Christmas Party Dilemma

[Niamh.]

I heard this on a radio show earlier and it's a tough one, what would you do?

So you work with couple who met in the job, are married and have a kid together. You get on well with them both. It's the work Christmas party and they can't get a baby sitter so the husband goes to the party and the wife stays home with the kid. At the Christmas party you see the husband in the corner kissing some girl. What do you do? Tell the wife? Say something to the husband? or pretend you saw nothing? Or something else?

*for arguments sake, we'll say you know them pretty well and are very friendly with them both (but not best buddies like your out of work friends)

[Cherie]

I would mind my own business, people behaving out of character at Christmas parties is not unheard of, he might be full of remorse afterwards and she might not take kindly to any intervention, plus if I don't know them well, they might have an open relationship, I still have to work with them even after they have possibly made up so it might cause friction at work that I could do without so I'm keeping well out of it :hee:

[Marsh.]

I'd send her an anonymous letter and a photograph of the dirty bugger.

[Crimson Dynamo]

say nowt, other peoples lives are none of your business

[caprimint]

say nowt, other peoples lives are none of your business
This, usually when you interfere it only looks bad on you anyway

[Smithy]

If you’re friends with the man you’d ask him what he was doing, if you’re friends with the woman, tell her

[Crimson Dynamo]

If you’re friends with the man you’d ask him what he was doing, if you’re friends with the woman, tell her

If you are pals with the man you would more likely say "did you shag her?" and then perch for the details

[Nicky91]

If you are pals with the man you would more likely say "did you shag her?" and then perch for the details

:facepalm: awkward if you'd really ask this

[Smithy]

If you are pals with the man you would more likely say "did you shag her?" and then perch for the details

I’m not a trash human, so no, I wouldn’t ask that :)

[Denver]

Join in

[Crimson Dynamo]

I’m not a trash human, so no, I wouldn’t ask that :)

Its what men do. sorry if this is breaking news

[Nicky91]

Its what men do. sorry if this is breaking news

LT exposed as a trash human :omgno: :fan:

[Smithy]

Its what men do. sorry if this is breaking news

Certainly what trash men do!

[Crimson Dynamo]

Certainly what trash men do!

you seem to have a good working knowledge so I will bow to your expertise of this type of man..

[Marsh.]

If you are pals with the man you would more likely say "did you shag her?" and then perch for the details

I'd ask "Did you shag her?" and then if the answer was yes I'd re-evaluate our friendship status.

[Crimson Dynamo]

there isnt a man alive who would not think

"oh brilliant this will be top goss and scandal for tomorrow" and high-five themselves

espesh if she was a munter

[Marsh.]

LT one of the backward thinking who believe men can't help themselves and can't control their urges when it comes to sex?

Only scum make the choice to cheat on a partner.

If you want to shag about, stay single.

[Nicky91]

there isnt a man alive who would not think

"oh brilliant this will be top goss and scandal for tomorrow" and high-five themselves

espesh if she was a munter

what's a munter :conf:

[Crimson Dynamo]

It reminds me of when I hired a wee lassie from Crieff and she was ever so posh and bright and i was well pleased with the hire. FF 3 weeks later to the Christmas party when she got hammered and called the MD of Capital radio a c unt very loudly and aggressively, I could even see Tony Blackburn wince.

I also recall a girl in my team (diff company) wanking off the Commercial Director at a Christmas party and he was married with kids and she was going out with a pal of mine.

All part of the magic of Christmas

[Nicky91]

It reminds me of when I hired a wee lassie from Crieff and she was ever so posh and bright and i was well pleased with the hire. FF 3 weeks later to the Christmas party when she got hammered and called the MD of Capital radio a c unt very loudly and aggressively, I could even see Tony Blackburn wince.

I also recall a girl in my team (diff company) wanking off the Commercial Director at a Christmas party and he was married with kids and she was going out with a pal of mine.

All part of the magic of Christmas

is that the TL :suspect:

[Crimson Dynamo]

is that the TL :suspect:

No she would have hit him as well and then wanked off Tony Blackburn in the loos

[Nicky91]

No she would have hit him as well and then wanked off Tony Blackburn in the loos

what, is your TL a WWE fighting girl :amazed:

[Smithy]

you seem to have a good working knowledge so I will bow to your expertise of this type of man..

