So yeah, I need some advice

[Benjamin]

It's been a while since I have been on a date and I am trying to set some up for the start of next year but I kind of just need some reassurance to kick me in to gear as I have a few hangups with guys due to past relationships.

So yeah, please help. :blush:

[Jake.]

You can do it Bruce

[Pete.]

With your wit and charm the world is your oyster

[Vicky.]

My advice is not to bother with 'dates'. Just go out, and if you meet someone you meet someone, just plan on going maybe to the pub or something a few days later. Or get with one of your already 'acquaintances/friend group'

[Jack.]

It's been a while since I have been on a date and I am trying to set some up for the start of next year but I kind of just need some reassurance to kick me in to gear as I have a few hangups with guys due to past relationships.

So yeah, please help. :blush:

Ben your a lovely guy. Anyone would be lucky to have you :)

[Benjamin]

My advice is not to bother with 'dates'. Just go out, and if you meet someone you meet someone, just plan on going maybe to the pub or something a few days later. Or get with one of your already 'acquaintances/friend group'

Yeah, but being gay it's a lot harder to do that and meet guys unless I go the gay bars and that usually attracts the wrong type of attention.

[Jessica.]

Try to be confident, but not cocky. Try to be comfortable with yourself and the situation. Don't be scared to say how you are feeling and most of all, just be yourself.

[Z]

Someone I know takes dates out with their group of friends to the pub so that they can chat one on one but also be part of a group in case it's not meant to be and then if after a few dates at the pub with friends they still seem fine then they go on proper dates. Seems to work for her.

[thesheriff443]

ben , firstly stop thinking to much, good dates bad dates, have fun.

[Marsh.]

Get on ****me.com and make a profile.

[Vicky.]

Yeah, but being gay it's a lot harder to do that and meet guys unless I go the gay bars and that usually attracts the wrong type of attention.

Hmm. I forget that everywheres not like here. We seems to have more gay people than straight ones in gateshead so there would be no need to go to the gay bars (which funnily enough, have more straights than gays :D) :laugh:

[Z]

I just think of dates as good practise for your people skills. Don't pretend you're something you're not, don't lie about yourself, just talk about what interests you and find out what interests your date - be an active listener. Ask them questions, ask them follow up questions to whatever they've just said... it's surprising how many people aren't capable of doing that.

[thesheriff443]

Hmm. I forget that everywheres not like here. We seems to have more gay people than straight ones in gateshead so there would be no need to go to the gay bars (which funnily enough, have more straights than gays :D) :laugh:

ben would be the only gay in a gay club.
that's why he is getting no action.

[thesheriff443]

I just think of dates as good practise for your people skills. Don't pretend you're something you're not, don't lie about yourself, just talk about what interests you and find out what interests your date - be an active listener. Ask them questions, ask them follow up questions to whatever they've just said... it's surprising how many people aren't capable of doing that.

zee, he should tell them his nick name is dyson, because he has no loss of suction!, and he goes down faster than keys down a drain.

[Benjamin]

I don't do sex on first dates anymore. :nono:

[thesheriff443]

I don't do sex on first dates anymore. :nono:

you would if I was your date, :shocked:

[Vicky.]

How are you planning to actually find dates? Like..through people you know, or dating websites and stuff?

If its the second then theres not really much avoiding that awkward first date thing (after that you could suggest meeting with groups of friends) but if its the first you could skip right to groups..which is so much easier.

[Marcus.]

just try to be yourself

[Marc]

Don't do it

[Marsh.]

Yeah, die alone.

[Natalie.]

Have fun with people and try not to worry

[Z]

With your track record Ben I think we'd better start scouting retirement homes

[Vicky.]

Says he who would probably accidentally stab his date in the eye by leaning on a fork at the wrong time or something :whistle:

[Benjamin]

With your track record Ben I think we'd better start scouting retirement homes

I prefer older guys by a few years now, lol.

[smeagol]

go drunk. dress smart bright yellow everything. and refer to yourself in the third person
or stay at home get a load of cats lol

[Z]

Says he who would probably accidentally stab his date in the eye by leaning on a fork at the wrong time or something :whistle:

We're not discussing my tragic love life (yes you're right)

[Glenn.]

Greg whats it like to have your life?

[MTVN]

G'wan big Ben

[Glenn.]

Be yourself Ben. That's all you can do really. I don't tend to do dates because they are just effort.

You seem to have a busy life, and you're hot. They go hand in hand really. Don't go looking for something to happen, let it come to you at its own accord.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

You're good looking, seem like a fun, nice guy, maybe I'm naiive but gay dating is the same as hetero dating? If you want a quick fling, zhe club, if you want potential partner, go to places you enjoy museums, I don't know wherever you like to meet like minded people. there are plenty of gay guys open nowadays so finding them is as hard as it used to be I think.

On the date be yourself. If you begin by being someone you're not then you actually like to person then you have to keep up pretence of who you pretended to be, or if you show who you really like they might not dig you. Just be yourself.

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[Jessica.]

big Ben

:evilgrin: