixed grin American stylee customer services person...
Ain't nobody got time fo that! :laugh:

Yeah I was thinking this too

[Jemal]

I dont trust anyone..

/close thread

[Kyle]

I dont trust anyone..

/close thread

There's an overly happy bastard right there! :wink:

[Jemal]

But i still love callum and that but i guess you can get his type of nice that he was in the big brother house and you can just get the normal nice.

I would say the overly nice that callum was? Is more hard to trust.

[Jemal]

There's an overly happy bastard right there! :wink:

:joker:
Im a sad bastard

[Kyle]

:joker:
Im a sad bastard

:joker:

Nah your sound mate.

[Jemal]

:joker:

Nah your sound mate.

:worship:

[Kizzy]

Look at this overly nice exchange... #bromance :laugh:

[Kyle]

Look at this overly nice exchange... #bromance :laugh:

Definitely patronising Kizzy. Your overtly niceness doesn't fool me! :cloud:

[Jemal]

Look at this overly nice exchange... #bromance :laugh:

:joker:

[Kizzy]

Definitely patronising Kizzy. Your overtly niceness doesn't fool me! :cloud:

Aw I'm not patronising you, it's lovely.. :love:

[Kyle]

Aw I'm not patronising you, it's lovely.. :love:

This thread is too happy and nice for my liking look what you've done Smeagol. :nono:

[thesheriff443]

Why the hell wouldn't you trust nice, happy people?? I try to surround myself with happy, content, positive people as I find cynical, grumpy guts who suck the fun out of everything bad for my soul.

most of us are not on about genuine nice friends, we are talking about some that do it for other reasons.

[Jesus.]

I think people should get the benefit of the doubt. We're all different - I don't think anyone would accuse me of being overly nice, but I'm confident enough in myself to not feel threatened that other people are nice.

The people to be wary of are the ones that go from best friend to slagging people off in about 2.5 minutes. Genuinely nice people just don't do that.

[Kizzy]

most of us are not on about genuine nice friends, we are talking about some that do it for other reasons.

Not that kaz, she just bums everyone to be popular :idc:

[Stu]

I think people should get the benefit of the doubt. We're all different - I don't think anyone would accuse me of being overly nice, but I'm confident enough in myself to not feel threatened that other people are nice.

The people to be wary of are the ones that go from best friend to slagging people off in about 2.5 minutes. Genuinely nice people just don't do that.
Bingo. I have a few friends who never want to talk about books, movies, their views on things or anything. Their sole interest seemingly is just ... talking about people. I hate that. It's like there is absolutely nothing more to their existence than sending the "drinks?" text, talking about people, getting drunk, putting the pics on Facebook etc.

I find it so dull. That's why I generally get on better drinking with my dads friends. I don't seem to get along with people my own age a whole lot and find nothing to talk about with them.

But yeah this thread reminds me that I'm a surprisingly trusting person. I usually take to people straight away and even if I have an inkling that they're capable of talking about me behind my back later I don't get offended because I just chalk it up to the nature of the ego, so to speak.

There was a period for a few years where I pretended I enjoyed it all, yeah, but it involved me having to drink loads to get there.

[thesheriff443]

Not that kaz, she just bums everyone to be popular :idc:

:shocked:, but she is friends with you:shocked:, so it must be true:shocked::joker::joker::joker:

[Kizzy]

:shocked:, but she is friends with you:shocked:, so it must be true:shocked::joker::joker::joker:

She's a very good judge of character actually :D

[Z]

I genuinely don't like people whose main attribute is "oh they're nice" - because there is nothing else to say about them. I don't mind "oh Rachel's nice, she does lots of charity work and she lets homeless people stay in her guest bedroom" - Rachel sounds like a stand up gal. What I don't like is "Steve's a nice guy. Yep. Doesn't talk much, mind, but he's nice. Doesn't have an opinion on anything, but he's a swell guy." I can't talk to people who are so "nice" they're afraid to express an interest or opinion in anything for fear of somebody taking issue with it.

[Kizzy]

that's an interesting take on it zee, good point.

[Stu]

Oh dull people can suck on one. It's even worse because you're not allowed to rib on them because their niceness is perceived as being some sort of get out of jail free card. Ol' Johnny who doesn't question his job or place and just likes pleasing his equally vacuous girlfriend and watching the footie. It's all alright with this world if I can watch my team win this Sunday lol. Can't wait to get married, have kids and die.

I'm reading Generation X too much again.

[Z]

I had a friend when I lived in Germany who fell into the latter category. Really nice girl, but she was so timid and afraid to have an opinion on ANYTHING that it got a bit frustrating. We're talking along the lines of "what do you want to order?" "oh I don't mind, just whatever everyone else is having!" - this is your dinner we're talking about. This is your choice to make. You can't crowd please all the time!

[Z]

Oh dull people can suck on one. It's even worse because you're not allowed to rib on them because their niceness is perceived as being some sort of get out of jail free card. Ol' Johnny who doesn't question his job or place and just likes pleasing his equally vacuous girlfriend and watching the footie. It's all alright with this world if I can watch my team win this Sunday lol. Can't wait to get married, have kids and die.

I'm reading Generation X too much again.

Exactly! That's the kind of people I perceived this thread to be talking about. They're so "nice" that you can't say anything to the contrary because it's akin to calling a baby ugly or something.

[Stu]

Circle jerks of life.

[Jesus.]

Exactly! That's the kind of people I perceived this thread to be talking about. They're so "nice" that you can't say anything to the contrary because it's akin to calling a baby ugly or something.

I think nice people, and those that refuse to express an opinion are different subsets. Probably more of a Venn diagram relationship between nice and malleable. Definite crossover, but not a defining characteristic.

[Z]

I think nice people, and those that refuse to express an opinion are different subsets. Probably more of a Venn diagram relationship between nice and malleable. Definite crossover, but not a defining characteristic.

I think you're right, but those people are always called nice by default because there's nothing else to say about them - hence the confusion in this thread, even. I'd never thought about it like that before, that's a good way of explaining those kinds of people.

[Livia]

Nice, to me, means receptive, respectful, open, polite, interested... any more than that when I first meet someone and I think they're trying to be more than they are. Also, anyone who wants to hug or kiss me, invade my personal space or who are overly familiar when I first meet them are damned forever in my eyes.

[Kizzy]

I think you're right, but those people are always called nice by default because there's nothing else to say about them - hence the confusion in this thread, even. I'd never thought about it like that before, that's a good way of explaining those kinds of people.

Haha! zee you ledge.... You actually make me want to be described as anything but 'nice' but that's not possible... is it?