What can I say, there’s a lot of them on this site so I guess I’m just used to it by now

[LukeB]

even though i wouldn't want the family to split up because of the kid i will still have to tell her because it would be bugging me a lot. it seems unfair on the woman not knowing the truth and she deserves better (same goes to if the woman was cheating on the man). If that woman ever found out and knew you knew for ages then she will be pissed with you so it will be awkward and tense every work shift you have with them.

[Crimson Dynamo]

What can I say, there’s a lot of them on this site so I guess I’m just used to it by now

harsh on marsh

[Nicky91]

harsh on marsh

she didn't mention anyone hun ;)

[Crimson Dynamo]

she didn't mention anyone hun ;)

she?

Smithy isnt a girl

:joker:

[smudgie]

I would keep quiet and put it down to a drunken snog, but I would watch them for a few weeks to see if anything else happens then have a word in his ear and probably have a word with the female colleague as well.
Depends totally on the circumstances, the people involved and the possible consequences.

[Beso]

I heard this on a radio show earlier and it's a tough one, what would you do?

So you work with couple who met in the job, are married and have a kid together. You get on well with them both. It's the work Christmas party and they can't get a baby sitter so the husband goes to the party and the wife stays home with the kid. At the Christmas party you see the husband in the corner kissing some girl. What do you do? Tell the wife? Say something to the husband? or pretend you saw nothing? Or something else?

*for arguments sake, we'll say you know them pretty well and are very friendly with them both (but not best buddies like your out of work friends)

I would do nothing but wait for my shot.

[Beso]

Edit...next year when its her turn.

[Niamh.]

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

[Crimson Dynamo]

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wife

[Cherie]

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

Yes, the couple in the OP are work colleagues, if the couple were friends I would have a word with him

[Marsh.]

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wife

Yet the same two blokes would act all indignant were the wives to do the same to them.

Always makes me laugh when you get those kind of blokes who are like "it's just sex. Doesn't mean anything, why do women get all angry about it!" yet they're always the ones who would commit murder were they to discover their missus banging somebody behind their back.

20 years ago my dad was one "It's only skin! Who gives a sh*t! Doesn't mean anything!" yet the first false suspicion that my mum was playing away and he'd literally have the knives out.

[Niamh.]

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wifeObviously I meant a close friend of the cheated on person

[caprimint]

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?
I'd probably talk to them about it, but still wouldn't actually do anything

[Vicky.]

None of my business.

Only way I would say something is if she was one of my best mates.

[Beso]

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wife

Jamesie Cotter would.

[smudgie]

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

My best friend of over 35 years has just been to bring Xmas card and have a good old natter.
Many years ago she split with her husband because he had an affair, they got back together and were trying to make a go of it.
I found out the night before we left our old house that my sil had slept with best friends hubby some 10 or 11 years prior..I seriously had to think long and hard about telling her.
I decided not to as they were making big efforts to work it out, they did actually eventually divorce but I still refrained from telling her, I can't see the point of hurting her and turning the knife after all these years.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Yet the same two blokes would act all indignant were the wives to do the same to them.

Always makes me laugh when you get those kind of blokes who are like "it's just sex. Doesn't mean anything, why do women get all angry about it!" yet they're always the ones who would commit murder were they to discover their missus banging somebody behind their back.

20 years ago my dad was one "It's only skin! Who gives a sh*t! Doesn't mean anything!" yet the first false suspicion that my mum was playing away and he'd literally have the knives out.

Marsh we get the whole dad hating thing , it's not about you

[Amy Jade]

Probably forget I saw it unless I was close to the person being cheated on

[bots]

i never get involved in others relationships as there is a very good chance the bringer of news will get blamed for the whole mess by both sides

[Natalie.]

I probably would say something yeah

[AnnieK]

Its a really difficult one. On one hand I wouldn't want to rock the boat, on the other im fiercely protective of my friends and if he had been kissing someone in plain sight so everyone would know apart from my friend sat at home babysitting so he could have a good time I would have to think hard about what to do. Would prefer she heard it from a friend than the office gossip.

[thesheriff443]

Well clearly me and Lt think the same on this subject, I would be to busy in the bosses office giving my misses a hard time on the bosses desk to care who was kiss who.

[Marsh.]

Marsh we get the whole dad hating thing , it's not about you

Who said it was?

Do you not like being called out for the hypocrite you are?

[Marsh.]

Well clearly me and Lt think the same on this subject, I would be to busy in the bosses office giving my misses a hard time on the bosses desk to care who was kiss who.

You're clearly not the same, as whilst you're giving your lovely wife a seeing to, LT is cheating on his.

[thesheriff443]

You're clearly not the same, as whilst you're giving your lovely wife a seeing to, LT is cheating on his.

