Does having and bringing up children make you a better more rounded person?

[Crimson Dynamo]

In general?

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thoughts?

[Smithy]

Obviously not

[Crimson Dynamo]

Obviously not

or your nasty and somewhat inevitable comment confirms?

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x

[Vicky.]

I don't know...it certainly calmed down my temper and made me more...understanding about things. I have a hell of a lot more patience now also. So...maybe?

[Crimson Dynamo]

I don't know...it certainly calmed down my temper and made me more...understanding about things. I have a hell of a lot more patience now also. So...maybe?

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Queen of redemption

[Babayaro.]

Yes. The little buggers do wind me up something awful, but I couldn't live without them xX

[Shaun]

Makes you a bit rounder for 9 months I suppose

[AnnieK]

Just having a child does not make you more rounded at all. In an ideal world I guess it would but there are too many unwanted unloved and neglected children to assume that just having a child makes you more rounded. Some people step up.....others dont

[Crimson Dynamo]

Makes you a bit rounder for 9 months I suppose

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also god bless the tit fairy

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[arista]

Yes LT

It Does

[arista]

Yes. The little buggers do wind me up something awful, but I couldn't live without them xX

How Nice

[Jamie89]

I don't have kids so I don't know, but I'd guess that suddenly having a huge responsibility like that would force you to be more, well, responsible. I don't know about 'better as a person' though, you hear plenty of stories about awful people who are parents so it can't be as simple as that. Probably what Annie said about some stepping up and others not, it probably just depends on the person.

[smudgie]

Not necessarily.
Good, bad, rounded and not in both camps.
It might be fulfilling for some and some might consider it a nightmare.
It has certainly grounded me,

[ebandit]

Obviously not


you're correct................look at myself.........no kids...........no future

no moral compass.................

...........carefree and happy................................

Mark L

[Cherie]

It rounds you if you embrace parenthood, if you don't then you stay the same ...

[Black Dagger]

No

[Rogan Josh]

I don't know...it certainly calmed down my temper and made me more...understanding about things. I have a hell of a lot more patience now also. So...maybe?

I can relate to all that, but many's the time I could have lost my temper, but didn't just acted the serious dad thing and it worked, every time, well almost every time, but all in all if I could live it all over again, I would :bawling:

[Wizard.]

not necassarily there's mira hindley and helen wood.

[thesheriff443]

Some people should never be allowed to have kids.
Having a child or children with disabilities is far more of test as a parent then having kids that are healthy.
I consider myself to be a good parent but I'm far from perfect, making mistakes is part of life, if you do the best you can with what you have then that makes you a good parent.
You never stop being a parent.

[Deirdre]

I'd like to think so. I can't wait to have kids for these reasons and more. They give you hope and purpose for the future.

[Marsh.]

Having children makes you human, most people can do that. It doesn't take much.

Bringing children up is a task that can contribute to the person you are and round you out of course.

Make you more of a person than someone who doesn't have kids? No.

[Northern Monkey]

Well it certainly changes you.Makes you realise what's important in life,calms you down if you were a party animal,Gives you more responsibility than you've ever had before,You can't be selfish anymore.There's no slacking off or quitting.It's a career.Not sure if it makes you more rounded.

[Withano]

Lots of terrorists have kids.

[Kizzy]

Having kids might make you reevaluate your life and make better choices, not sure that equates to you being a better person generally.
It's a commitment that will make or break you for sure.

[VanessaFeltz.]

I think it makes some people into better people however i dont think everyone should be a mother or motherhood contributes everyone.

We have obvious reasons of good results of motherhood so lets skip that

For bad reasons, i think a lot of women lose their identity after giving birth and they go from being Melanie to Mark's mother. They always talk about their kids, post pictures of them.. When you ask them what about you they cant give an answer and when their kids go to uni etc they kinda go into depression.

Women&men become way more responsible and calmer.. but is that really a good thing? Sure it is a good thing in a way because you have to take care of your baby you gave a birth to. But i dont like the fact that society forces you to have babies and basically want you to live under same rules and become same sorts of people and i think thats sad, diversity is very much needed and i think too many people are having kids. Life should not be about one way of living.

I am gonna have a development psychology this semester so i think i will have a better answer in couple of months

[Livia]

If simply popping out a child made you a better, more rounded person, the care system would be defunct. If a child is going to be neglected or abused it's a good chance that the abuser will be one or both of its parents. Children who are murdered are more likely to be murdered by a parent. I know plenty of parents who are not what I would describe as "rounded" and plenty who are. Same with people who don't have kids. How about people who desperately want a child and are not able? Are they doomed to be considered slightly less than someone who's had a late-night knee trembler up against the bins which produced a child? How about women who adopt? Are they never going to be good mothers because they didn't carry them for nine months?

Like I've said before... I don't have kids, but I have three nieces, and if you want to see real maternal instincts, lay a hand on one of them and see what happens.

[Niamh.]

What Livia said ^

[Cal.]

Yes. My gorgeous boys have changed me.

[Mystic Mock]

No all it means is that they have a higher tolerance for children, but the individual could still be a nastier individual than someone who doesn't want kids.

[Glenn.]

Only if the children you're bringing up are decent members of society. The kids I've seen around here aren't that.

[user104658]

Only if the children you're bringing up are decent members of society. The kids I've seen around here aren't that.
It has to be the other way around, surely :joker:. "Well I thought I would become a more rounded person but sadly, I got a crap kid. Little arsehole. Didn't improve me at all!"

[Cherie]

It has to be the other way around, surely :joker:. "Well I thought I would become a more rounded person but sadly, I got a crap kid. Little arsehole. Didn't improve me at all!"

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