He is not cheating, what he is saying is what men do, we are not to blame for other men cheating,

[Marsh.]

He is not cheating, what he is saying is what men do, we are not to blame for other men cheating,

No, he said "It's what men do" that's saying he believes cheating isn't wrong and it's a natural part of being a man.

Which is fine if that's his opinion on it, but would he extend the same courtesy to his lady friend and allow her to go off and ride all the cock she wants?

[thesheriff443]

No, he said "It's what men do" that's saying he believes cheating isn't wrong and it's a natural part of being a man.

Which is fine if that's his opinion on it, but would he extend the same courtesy to his lady friend and allow her to go off and ride all the cock she wants?

Men and women cheat and some kill their partner or the person who they cheated with it don't stop people cheating, but most people don't get involved, in other people lives.

The police will tell you never get involved on a domestic as the person who tries to help normally gets attacked from the woman and the man.

[Wizard.]

I’d send out a tweet saying:

Is you husbands name Bernard? I’ve just seen him necking off with Lauren at the Christmas works do. Your welcome

And hope it goes viral.

[Wizard.]

To people saying that they would say nothing, why? If you’re not that close to the wife then why would you care if she hates you for telling her? And if she doesn’t believe you then she deserves it.

[michael21]

I heard this on a radio show earlier and it's a tough one, what would you do?

So you work with couple who met in the job, are married and have a kid together. You get on well with them both. It's the work Christmas party and they can't get a baby sitter so the husband goes to the party and the wife stays home with the kid. At the Christmas party you see the husband in the corner kissing some girl. What do you do? Tell the wife? Say something to the husband? or pretend you saw nothing? Or something else?

*for arguments sake, we'll say you know them pretty well and are very friendly with them both (but not best buddies like your out of work friends)

Was the girl in the corner because she a bad girl :evilgrin:

[Cherie]

To people saying that they would say nothing, why? If you’re not that close to the wife then why would you care if she hates you for telling her? And if she doesn’t believe you then she deserves it.

Because in the OP scenario you work with them both, who knows how difficult life could be made for you, best to stay out of it if you don't know them, one or both could be psychotic, and invoving yourself in someones business that you don't care about is a bit strange

[Marsh.]

Men and women cheat and some kill their partner or the person who they cheated with it don't stop people cheating, but most people don't get involved, in other people lives.

The police will tell you never get involved on a domestic as the person who tries to help normally gets attacked from the woman and the man.

This has nothing to do with what was actually said. It wasn't about whether it's the right thing to tell them or get involved with someone else's life.

It was about the use of the phrase "It's what men do". As though it's impossible for them to fight an urge to be a twat.

[Amy Jade]

To people saying that they would say nothing, why? If you’re not that close to the wife then why would you care if she hates you for telling her? And if she doesn’t believe you then she deserves it.

In the scenario suggested I work with both, drama at work is the worst I would rather keep out of it and just get on with my job rather than have people angry with me or make me feel awkward for the whole day

[thesheriff443]

This has nothing to do with what was actually said. It wasn't about whether it's the right thing to tell them or get involved with someone else's life.

It was about the use of the phrase "It's what men do". As though it's impossible for them to fight an urge to be a twat.

That's a well known phrase, like lads will be lads, its not impossible to resist temptation, I don't think Lt saying that phrase in the context of this thread makes him a cheat.

[Marsh.]

That's a well known phrase, like lads will be lads, its not impossible to resist temptation, I don't think Lt saying that phrase in the context of this thread makes him a cheat.

I never said it did. I said I find a lot of time the people who hold those views to be hypocrites as they don't think the same when they are the injured party.

Yes, it is a well known phrase, of course it is. Doesn't make what it stands for any less archaic and nonsense. But I think most people would agree with that.

I suppose my last post to him was a jibe, as his was to me. That's just mine and LT's way. :hee:

[caprimint]

To people saying that they would say nothing, why? If you’re not that close to the wife then why would you care if she hates you for telling her? And if she doesn’t believe you then she deserves it.
It's not about being 'hated', it's just none of my business :shrug:

[Crimson Dynamo]

In the scenario suggested I work with both, drama at work is the worst I would rather keep out of it and just get on with my job rather than have people angry with me or make me feel awkward for the whole day

yep, all the brave souls saying they would say something my arse

i doubt a single soul in this thread would open their gob, they may tell a mate but thats all

:joker:

[thesheriff443]

I never said it did. I said I find a lot of time the people who hold those views to be hypocrites as they don't think the same when they are the injured party.

Yes, it is a well known phrase, of course it is. Doesn't make what it stands for any less archaic and nonsense. But I think most people would agree with that.

I suppose my last post to him was a jibe, as his was to me. That's just mine and LT's way. :hee:

Its what men do!

[Josy]

I would take a pic and print out enlarged copies, plaster them all over the office, contact his partner and rat him out, cheating scum and if the girl had a partner I would rat her out too. :hee:

[Kazanne]

I would keep my mouth shut,it could be just a drunken act and telling the person could hurt so many lives unnecessarily.

[thesheriff443]

yep, all the brave souls saying they would say something my arse

i doubt a single soul in this thread would open their gob, they may tell a mate but thats all

:joker:

You can be anyone you like on the internet, story time for adults.

[thesheriff443]

I would take a pic and print out enlarged copies, plaster them all over the office, contact his partner and rat him out, cheating scum and if the girl had a partner I would rat her out too. :hee:

Then you would get the sack and a restraining order

[Josy]

Then you would get the sack and a restraining order

Not at all, how would anyone know it was me?

[thesheriff443]

Not at all, how would anyone know it was me?

You where seen printing out the photos on the copier.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Id take a pic of Josy photocopying the pics and plaster that all over head office and the local Tesco

no one likes a grass

[thesheriff443]

Id take a pic of Josy photocopying the pics and plaster that all over head office and the local Tesco

no one likes a grass

Grassing on a grass, see wot idone there Lt!

[Crimson Dynamo]

I’d send out a tweet saying:

Is you husbands name Bernard? I’ve just seen him necking off with Lauren at the Christmas works do. Your welcome

And hope it goes viral.

Bernard?

[thesheriff443]

Bernard?

Yes, Bernard morecock from accounts

[thesheriff443]

Cheap shirts, cuts is own hair that Bernard, come Lt keep up.

[Matthew.]

there isnt a man alive who would not think

"oh brilliant this will be top goss and scandal for tomorrow" and high-five themselves

espesh if she was a munter

The thing I hated most about high school was hearing the disgusting and disrespectful lad behaviour, such as calling girls “birds” and commenting on their appearance just to come across as the big cheese

[thesheriff443]

The thing I hated most about high school was hearing the disgusting and disrespectful lad behaviour, such as calling girls “birds” and commenting on their appearance just to come across as the big cheese

They are hardly going to be talking about hair and make up.

[Smithy]

The thing I hated most about high school was hearing the disgusting and disrespectful lad behaviour, such as calling girls “birds” and commenting on their appearance just to come across as the big cheese

LT does it to compensate for the fact he has a micropenis, just ignore him tbh

[thesheriff443]

The most likely out come of this dilemma is, if you have a partner you tell them what you saw and say, just stay out of it.

[Nicky91]

LT does it to compensate for the fact he has a micropenis, just ignore him tbh

:clap1: :clap1: :clap1:

[Crimson Dynamo]

The thing I hated most about high school was hearing the disgusting and disrespectful lad behaviour, such as calling girls “birds” and commenting on their appearance just to come across as the big cheese

same

disgusten

[Crimson Dynamo]

The most likely out come of this dilemma is, if you have a partner you tell them what you saw and say, just stay out of it.

yep

[thesheriff443]

LT does it to compensate for the fact he has a micropenis, just ignore him tbh

That's right, you and him are life time members of the micro penis club.

[Crimson Dynamo]

LT does it to compensate for the fact he has a micropenis, just ignore him tbh

and thats one micropenis you will never see you Guernsey bumpkin

:hee:

[Crimson Dynamo]

wait, delete the cockpics

:oh:

[thesheriff443]

wait, delete the cockpics

:oh:

I like the one where you put your penis next to a cocktail sausage and no one could guess which was which.

[Matthew.]

They are hardly going to be talking about hair and make up.

What I meant was stuff like “Ugh, that Charlotte tried to speak to me, I was like **** off you’re not even fit, she actually makes me feel sick just looking at her, at least make an effort to look good”

Then if someone tries to speak up on Charlotte’s behalf, they would receive some homophobic abuse which I won’t repeat, even if they weren’t part of the LGBT community, or something like “Just because you fancy her”

[thesheriff443]

What I meant was stuff like “Ugh, that Charlotte tried to speak to me, I was like **** off you’re not even fit, she actually makes me feel sick just looking at her, at least make an effort to look good”

Then if someone tries to speak up on Charlotte’s behalf, they would receive some homophobic abuse which I won’t repeat, even if they weren’t part of the LGBT community, or something like “Just because you fancy her”

Sorry but this is too funny, that's play ground talk, my dad is harder than your dad.

[Crimson Dynamo]

What I meant was stuff like “Ugh, that Charlotte tried to speak to me, I was like **** off you’re not even fit, she actually makes me feel sick just looking at her, at least make an effort to look good”

Then if someone tries to speak up on Charlotte’s behalf, they would receive some homophobic abuse which I won’t repeat, even if they weren’t part of the LGBT community, or something like “Just because you fancy her”

what age are you if you dont mind me asking?

[Crimson Dynamo]

I like the one where you put your penis next to a cocktail sausage and no one could guess which was which.

i drew a smile on my one and you said it was cute so you are lying

:suspect:

[Cherie]

I would take a pic and print out enlarged copies, plaster them all over the office, contact his partner and rat him out, cheating scum and if the girl had a partner I would rat her out too. :hee:

and what if on Monday morning the wife turns up to work, see the photos burst into tears and says he told me on Saturday morning, he was off his head on booze, how could someone be so heartless to broadcast it to the whole office before they came to me :hee:

[thesheriff443]

i drew a smile on my one and you said it was cute so you are lying

:suspect:

I thought you said yours was the one with only one eye?, mind you I had been staring at it for a week by that time.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I thought you said yours was the one with only one eye?, mind you I had been staring at it for a week by that time.

:laugh2:

[Matthew.]

what age are you if you dont mind me asking?

I am 25 years old.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I am 25 years old.

im 28

[Matthew.]

Sorry but this is too funny, that's play ground talk, my dad is harder than your dad.

Not quite the same I don’t think, because saying my dad is harder than your dad isn’t cruel and the dad’s not going to be upset and lose any sleep over that i don’t think

[thesheriff443]

Not quite the same I don’t think, because saying my dad is harder than your dad isn’t cruel and the dad’s not going to be upset and lose any sleep over that i don’t think

But that's part of growing up, girls are far more cruel than boys at school.

[Matthew.]

But that's part of growing up, girls are far more cruel than boys at school.

In my experience, I got along with both girls and boys at school, but I do agree that girls can be more likely to hold a grudge, whereas I am also quite open about the fact that I can give as good as I get and will say when I feel someone is in the wrong.

[Crimson Dynamo]

But that's part of growing up, girls are far more cruel than boys at school.

to be fair to girls they do maintain the cruelty pretty well into adulthood

[thesheriff443]

In my experience, I got along with both girls and boys at school, but I do agree that girls can be more likely to hold a grudge, whereas I am also quite open about the fact that I can give as good as I get and will say when I feel someone is in the wrong.

Well that all that matters.

[Niamh.]

But that's part of growing up, girls are far more cruel than boys at school.

massive generalistion there :/

[Josy]

and what if on Monday morning the wife turns up to work, see the photos burst into tears and says he told me on Saturday morning, he was off his head on booze, how could someone be so heartless to broadcast it to the whole office before they came to me :hee:Everyone deserves to know what a scumbag he is and the wife will be grateful after the initial shock wears off :hee:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Everyone deserves to know what a scumbag he is and the wife will be grateful after the initial shock wears off :hee:

Josy you must have copped off at a Christmas party back in the day?

[Josy]

Josy you must have copped off at a Christmas party back in the day?I've been with Stuart since I was 16 so no :hee:

[Cherie]

In Josy's office the finger of suspicion hangs over the office, innocents are accused and colleagues who previously worked well with each other are at each others throats, social events are cancelled, productivity is down, this rumbles into the New Year when Management finally lose patience, call a team meeting and asks the culprit to step forward

New Dilemma

Does Josy own up :omgno:

[Smithy]

That's right, you and him are life time members of the micro penis club.

Sorry, who are you?

[thesheriff443]

Sorry, who are you?

I'm your father Luke.

[Nicky91]

and thats one micropenis you will never see you Guernsey bumpkin

:hee:

don't be too smug and arrogant LT, it doesn't suit you :fan:

wait, delete the cockpics

:oh:

filth, pure filth


i thought you were against filth :omgno:

[Marsh.]

and what if on Monday morning the wife turns up to work, see the photos burst into tears and says he told me on Saturday morning, he was off his head on booze, how could someone be so heartless to broadcast it to the whole office before they came to me :hee:
He was getting off with her at the Christmas party. Everyone already saw it.